Raising children to prevent aging
people are most afraid of not aging, but an incurable disease.
E's sister-in-law is old, but she is vigorous and healthy. My husband and brother Qing raised cattle, farmed, collected herbs, and housework. They were busy and hard, but they had a tomorrow, direction, and emotion.
Suddenly, Sister-in-law E was sick and was lung cancer.
All the busyness, future and saving money, Yu E's sister-in-law has become illusory. What she really needs is someone to accompany her to see a doctor and normal food, clothing, housing and transportation.
E's sister-in-law wants to go to the city hospital for treatment.
She thinks she is not a serious illness. Her illness may be cured. Maybe she can stay with Brother Qing (her husband) for a few more years. She was worried about her cows, her fields, and Brother Qing, who could not cook or would go hungry if she left. She made an appointment with Brother Qing, and he was going to walk ahead of her, because without her, he would not be able to follow anyone.
However, she couldn't find someone to accompany her to see a doctor. Brother Qing is old and he can't touch the roads in the city, and he will get lost even if he goes to the county town.
, children are busy. The eldest son is engaged in water and electricity decoration, and his business is one after another, so he is really busy; the younger son is the village chief, how can he not be busy? The eldest daughter wants to take care of three grandchildren, so she is naturally busy; the second daughter and the younger daughter are working outside, far away and busy.
More importantly, no one doubted the conclusion of the county hospital, and no one took the initiative to take her to the city hospital for another look.
Sister-in-law also wants a toilet that is the same as my mother uses. Her period of use of the toilet became more and more difficult. She couldn't squat for a long time, and she couldn't get up after squatting down. Her thin and quick body began to go against her, and she was not in control of anything or anywhere.
However, there is no sale on the street.
, except for the daily market streets, she really doesn't know where to buy it, and her ability does not allow her to extend her vision further.
She can't tell her sons about this idea, and her sons will say she is not polite. She didn't dare to tell her that because she was really coughing a few days ago, she went to the street to buy a bottle of honey and prepared to flush water to relieve her cough. She was scolded by her eldest daughter, saying that she bought it randomly and said that the honey on the street was fake and expensive. It’s not easy for the other two daughters to go out, so don’t bother them!
My mother went to visit E's sister-in-law, and E's sister-in-law said these words to my mother. She said, "I don't want them to spend money. I have money. As long as they accompany me to see a doctor and buy me a toilet, I don't know who to look for!"
Brother Qing was also next to me at the time. He smoked cigarettes without saying a word.
I went back to see my mother, and my mother told me these words from Sister E. The eldest sister who stayed in her hometown to take care of her mother also added and sighed. My mother's eyes, voice, and face were full of injustice and sadness. How can
not be sad? In just one year, a few elderly people of the same age as my mother have passed away. Only the younger elderly people who can speak with her are left with sister-in-law. Now that Sister E is ill and is treated like this, you can imagine how my mother feels.
I only remember that when E sister-in-law talks about her daughters and sons, she is full of energy; I only remember that when E sister-in-law makes some delicious food, she will be divided into six portions, and no child will be reluctant to lose it; I only remember that every Spring Festival, E sister-in-law will give 200 yuan red envelopes to each grandchildren; I only remember that every summer vacation, E sister-in-law's grandchildren and grandchildren go to her house for holidays, and E sister-in-law will make delicious food for the children in different ways...
However, today the sick one is Sister-in-law, and the illness is incurable. She has money, eyes, legs, a wife, and a whole family, but her lips are burning and her mouth cannot be heard, so she can only lean on her stick and sigh!
Incurable disease not only indicates hopelessness in the future, but also indicates that everything in the past and present will become dreams and dust, and nothing will be!
E's sister-in-law and her husband have been thrifty and hardworking to make money all their lives. They always thought that saving some money would make a living, but now they realized that what is more terrifying than having no money and incurable diseases is that they have the will but lack the ability.
When I listened to my mother and the others' angrily telling me, I opened Taobao, searched for "old man's toilet", and took a photo of one. The discount was 88 yuan, the style was quite beautiful and the numbers were auspicious.
Sister is embarrassed and said: People have children and daughters, if you buy this, what will her bunch of children think?
I don't know. Because I didn't think about anything myself, and I couldn't think about it well with my emotional intelligence. I just feel that I want to do this, and I have to do this, while my sister-in-law can still use it, and while I can achieve a little wish of a helpless elderly man.
Others, let it go.
Who says, raise a child to prevent old age?
Who said that my daughter is her mother’s little cotton jacket?
