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Question: Obsessive-compulsive disorder has been around for nearly twenty years, and I just stumbling over like this, sometimes good and sometimes bad. In recent years, especially in recent months, I have been extremely anxious. In the winter of 2019, I went to the psychological clinic for for treatment, prescribed sertraline and tandospirone, and psychological counseling. In the first year, it did work, but later it felt average. After two years of eating, I slowly stopped myself. I haven't been going to psychological counseling for a long time, and I feel like there is nothing to say. Maybe the psychological counselor is the opposite sex, and the most secret thing in his heart is that he is embarrassed to say about sexual troubles. I have been very anxious recently and told my family that my family just recommends taking medicine, but I don’t want to take medicine anymore. I always feel that the medication has side effects and cannot solve the fundamental problem.
In recent years, I have seen many psychologists, except for the high fees, it has almost no effect. I want to read some articles on Zhihu by myself, but I can't read them any more. I want to know about anxiety and obsessive-compulsive disorder, can it be done by myself alone?
Reply:
I am the author of the book "Principles of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder and Rehabilitation" (Hebei Science and Technology Press. 2022). Below I will answer your question based on the content in the book.
Obsessive-compulsive disorder is a neurotic disorder that is self-obsessed and obsessed with self-obsession.
Unless you get foreign aid, no patient can make a fortune by himself, even if it takes a lifetime of hard work.
Organic diseases can also become a good doctor after a long illness.
However, the longer the compulsive disorder, the more confused the person becomes, the more lost he is - he goes all the way to the dark.
Neurotic patients (obsessive-compulsive disorder, anxiety disorder, social phobia, stuttering, etc.) all think that their thinking is not a problem, but the method has not been found. Therefore, they are always on the road of seeking outside (rather than seeking inside), and they always pursue methods that are not anxious or forced.
Of course, they all tied themselves up in cocoons and were firmly entangled by obsessive-compulsive disorder, and could not extricate themselves. The more you struggle, the faster you die, the more miserable you will be! Although
drugs can make the brain stop delusion, this kind of nerve paralysis method undoubtedly cannot cure the root cause, but there is no way.
After all, the delusion of being exhausted and broad-minded is bad, and medicine is the most direct and effective way to block random thoughts.
is like bringing a naughty baby. The most convenient way is to let him take sleeping pills and sleep from daylight to night, very quiet. But what will happen? You know if you don't say it.
. In addition to drugs, can there be other methods to cure neurosis? No! Because the root of neurosis is not at the unconscious level.
Although we will feel pain and sad because of compulsion and anxiety that cannot be controlled, our pain and sorrow are just the common crystallization of objective reality and our ideological understanding. Just like the strange stalactite in an underground cave, these crystals are like things in our subconscious mind.
Although they are mysterious, they are all formed by objective reality and our thoughts and consciousness.
This means that the strange things in the cave are just the result of the interaction between thoughts and consciousness and objective reality, not the cause.
The cause of treatment must be treated.
The fundamental reason for obsessive-compulsive disorder is that it is not affected by things at the unconscious level, but things at the ideological level.
Objective reality is not transferred by human will. But when objective reality and our subjective will are inconsistent, we all want to change the real environment instead of changing ourselves.
Authentic, sometimes, we can indeed change the objective environment according to our subjective wishes, but we can only do it with a normal mind: it is of course best to be able to change the objective reality; if it cannot be changed or it is difficult to change, I should stop and adapt to the objective reality.
This way, we will not waste time. After all, it is important to hurry up and there are important things ahead that need to be completed.
Normal people think it is normal when they encounter troubles, so they treat them with a normal mind: if they can eliminate troubles, they will eliminate them. If they cannot be eliminated for the time being, they will live with their worries first. But neurotic patients are different. They must kill them all, and they will never stop the army until they have to eliminate their worries. Obsessive-compulsive disorder or anxiety disorder is reinforced each time the goal is achieved.
This reinforcement is not only to satisfy the purpose, but also to make the series of operations such as "evaluation, discussion, self-blame, and commotion" after the event, so as to take obsessive-compulsive disorder and your anxiety to the next level.
However, no one will think this wave of operation is wrong, but instead thinks it is the correct way to solve the problem.
People don’t know that neurosis, depression, are not objective problems or organic diseases, but subjective psychological problems (or physiological disorders caused). The reason why this psychological problem cannot be cured for a long time, the more it is treated, the more serious it becomes, and the worse it is, is that they are all "antihabits" (see "Principles and Rehabilitation of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder" Yuan Yunlu, Yuan Zehong, Hebei Science and Technology Press. 2022).
Common habits in life (such as swearing, smoking, walking habits, etc.) are all forward habits, while insomnia, obsessive-compulsive disorder, anxiety, stuttering, social phobia, etc. are all anti-habits.
The harder you are used to, the better, and the harder you are against the anti-habit, the worse you are. Therefore, it is impossible for patients with obsessive-compulsive disorder to work through their own personal efforts.
How to get out of the maze of neurosis?
must use anti-logic and anti-thinking ideas to deal with it.
is like getting lost in a dark cave. How to get out?
Everyone will hold a torch, right? But in the end, I couldn't get out and was trapped in it.
throw away the torch and make your eyes dark. Only this anti-logical reverse thinking practice can make you truly get out of the darkness.
It is very difficult for people who can discover this kind of thinking or thinking pattern. It requires great wisdom and needs to stand on the shoulders of giants.
In that year (1988), after I received 16 days of guidance from my mentor Zhang Jinghui, I suddenly realized and got rid of more than ten years of stuttering and obsessive-compulsive disorder.
People who can discover themselves (with problems with their thoughts) are enlightened people and were called "Buddha" in ancient India.
shows how difficult it is for a person to discover his own problems! Because humans are all elves, everyone thinks they are the master of the world and thinks they are the smartest person in the world.
So when you are full of vitality and in your youth, many people dream of changing the world. So he is well-educated and strives to be successful.
But at the age of thirty, I feel that the world is so big and changing quickly, and it is not something I can control. So people's ideals and pursuits landed from space. At this time, they just want to do something by themselves, create wealth for the country and society, and show their glory.
However, when is in his forties, people feel that the world is dangerous and the society is complex. On a whim, if you are not careful, you will lose your way and be deceived. At this time, people begin to calm their minds and no longer cause impulses to external stimulation and temptation. People begin to learn to think and begin to understand a little bit of "Tao".
At this age, many people have become grandparents and have begun to gradually reflect on themselves to avoid making the mistakes they have made again.
When I was a parent, I didn’t know how to educate my children. I always put the blame on the people around me, always thinking that others were blocking my own way and letting myself achieve nothing.
Now I have my grandson in my arms. For the health of our grandchildren, we, who have become grandparents, began to face ourselves, reexamine ourselves, gradually recognize our own problems, and began to transform ourselves and cultivate our minds and nature.
Life is a mirror, with curved mirrors and flat mirrors.
The curved mirror makes us tall and complacent and self-righteous.
The flat mirror makes us discover ourselves, and then we are speechless and alert.
Society is a textbook, with positive and negative textbooks.
The wise and heroic figures around you are the positive textbooks. On the contrary, those who crow and steal are our negative teaching materials.
Excellent people let us admire and learn from them. Bad people and bad things can help us learn from them and make fewer mistakes.
In short: To get out of anxiety and obsessive-compulsive disorder, we do not rely on ourselves to do whatever we want, rather than to work behind closed doors.
Must learn from life and worship life as your teacher.
Learn from the good and learn from those who understand, but never be led by others.
direction is greater than method. Direction is choice, method is behavior.
Read more about my articles, which may help you wake up as soon as possible and get out of the maze of obsessive-compulsive disorder.
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