I am Aunt Lin, 62 years old this year, and I have only given birth to one daughter with my husband in this life. I originally thought that after my daughter got married, we old couple could live a leisurely life of traveling around and enjoying the mountains and rivers.
Unexpectedly, I took my wife away after three months.
My daughter married to another place. After my wife left, I was the only one who stayed in the empty house. It's okay during the day, I can go out to play with my old sisters, dance, sing, etc., and I feel very deserted at night.
My daughter was also afraid that I would be lonely, so she called me from time to time and asked me to live there for a while. But their family is not big, and their parents-in-law are still helping her with the children. It is really inconvenient for me to live there. Every time I can't stay for two days, I run back.
That's it. I spent three years alone and had a lonely and deserted life. I had several minor illnesses, fevers, colds, etc. I always treated myself to get medicine, and there was not even a person who poured hot water around me.
Sometimes I think about it, it’s okay to be healthy by myself. It’s really something, but there’s still someone next to me.
Especially after experiencing the incident at the beginning of last year, my mind to insist on being alone until I get old has begun to change.
Because I live alone, I eat irregularly. Sometimes I eat breakfast and lunch together, and sometimes I make some meals in the morning for a day. Over time, the stomach and intestines began to get into problems.
One morning at the beginning of last year, I suddenly felt so painful that I couldn't get up. I barely lie down for a while, but it still couldn't. I called 120 and arrived at the hospital. The doctor said it was acute gastroenteritis, and it would be troublesome if it was late.
I was hospitalized in the hospital for several days and I ran up and down alone. When I was dragging my sick body to pay for the fee to be hospitalized, I was thinking how good it would be to have someone next to me.
As soon as I was discharged from the hospital, I no longer refused to introduce my wife to me. At that time, I was thinking that as long as someone was sick and fainted, I would just send it to the hospital and not let me die and smell at home.
I watched a few blind dates, and I really found a suitable one.
Lao Li retired from an engineer and is 70 years old this year. Perhaps because of his good maintenance, he looks like he is in his early 60s. He heard that his wife had passed away for more than two years, and the children also agreed to find another one.
Lao Li said that his monthly retirement salary is more than 9,000 yuan, which is much higher than mine. He also said that in the future, he would not have to worry about the expenses at home when he finds his wife, and he would at least take out 3,000 as a household subsidy.
I think this man is still very reliable. He is an intellectual, his pension is high, and his children's life is good, so he doesn't need the help of the elderly. The key is that people are generous, not the kind of stingy man.
After being together for several months, we got the certificate and invited the people we knew to have dinner. After a while, we moved together.
The beginning of life was still very stable. He drank tea and played chess every day. I went out to dance and sang songs every day.
Every half month we stayed at a nearby farmhouse for a few days, planting flowers and picking vegetables. Others thought we were the original couple, and we could not tell at all that we were second marriage.
Lao Li also fulfilled his promise and gave me 3,000 yuan a month as daily expenses. I am very satisfied with my current life and feel that I have a settlement in the rest of my life and will not drag my daughter down.
Who knew that after the first two months, Lao Li suddenly took out an account book. He hoped that I could keep the money I spent every day so that he could know the family's spending situation.
I don’t understand, saying that I didn’t remember the account when I was young, and I just spent as much as possible, and I usually don’t spend money randomly.
Lao Li said: "We are old. Although our retirement salary is temporarily enough, we still have to have a plan for spending money. Some people have earned money for their whole lives and have been tossed out a few months before their death."
"I know we will be like this in the future, but at least we try to use our own money and don't bother our children. Spending money has a plan, so that we can be more decent before leaving."
After saying that, Lao Li took out his bank card. He handed me the card and said, "I am older than you, so it is definitely ahead of you."
"This is my bank card, there are 500,000 yuan in it. You hold it, and the password is my birthday. If you really have something to do, you can withdraw the money inside."
I see Lao Li trusting me so much, and I am really grateful. As a remarried couple, it is already very good that he can do this.
Since then, I have started to keep my books every day. But I am born with a carefree personality. In addition, I have a bad memory when I get older. I forget a lot of things when I turn around, so I remember all the accounts.
Lao Li looked at the account book and thought I couldn't remember it. He asked me to remember where I spent the money when I came back from buying vegetables every day. He would also look at the account book one by one in person. If I missed it, I would remind me to make up for it.
Gradually, I felt that Lao Li did not trust me as much as I thought. He gave me 3,000 a month, and basically spent it at this family. Why do you have to reconcile accounts one by one every day?
So one day, I asked him tentatively, my daughter wanted to change to a bigger house, could she ask him to borrow 100,000 yuan.
Lao Li refused at once, saying that he would try to let them find a way for the children. Our money is left to our elderly care, and it is not good for children to get used to it.
Actually, I have already raised enough money my daughter needs, just want to see what Lao Li's attitude towards money is.
Now it seems that Lao Li may not be as generous as I thought.
Thinking that he finally got to this point, and he was able to give me a bank card, it means that he valued me very much. Thinking of this, I think I can still make do with it.
Until recently, because of this bank card, I felt that we could not continue.
This summer, Lao Li suddenly had acute appendicitis . After being sent to the hospital, the doctor suggested removing appendicitis and asked me to go to the hospital first and pay 10,000 yuan in hospital.
I don’t have that much money on me. Fortunately, I thought I could use it before leaving, so I took the card given by Lao Li.
I took the card to pay the fee, but the hospital's charge staff said that my password was wrong. I repeatedly checked it several times but it was still wrong. Only then did I realize that Lao Li gave me a card that I couldn't use.
Thinking of this, I felt cold all over on the hot days. It turned out that Lao Li never trusted me, so he gave me the card, but gave me a fake password. He didn't want me to use his money at all.
After Lao Li was discharged from the hospital, I did not listen to his explanation and directly filed for a divorce. Although we are remarried couples, trust is also the most basic.
Do you think I'm doing it right?
