Seeing my son's gradually declining grades and silent attitude, my heart felt as uncomfortable as being bitten by an insect. My son's grades in elementary school were very good. From the first grade to the fifth grade, I was proud and happy every time he took the test. A question

Looking at my son's gradually declining grades and silent attitude, my heart felt as uncomfortable as being bitten by an insect.

My son's grades were very good in elementary school. From the first grade to the fifth grade, I was proud and happy every time he took the test. A question with a score of 100 points would usually be above 90 points. Although I felt tired at work at that time, I was very relieved and happy when I saw my sensible son.

Photos of my son when he was young

My husband and I were working in Jiangsu Province at that time. Our son was only four years old when we went there, and he was fostered in his parents’ home. When he was seven years old, we took him to Jiangsu. Because he was very busy at work at that time, our son was usually fostered again. In my sister's house, my sister is married in Jiangsu, and her home is very close to the school. We will take him back and live with him from Friday to Sunday.

My sensible son has always been very obedient. When I was at my sister's house, sometimes after school, when my sisters were not at home, I would cook meals with my sister's children, and also learned how to cook, fried shredded potatoes, , fried tomatoes and eggs, my sister His child was the same age as his son, and his two younger brothers were only seven or eight years old at that time. After we picked up our son on Sunday, we had to go to work, and my son was at home alone doing homework and watching TV. There is a deep river outside our dormitory. We go to work and my son sometimes plays by the river. Looking back now, I feel a little scared.

I remember one time, after we went to work, a co-worker in the same dormitory took my son to the river to fish. When we came back from get off work and didn't see our son, we were so frightened that we looked around for him. Later, we heard that we went fishing with our co-workers. We walked a long way along the river before we saw them, and we felt relieved. After coming back, I repeatedly told my son not to play by the river in the future. My son said aggrievedly that there was no one to play with him at home. Apart from doing homework, he just watched TV. It was so boring. At that moment, I felt so sad. I feel really sorry for my son. But what can we do to survive?

One day when I came home from work, my son said to me

"Mom, I was scared today."

"What's going on?" I asked worriedly,

"I thought of going to your factory to find you, but halfway there, Suddenly I saw a group of dogs. One of them saw me and walked towards me. I didn’t dare to leave. I stood and stared at the dog. When the dog saw me standing and staring at it, it also stood and stared at me. - After a while: six or seven dogs came over and stood staring at me. I didn't dare to run, let alone bend down to pick up stones or sticks. I was so scared that I stared at them motionless. After a two-minute stalemate, Those dogs left on their own, and I didn’t dare to look for you, so I hurried home and waited for you to get off work.” After hearing this, I hugged my son nervously, thankful for his calmness.

My son has finished fifth grade. At that time, I heard that students from other places were studying locally and would not be able to take the college entrance examination locally in the future. So we decided to return to our hometown together as a family so that our children could successfully take the college entrance examination in the future.

My son’s elementary school report card

It was 2008. After returning to my hometown, with the help of my sister, my son attended the sixth grade in the fifth primary school in the county. My son said that the discipline of students in his hometown school was not as self-conscious as in Jiangsu. In class, students are chattering as noisily as sparrows, but in Jiangsu school classrooms the only sounds of reading are the sounds of teachers lecturing. It is also not allowed to whisper or speak loudly while doing homework. The squad leader patrols back and forth in the classroom. When he sees someone talking, he slaps the small whip on the table, and you have to study consciously.

After returning home, we didn’t know what to do at first. We didn’t have a factory at home, and we felt like there was no way out from farm work, so we slowly observed in the city. After realizing that there was a good business in setting up fruit stalls outside, my husband sold a second-hand agricultural vehicle and started a fruit business setting up street stalls in the city.

We were lucky, the weather was sunny and rainy that year. We get up early and stay up late every day. I have to get up in the middle of the night and go to the city to sell fruit. It takes two or three hours to get from the county seat to the city. I go with my husband every time to help him load the goods and follow the car. My son is left alone at home to carry his The alarm clock is set, and when the time comes, he gets up by himself, goes to school by himself, and usually buys breakfast outside. It will be too late when the goods are brought in and brought back.

We took the goods out early the next day to set up a stall and sell them. The business was pretty good at that time. Although there were many fruit sellers, we still had an average net income of one or two hundred per day. But we have neglected to discipline our son in his daily life. It’s also difficult to spend time with him every day.

My son entered junior high school, and his learning gradually began to decline. I saw it in my eyes and was anxious in my heart. But I can’t give up my business because I have to live.

There were several times when my son didn’t come back after evening self-study, and he didn’t have a mobile phone. We looked for him everywhere after closing the stall at night. Later we found out that he was at his classmate’s house. When we came back the next day and told him, he said disapprovingly:

"I didn't do anything bad. You guys weren't at home when I came back, so I slept with my classmates. What's wrong?"

I tried to reason with him, but he couldn't listen, but his dad didn't have the patience to reason with him. He didn't speculate in three sentences. The stick was applied to his body, but I couldn't stand it anymore. Seeing his father beating him, I felt heartbroken, so I went to protect him. Just like that, my son's temper and personality began to change as we beat him and protected him. Gradually he stopped liking talking to us, let alone talking about school and his grades. Slowly, the distance between us and our son is getting farther and farther, and we can no longer enter his heart.

In order to let him know that life is not easy, we asked him to sell fruit. Once I put hundreds of kilograms of watermelons on the street and asked him to guard and sell them while we went to another place. But within two hours, he sold them all. As a result, in addition to the original profit, I earned 50 yuan for a few hundred kilograms of watermelon. I should have earned one yuan for one kilogram, and several hundred yuan for several hundred kilograms. However, it is also a good thing not to lose money. Later, he was asked to carry a basket of plums to sell. He carried them on the street and sold them all in half an hour, and came back happily. I was surprised by his speed and asked him how he could sell it so quickly. He said that he carried it to the store where he often buys snacks. The clerks all knew him, so they took care of his business. Each person bought a few large bags, and asked the clerk to weigh the items himself, and let the clerk calculate the accounts by himself. All he had to do was give them to him. I couldn't laugh or cry after hearing this, but I took the q over and counted it, and found a net profit of seven yuan for dozens of kilograms of plums. That’s fine, no loss. From then on we never asked him to sell fruit again. And he wouldn't go if I called him later.

When he was in high school, his son’s grades dropped from the average grade in junior high school to the lower average grade. I have also been sad and blamed myself. Every time I mentioned his results, I would be so sad that I shed tears. I know, but the reality is like this, and I just want him to grow up happily, healthily, and follow a normal path in life. He cannot become a dragon and become an adult.

After the college entrance examination, my son entered the junior college with a score of only 310 points. Nowadays, I have entered the big family of society.

During those ten years, if we had spent more time with our son, maybe his life would have been different. I have always felt deeply guilty for not accompanying my son during his studies.