Let’s talk about a woman’s story. Readers told it and I sorted it out.
The woman is 36 years old, a full-time mother, and has a daughter with her husband. Her husband is very enterprising and has good abilities. She has worked as an assistant to the general manager in a state-owned enterprise, with an annual income of more than 300,000 yuan. This income is not bad in a non-first-tier city. Now, I have a house and a car, and my life is quite comfortable.
Since her husband eats lunch at work at work, she basically has nothing to do during the day after her children go to school (she goes to a private school, so her children also eat lunch at school). Her husband is very busy and has a lot of work pressure, so she usually doesn’t have much time. Accompanying her, but caring about her family, she left all the money she earned to manage. After having nothing to do, she became obsessed with stock trading, and even joined a stock trading learning group. She often chatted with the people in it, and met a middle-aged man. As we chatted, we became friends who talked about everything.
The man is divorced and has no children. According to him, he has two houses in Guangzhou and a small villa built in his hometown. He specializes in stock trading, so he has plenty of time. He talks to her about life, ideals and relationships every day, and sends her small gifts from time to time. Gradually, she I am becoming more and more mentally dependent on this man. If I don't talk to him for an hour or two a day, it feels like something is missing.
At this time, the man intentionally or unintentionally revealed that he was also looking for his favorite remarriage partner recently, and even jokingly said to her, "I believe in your vision, how about you introduce me to a suitable one?"
The woman listened to his words. After that, they really started to make arrangements for him, but in the end he didn't take a fancy to it and asked him why? He said quietly, in fact, since I met you, my standards have not been lowered. I want to find a woman like you to spend the rest of my life with.
After hearing this, the woman felt both uneasy and relieved. She never thought that she would still be missed by another man in middle age. After being married to her husband for so many years, her husband would no longer say such things to her. At that time, she actually had the feeling that "we meet each other too late".
The two of them continued to chat anyway. Two months later, the man said that he had fallen in love with a girl and was going to pursue her. When she heard this, she became anxious and felt that she was about to lose this spiritual confidant, so she took the initiative to meet offline. , but the man disagreed with the meeting and said, "You are a married woman. If your husband finds out that you are meeting a male friend you met online in private, it will bring you unnecessary trouble. I have to consider your situation." Ah." When the woman heard this, she was very moved. She felt that this man was really reliable and a gentleman, and her affection for him deepened.
During this period, the woman's husband's job changed. He was transferred to a branch office a hundred miles away from home as the general manager. After he took office, he had a myriad of tasks waiting for him to carry out, and naturally he had no energy to take care of it. Her changes, and she often saw some short videos about emotional marriage, such as:
"If a man can't accompany you, can't give you spiritual care, and can only give you money, then he definitely doesn't love you. You, he is just sending you away with money!” The more I listen to it, the more profound it becomes, and the more I look at myself, the more I feel like a woman who is unloved and unloved.
At this time, the man she met online told her that he decided to marry someone else. She became anxious and tried her best to persuade the man not to rush to remarry.
The man asked her jokingly: If I don't marry another woman, will you divorce me and marry me?
Normal people would not take such words seriously, but after hearing this, she really thought about divorcing her husband.
At this time, the man said that he wanted to sell the house in Guangzhou. When asked why, he said that he had lost 500,000 in the stock market and had to sell the house to make up for the loss. After that, he did not talk to her for many days.
She became anxious and asked him why he was ignoring her. Half a month later, the man texted her back and said that it was because he was not in a good condition, so he didn’t want to affect her mood, so he went to the mountain to retreat, and said in a decadent way He said in a tone of voice that no one in this world can help him, he can only overcome this situation by himself.
When the woman saw him like this, she felt like a Holy Mother, so she offered to lend the man 500,000 yuan and persuaded him not to sell the house. The man kept pushing her: "I am a grown man, how can I use your money?" What about emergency?"
At her insistence, he accepted. Soon I resumed my daily routine of chatting with her and giving her daily mental massage.
In the end, the woman actually filed for divorce from her husband, wanting to be free to find her new love. Her husband felt that she was unreasonable and refused to agree to divorce. After delaying the divorce for more than half a year, he was finally overwhelmed by her fuss and had no choice but to grant her permission. However, he did not agree to give her the custody of their daughter and entrusted the child to her grandma to take care of her.
After weighing the situation, she gave up custody of her daughter and got divorced. After the divorce, she went to Guangzhou to be with the man on the Internet. The man was really considerate to her. He cooked delicious food for her in different ways every day, took her around here and there, and played music, chess, and books with her. She lived a poetic and picturesque life every day, making her think she had found true love. However, one day three months later, she woke up and found that her man was missing, her phone was turned off, her WeChat account was blocked, and there was no news at all.
Only then did she realize that she had been cheated. After regaining consciousness, he chose to call the police.
The police found the man, but unexpectedly the man took out an IOU, which clearly stated that the woman had borrowed 500,000 from him. The woman's name was signed in black and white at the bottom of the IOU, and the handwriting was authenticated to be her signature. .
The woman was speechless. Completely stunned.
It turns out that after the woman came to him, this man often used printer paper to practice pen calligraphy with her, asking her to practice her name first. The woman had written her name on the blank printer paper. She didn't think much about it at the time, but a thoughtful man took it away and wrote an IOU above her signature.
Fortunately, with the help of the police, it was found out that the IOU was a fabrication. After checking bank statements and other payment methods, there was no record of the man transferring money to the woman.
The money came back, but the woman was greatly hit by the incident and fell seriously ill. She especially hated her ignorance. She told her personal experience after learning from it, hoping to give more married women who have enough food and leisure time a reminder: the so-called spiritual filling of men other than their husbands is too illusory, and you must not talk to her. Just as confused, ruining the happiness of his life.
She regretted it very much. It was only then that she discovered that her ex-husband was responsible and enterprising. He had been working hard in his career for her and their children after marriage, giving her a material sense of security, but she wanted it because of greed. I wanted a sense of stability and thoughtful company, but in the end I lost everything.
There are indeed many such women in real life. They have money, leisure, and a stable and peaceful life, but they lack the PUA of men outside of marriage.
As a married woman, if you want money, you have to accept his busyness. If you want him to be at home with you every day, then you have to accept that eating and drinking are problems every day. There is no such thing as the best of both worlds.
To be honest, many women would rather live a life without seeing money than seeing people without money. This is simply the life of a fairy. Therefore, as long as you get the same thing, you will be satisfied. Don’t do it. , it’s all over once you do it.
