The reader wrote to me and said:
My husband and I are classmates in sports schools, and our majors are badminton. During our time at school, we were in a relationship. After graduation, we opened a badminton hall, and our income was not as good as we expected, but it earned more than ordinary office workers. Since my husband and I are both from the countryside, buying a house in the city of work has become our short-term goal. However, in addition to daily expenses and filial piety to the elderly on both sides, our income is not much money left every year. Now, the arena has been open for five years and the children are also facing kindergarten, but we still live a life of renting a house. Under this circumstance, the husband is inevitably a little impatient.
Although our daily teaching is mainly primary school students, there are also some adult badminton enthusiasts who have been playing in our stadium for a long time, including some successful men and women. In fact, my husband has also curled with those rich members and finally concluded a truth: sometimes it is useless to curry favor with rich people, because those rich people will not invest in you easily. Despite this, my husband met some non-badminton enthusiasts through dinner with some rich people, including getting to know a bar owner. The other party is in his 50s, a woman of gender, and a foreigner. It was learned from others that the woman had been a fairy girl when she was young and became a good woman for the man she liked, but her marriage life was not happy. She and her husband had divorced after less than five years. Since then, she has lived alone with her children.
My husband is very handsome and has a sweet mouth. Due to long-term physical exercise, his figure looks sexy. Before my husband met the fifty-year-old woman, there was a rich woman showing kindness to my husband. This can be traced back to when we first got married. In the words of her husband at that time, he had no feelings for old women and thought it was very disgusting for men to eat soft food. Now her husband's mentality has changed. It is because he became the lover of the 50-year-old woman for money and did not go home once every ten days or half a month. He was too lazy to even care about the business of the stadium. This led to my physical and mental exhaustion of guarding the stadium every day and picking up and dropping off the children.
At the beginning when my husband and that woman were inseparable, the husband told me this: The woman asked him to be the driver of the woman for a while, and wanted to use this to test her husband's character. If the husband passes the test, the woman plans to give her husband a project worth millions. The real situation is as follows: the woman made it clear to my husband from the beginning of her contact with her husband that she liked my husband very much, but she would not marry my husband. If my husband was willing to be her lover for a year and was on call, she would give my husband 1 million in a year and get together.
My attitude towards this matter: Let my husband leave the woman immediately. My husband's attitude, if you play with that girl for a year, you can earn 1 million yuan, and we will have the money to buy a house. I also want to own our house earlier, but I can't accept using my husband's body to exchange for the house. Now that my husband is still obsessed with it, what should I do?
Muzili Emotional analysis:
When I was in school, many people longed to go to society as soon as possible; after entering society, many talents found that campus life was very beautiful, but making money to support their families is a necessity in life. In the process of making money, it can be said that sentient beings are: being humble, enduring hardships, compromise, keeping the bottom line, and loving money shamelessly. I dare to ask, in today's society, how many people have not become slaves to money? However, not everyone will sell their soul for money, but your husband sells it. When your husband was young, he encountered the temptation of money. At that time, your husband's perception of this matter was: he was not interested in older women and thought it was shameful to eat soft food; now, your husband has become material, or because of reality, he is willing to commit to his own efforts. It can be seen from this that a person's thoughts will determine a person's behavior.
As for now, your husband's obsession with money has reached the point of being obsessed with it. It is indeed a bit difficult to make him turn back at this critical moment. When things happen, there must be a solution.
The reader wrote to me and said:
My husband and I are classmates in sports schools, and our majors are badminton. During our time at school, we were in a relationship. After graduation, we opened a badminton hall, and our income was not as good as we expected, but it earned more than ordinary office workers. Since my husband and I are both from the countryside, buying a house in the city of work has become our short-term goal. However, in addition to daily expenses and filial piety to the elderly on both sides, our income is not much money left every year. Now, the arena has been open for five years and the children are also facing kindergarten, but we still live a life of renting a house. Under this circumstance, the husband is inevitably a little impatient.
Although our daily teaching is mainly primary school students, there are also some adult badminton enthusiasts who have been playing in our stadium for a long time, including some successful men and women. In fact, my husband has also curled with those rich members and finally concluded a truth: sometimes it is useless to curry favor with rich people, because those rich people will not invest in you easily. Despite this, my husband met some non-badminton enthusiasts through dinner with some rich people, including getting to know a bar owner. The other party is in his 50s, a woman of gender, and a foreigner. It was learned from others that the woman had been a fairy girl when she was young and became a good woman for the man she liked, but her marriage life was not happy. She and her husband had divorced after less than five years. Since then, she has lived alone with her children.
My husband is very handsome and has a sweet mouth. Due to long-term physical exercise, his figure looks sexy. Before my husband met the fifty-year-old woman, there was a rich woman showing kindness to my husband. This can be traced back to when we first got married. In the words of her husband at that time, he had no feelings for old women and thought it was very disgusting for men to eat soft food. Now her husband's mentality has changed. It is because he became the lover of the 50-year-old woman for money and did not go home once every ten days or half a month. He was too lazy to even care about the business of the stadium. This led to my physical and mental exhaustion of guarding the stadium every day and picking up and dropping off the children.
At the beginning when my husband and that woman were inseparable, the husband told me this: The woman asked him to be the driver of the woman for a while, and wanted to use this to test her husband's character. If the husband passes the test, the woman plans to give her husband a project worth millions. The real situation is as follows: the woman made it clear to my husband from the beginning of her contact with her husband that she liked my husband very much, but she would not marry my husband. If my husband was willing to be her lover for a year and was on call, she would give my husband 1 million in a year and get together.
My attitude towards this matter: Let my husband leave the woman immediately. My husband's attitude, if you play with that girl for a year, you can earn 1 million yuan, and we will have the money to buy a house. I also want to own our house earlier, but I can't accept using my husband's body to exchange for the house. Now that my husband is still obsessed with it, what should I do?
Muzili Emotional analysis:
When I was in school, many people longed to go to society as soon as possible; after entering society, many talents found that campus life was very beautiful, but making money to support their families is a necessity in life. In the process of making money, it can be said that sentient beings are: being humble, enduring hardships, compromise, keeping the bottom line, and loving money shamelessly. I dare to ask, in today's society, how many people have not become slaves to money? However, not everyone will sell their soul for money, but your husband sells it. When your husband was young, he encountered the temptation of money. At that time, your husband's perception of this matter was: he was not interested in older women and thought it was shameful to eat soft food; now, your husband has become material, or because of reality, he is willing to commit to his own efforts. It can be seen from this that a person's thoughts will determine a person's behavior.
As for now, your husband's obsession with money has reached the point of being obsessed with it. It is indeed a bit difficult to make him turn back at this critical moment. When things happen, there must be a solution.Plan 1: You cannot accept your husband after the change, hold the evidence of his cheating, divorce him, and strive to take down the management rights of the arena and the custody of the children; Plan 2: Your husband is already dirty, and continue to let him dirty for half a year. During this period, you will keep turning a blind eye to his words and deeds. After half a year, you will own your house. Morally speaking, it is indeed a bit difficult for you to choose the second option, but it may not be a choice. My more inclined advice: Divorce. Even if you own your house after half a year and live in a house that makes you feel ashamed, can you feel at ease?
In life, there are indeed some people who can make money after they become bad because of their brighter appearance. Among these people, some people choose to become bad, but more people live hardships and hardships for their reputation because these people know that even if life is fun and hotly discussed by people around them is a torment. There are also some people who do not have the capital to change their destiny through love, but want to change their destiny through love, so they can only sigh. When you get closer to every family, you will find that every family has difficult sutras. Sometimes people feel confused when they are alive, but they don’t want to die. Then regard the awe of life as a reason to live. During this period, we actually have many obstacles: filial piety to our parents and expectations for our children.
Regarding wealth, there is a situation where there are too many wolves and fewer meats in any era, resulting in the distribution of wealth in any era that will present 28 law . This means that 80% of people will be relatively ordinary existences. At this time, some people chose to fight in a state of unwillingness; some people chose to lie flat in a state of helplessness; some people chose to be contented. Even if your husband has one million a year later, if you choose to divorce him, he will feel that he will lose more than he will lose after several years. Even if you indulge your husband's behavior, you will feel that there is a crack in the relationship between you and your husband. For this reason, sometimes having may not be a good thing.
often hear reminders from elders to younger generations: make more money and read more. Making money is to make yourself live a decent life, and studying is to make yourself more open-minded when looking at things. A person's life is divided into two more important frameworks: spiritual wealth and material wealth. Most of the time, we are all subject to material wealth and will work hard. Whether you are happy after work or not is very direct related to your own mentality. When many people's work ability is biased from their understanding of the world, some people who are rich in material levels will be unhappy. I would like to call on everyone: After work, you can read some articles carefully. Inadvertently, your troubles may be solved.
needs to be admitted that at some point, people around you really don’t care about the channels you are making money. As long as you live a wealthier life at the material level, you will get the respect of people around you. When the money you make is not that clean, do you think your lover will feel good? Those marks that leave on you that are related to hurting the couple will become eternal pain in your lover's heart. Especially when your lover is willing to share the joys and sorrows with you, you have gone wrong to gain wealth, which will be devastating to your lover. The result is: In the lover's cognition, whether it is left or not, it is painful.
Postscript:
In this era, too many people's mentality has been distorted, resulting in no matter how much wealth they have in their lives, they cannot gain peace of mind. Maybe because of lack of feelings or because of comparison. I often hear a saying from everyone: love yourself well, or live your own life well and let others talk. But it is very difficult to truly avoid being interfered with by the outside world. For this reason, more and more people regard showing off their wealth as one of the things they value most in life, but ignore the cultivation of their hearts.
People often make mistakes in life: use the life of rich people to bury their lives; they are obviously ordinary people, and they insist on letting their lover give them a pampered life. The result is: The psychological gap is particularly large.Remind everyone: Regarding your current life, just do your best and don’t force yourself too much. At least on the road to struggle, don’t do things that make people around you feel incredible.
(The picture is from the Internet, the picture is irrelevant)
Remind everyone: Regarding your current life, just do your best and don’t force yourself too much. At least on the road to struggle, don’t do things that make people around you feel incredible.(The picture is from the Internet, the picture is irrelevant)
