Greg meets a father John who wants to commit suicide. John is unemployed, can't find a new job, and is worried about not being able to support his family. He felt that the only way to help his family was to commit suicide. He has a life insurance policy with very high payouts. He hopes that the money can be used to take care of his family.
In this case, people's first reaction is to go straight and tell John that suicide will not be paid by the insurance company.
But this did not stand in John's point of view, did not understand how he got to this point, he may still choose to commit suicide in the end.
Greg introduced himself first. He asked John "How is it?", and then he started to figure out the potential problems of John.
John said, I have worked for this guy for 20 years, but now I have been fired. I have no income, but I have to take care of my family, so I have to do this.
"Tell me about your family", and Greg immediately transformed into a helper role.
"My wife and I have two great children," John said.
John emphasized his children, so Greg took advantage of this positive topic to deepen his understanding.
"Then tell me about your child," Greg said.
"Oh, they are two boys," John said.
"You can hear that you love them," Greg said.
"Of course, I love them very much," John said.
"In my opinion, you are really a good father and you will choose to do the right thing," Greg asked John to talk about his children and their relationship.
John said that he took the children out fishing and taught them life skills. The children liked the time with her.
Greg said: "If John commits suicide today, your children will lose their best friend."
Greg did not tell or persuade John what to do, but did this by listening and repeating what John said.
In the end, John did not choose to commit suicide.
The method used by Greg is equally effective in daily life, whether it is communicating with a supplier or arguing with a lover, it can come in handy.
Don't try to persuade others as soon as you come up, start with understanding, why the supplier's price is higher than expected? Why do a few dirty dishes in the sink make a lover angry?
When people feel understood and cared, trust will be generated. The supplier will realize that it wants a long-term partnership, not just making money. Lovers will realize that sometimes dirty dishes are just dirty dishes. Find out the needs and motivations behind the behavior, and find the root cause of the problem.
Pay attention to my peak fortune, life forever! [Prayer][prayer]
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