I am 61 years old and have just retired for one year. When my daughter got married, I gave 200,000 yuan to help the young couple make up a down payment for the house; the young couple bought a car, and I paid another 100,000 yuan; my daughter gave birth last year, and I went to take care of the children and spent my own pension.
Unexpectedly, my daughter persuaded me to leave before the Chinese New Year was over because her in-laws wanted to come and bring their grandson.
01 I am willing to give for the happiness of my daughter
My husband passed away early, and I have never remarried for the healthy growth of my daughter. Even at this age, I haven't found anyone to live with.
I work in a public institution and I have saved a lot of savings over the years. When my daughter married, the man didn't have enough money to buy a house, so I generously gave my daughter 200,000 yuan. Later, when the young couple wanted to buy a car, I supported another 100,000 yuan.
This was originally the pension money I prepared for myself, but for the happiness of my daughter, I was willing to give it out to help them. After all, young people nowadays are under a lot of pressure in life, and I can't just ignore it.
Later, the daughter gave birth to a child, and the in-laws said that they were not in good health and could not take care of the newborn. I just retired and I was fine at home, so I volunteered to go.
In more than a year, I hardly had a good night's sleep. In addition to taking care of the children every day, he also has to take care of all kinds of housework at home, because the son-in-law and daughter have to go to work. In order to save money for them, I took out more than 5,000 pension funds, and never asked my daughter and son-in-law for a penny.
Seeing how happy the family is, I am also satisfied, as long as my daughter is happy. I thought I would live with my daughter in the future.
02 The woman drove me away
Unexpectedly, this year is not over yet, and my daughter said to me early in the morning: "Mom, you have worked so hard for so long, so there should be good news. Two days later. , My in-laws moved in, and they will help us with the children in the future."
I opened my mouth, but didn't say a word, and I felt cold. In the past few years, I haven't enjoyed a day's blessing, and I have paid so much pension. Now that the child is ready to take, the in-laws are here, and the daughter is also on the side of in-laws.I can't tell the pain, all kinds of sad tears.
Can I object? My son-in-law wanted my parents to come over, and I couldn't stop it, and it made it difficult for my daughter. I packed my things in silence, planning to leave the next day. I also want to understand this time. When I go back to my hometown, I can live my little life with peace of mind.
As for the future retirement, I don't really expect my daughter and son-in-law anymore.
03 Octave has something to say
This is a letter from an aunt to me. Her words are full of sadness and helplessness. At this moment, my mood is also very complicated, and I have a few words to say.
1. The love of parents is heavy.
Daughters get married and give money to contribute, and daughters give birth to children, and bring them without complaint. They also subsidize pensions. This aunt seems to be the epitome of most parents, who are always trying their best to help the child bear everything.
However, it is the parents who have been sheltering for too long, and many children have not grown up. This has created more and more "chewing old people". They are proud of "chewing the old" and can't realize the hardship behind their parents. .
2. The helplessness of the only child
The daughter in the article persuades her parents to leave, we can analyze it from another angle, but we can also feel the helplessness. Many young people are now only children, with four elderly people on their shoulders.
Whether it's father-in-law or father-in-law, they all have a bowl of water. Therefore, discouraging the mother from the daughter is also a compromise with the man.
3. Rely on oneself for the elderly
Once upon a time, "raising children and protecting against old age" was deeply ingrained in everyone's thinking. At least by my side, our fathers did a great job. However, the times are changing, and "raising children to prevent old age" seems to be something that can be met but not sought.
Young people can’t afford to support themselves, so how can they support their parents?This is a very real problem. Therefore, it is imperative for the elderly to plan their old-age care early.
What do you think about this?
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