Hello, I’m Ying Yang. is a lawyer in Xi'an and has been practicing for 11 years.
In the past 11 years, he has done many litigation cases, undertook a lot of legal counsel work, and now has his own team.
The assistant told me during the typesetting two days ago, Sister Yang, do you think your recent article is a bit strange?
I was shocked, what happened again? I asked her why she was weird? Unexpectedly, she said, I feel that Xiao Guo has disappeared for a long time, should he come back to work?
Thinking about it this way, Xiao Guo has indeed disappeared for a while. I am sorry for the reader's concern about him if he is divorced or not.
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is the only child born in China this time.
Dad and mom have several brothers and sisters at home,However, the children born are all daughters, only Xiao Guo is a boy, and he is still the youngest in the family.
So Xiao Guo, as a only child , is also a favorite in his growing up experience. The grandparents and grandparents have let his cousin and cousin let him since he was young. Unfortunately, most families are also elders. The more you love someone, the more your peers bully.
Therefore, Xiao Guo's growth experience is more contradictory. On the one hand, he is loved, and on the other hand, he dare not offend his peers.
This kind of little Guo is relatively honest at home, but he doesn’t dare to cause trouble in his studies. Outside because of the elder sisters, no one bullies him. Over time, Xiao Guo has fallen into a " honest child_" strong12strong" evaluation.
And he has a lot of voices like this, and he found that even if he sometimes made mistakes, everyone would use this evaluation to excuse him, and he became more and more "honest".
Xiao Guo has been studying honestly. Naturally, his grades have been good since he was a child. The complexity of his interpersonal relationship makes him more obsessed with work that does not interact with others. He is obsessed with various mechanical experiments and computer programs. I won a lot of awards, and the university went very smoothly. I went to PhD all the way.
After graduating, Xiao Guo entered a large company to do research work, and study his own business every day. If he lived in this way, even if he was single, he would be quite happy.
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, but Chinese parents are always strong and strong 9Perfection is not enough.
When I was young, I was relatively introverted and didn't like talking when I went out. My parents always complained that I went to other people's homes and didn't know how to call people, so I should take the initiative to call my grandparents.
I have a cousin who has a lively personality, and everyone always talks about her. Why do you talk so much? In short, the elders must be able to spot something wrong, and will not allow you to be who you are.
Like Xiao Guo’s parents felt that although Xiao Guo couldn’t find fault with work and study, but finding a partner was definitely his shortcoming, so they asked countless friends and relatives to give him. Introduce the object.
And the character of Xiao Guo is really incomprehensible. As long as it is not another picture, the girl who pictured him feels that he is really not a good person.
Xiaoli is different. Xiaoli thinks that Xiao Guo is really good, has a good job, has a high income, and is not talkative or troublesome. It's not all I am in charge when I enter the door. I will say everything. Forget it?
So she clings to Xiao Guo firmly. This Xiaoli has a mediocre degree, but she is also a junior college graduate. In addition, she has a good appearance. She is like a social flower in the unit, so she can get a straightforward like Xiao Guo. The man can be said to be able to catch it by hand, send a meal, a small snack, and just care about something.
Xiao Guo’s parents also disagree a little bit at first, thinking that the academic qualifications do not match, but the cousins say that Xiao Guo has a personality like that, so you have to marry a pungent daughter-in-law, otherwise someone will bully him in the future. With the support of a fierce daughter-in-law,Parents can worry less about it.
Xiao Guo's parents heard it made sense and agreed to this marriage.
But I have to say that there is a logical loophole , that is, if there is a pungent daughter-in-law, no one will bully Xiao Guo. This result is premised. Only one mind can help Xiao Guo resist the bullying of outsiders, otherwise, the daughter-in-law will bully Shang Xiao Guo first without being bullied by others.
Looking at the combination of Xiao Guo and Xiao Li, Xiao Guo is obviously not the lucky one.
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All the financial powers of Xiaoguo’s life after marriage can be said to be in the hands of Xiaoli. Operation, 200 yuan a month pocket money is more than enough for Xiao Guo, because people who don't smoke or drink, don't have communication and can only work overtime, how much money should they spend?
As for buying clothes, the daughter-in-law takes care of everything. Fortunately, Xiaoguo’s unit distributes work clothes, so she doesn’t have to worry about it.
The daughter-in-law holds a lot of money, and she plays mahjong, visits the beauty salon, and occasionally flirts with the young people in the unit.
wife’s life is getting more and more moist,There are more and more unpleasant places. He thinks that Xiao Guo can't speak reluctantly, that Xiao Guo won't indulge in the leader's failure to rise, and that Xiao Guo Wonang has been robbed of credit by other colleagues and dare not say anything.
The more places you dislike , the more you complain to Xiao Guo, and Xiao Guo has a low-headed temper. The more unresponsive he is, the more angry Xiao Li is, and the more angry she is. big. Slowly, Xiaoli's attitude towards Xiao Guo changed from complaining to verbal abuse, from scolding at home to scolding in front of outsiders.
Xiao Guo is also a doctor, after all, living such a life every day, the mood is getting worse and worse, the pressure is getting more and more, he is unwilling to go home, and there is no other emotional outlet.
At this time, an unemployed temporary worker took him to play the " slot machine " (, a gambling game machine ).
Afterwards, he recalled that this person should have taken him with the commission deliberately, because it didn't take long before this person left his job.
Xiao Guo probably didn't want to be in contact with people, and was addicted to his own world. This activity made Xiao Guo more and more addicted to , coupled with the temptation of people in the casino, he continued Continued to owe more than 3 million gambling debts.
people from the casino come to ask for debts,Xiaoli and Xiao Guo's parents only learned about this.
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Xiaoli will not be bullied by the drama, but she will not be bullied by the drama. To live, where to find such a large sum of money, but I can't live, I insisted on divorce.
The debt collectors come to collect debts every day, and there is no reason for this kind of people. Xiao Guo’s parents and cousins have to each take some money to fill in Xiao Guo’s holes, but it is so big The amount is not enough for a family of five hundred thousand.
Xiao Guo really had no choice, so he took his family house as a mortgage and took out a bank loan to pay off his gambling debt.
Although Xiaoli is reluctant to take this loan, she can't get gambling debts, so she can only sign the loan contract with Xiao Guo.
Ordinarily, this Xiao Guo is a Ph.D. and a business elite. He has a monthly income of 40,000 to 50,000. There is a year-end bonus at the end of the year. He has worked for more than ten years and has family support. The gambling debt has reached the point of selling a house. Unless it was because he hadn't saved the money for these years, but Xiao Guo didn't have any expenses himself, it could only be spent by Xiao Li.
The gambling debts are settled here, and the divorce is of course on the agenda.Xiaoli firmly believes that Xiao Guo has lost all her family property by gambling. She is innocent, so Xiao Guo should divorce her and pay the bank loan by herself. The house should belong to her.
Xiao Guo found me at this time, and his parents came with him. He didn't say anything during the whole process, mainly because his mother was asking, and his father kept his head down, only occasionally. Two key points came out and said: "Let’s do it this way, no discussion."
Xiao Guo's parents listened to Xiao Guo 9strong about the family. felt that his son could not hold his head up after losing money in gambling, on the other hand, felt that Xiaoli was unwilling to divorce and take away the house.
My first reaction when I heard this was that gambling debts are not protected by law , that is to say, gambling debts do not need to be repaid, so you can sue to the court as long as the court finds out that it is Gambling debts will also be judged not to be repaid.
And if you want a debtor to come to harass you, just call the police. The police must first check his for opening a casino instead of asking you to pay him back.
But Xiao Guo’s family has already paid back the money, and at this time the casino has also been investigated and dealt with by the public security organs. Those who took the money were put in jail, and the illegal income was confiscated by the state.So the money he gave will definitely not come back.
The bank loan is a normal debt, and because Xiao Guo and Xiaoli both signed the loan when the loan was made, Xiaoli knew the loan, no matter what the money was used for, it was The husband and wife agree to the loan , so legally speaking, this loan should also be repaid by the husband and wife .
But I also told Xiao Guo and his parents that the law is the law, and the favor is the favor. After all, it is the debt that Xiao Guo owes for gambling. Xiaoli is also a bit wronged.
However, " , do not persuade others to be kind to others ". After Xiaoli and Xiaoguo began their divorce, many things were gradually revealed, and so did the enthusiastic neighbors. Dare to gossip.
It turned out that Xiaoli had hooked up with others a long time ago, and a lot of the salary that Xiaoguo turned in every month was used by Xiaoli to supplement his little lover. Otherwise, it would not be a doctorate who has worked for so many years. There is only one house in the family.
Because the money is in Xiaoli's hands, after the accident, Xiaoli transferred all her deposits to . In addition to the loan, she did not pay a penny for Xiao Guo. Now if she wants to divorce , Maybe Xiaoli still has a lot of deposits in her hands.
but she still asked to transfer the house to her alone,Xiao Guo repays the loan by herself. At the same time, two of them have a son. She wants the child's custody right , and also asks Xiao Guo to pay 10,000 yuan for custody every month.
According to her divorce plan, Xiao Guo has no house, with more than 2 million debts on his back, and 10,000 yuan a month for child support. Obviously cannot afford for the rest of his life. There should be nothing to expect.
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Span Talking about gambling with Xiao Guo everywhere, embarrassing Xiao Guo, trying to force Xiao Guo to submit.
Under normal circumstances, my handling principle is that people do not offend me, and I do not offend people. If people offend me, they will be punishable even though they are far away.
This happened, so I had to give Xiao Guo a bad idea .
I said it’s better than the bank, so stop repaying it. Let the bank sue you. The family is nothing more than a ready-made property of a house. If the house is gone, what else is she worried about?
After Xiao Guo no longer repays,The bank sued Xiao Guo. As a legal lender, the bank handled the business normally, and of course it won the case in the end.
The court ruled that Xiao Guo and Xiaoli repay the loan in accordance with the joint debt of the husband and wife. Without the money, the court auctioned Xiao Guo's house and returned the money to the bank.
Xiaoli finally got into the house and there was nothing left, and Xiao Guo had no worries about the future, and said to Xiaoli that he would divorce by agreement and live his own days. The previous deposits are given to you, or we Just sue and see what the court decides.
At this time, Xiaoli saw that even if Xiao Guo were to compensate her, Xiao Guo had no money but a dead letter, and finally agreed to divorce, not to mention the custody of her son. Her son was raised by Xiao Guo. She He no longer bears the upbringing expenses, this is also Xiao Guo's own agreement.
The two people were making a fuss. In the end, "one different and two wide, each had a happy life."
Xiao Guo moved back with his son and his parents. Work hard, you should support your son in the future, and your own life will not be a problem. And Xiaoli doesn't know if her new boyfriend will be as good as Xiao Guo.
Later I saw Xiao Guo’s son, a small Guo alive, he wears glasses and he doesn’t like talking, and he is sitting in the corner holding a book It’s up to myself, and I also saw Xiao Guo’s mother say to her baby grandson: "Call Aunt Yang!" She also smiled embarrassedly and explained: "This child is introverted.Don't like to call people.
I said it’s okay. Because in my opinion, it’s really okay, . The world is wonderful because everyone is different. Some are extroverted, others are introverted, some like to talk and others like to listen .
If there are no people like Xiao Guo, technology will not progress. If there are not many people doing public welfare, the world will not be warm. If there is no big bad wolf like Lawyer Yang, little sheep may They all become shabu-shabu.
let them be as they are . If you meet someone who fits in, you will go forward together. If not, you will be fine. It’s better than constantly adding rifts to your own life.
*Author: Yang Ying, a lawyer, has handled many types of cases every year and accumulated a lot of experience. I want to Through popularizing the law, we can tell everyone that legal persons also have temperature.
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