Zheng Wei Teacher 3 Preface : I am the father of two daughters. I feel particularly sorry for my two daughters. I nourish them with love. I always feel sorry for girls who do not live in true love. Today, Zheng Y really made me feel sorry for her. How much pain and difficulty does she have in her state of "unhappy inside but very happy on the outside"! Fortunately, Zheng Y saved herself by learning love and happiness.
I especially like the title of her article "Back to the Starting Point of Life" - when you see your true self, we return to the Starting Point of Life, and when you see your true self, you especially like the end of her article "I can finally leave my parents with confidence" - if you have love in your heart, you will be physically weaned and truly mature.
At the same time, I want to tell you: the process of solving inner inferiority is actually a process of making yourself strong inside. The only prescription for this process is Put yourself in the cycle of love and slowly nourish your heart. After completing the 6th
, the 70 families of our 6th 6th literally became a loving family.
And the father of this family is Teacher Zheng Wei, the mother is the instructors, and the others are my brothers and sisters, which can be regarded as fulfilling my dream of being the only child. Here I experienced the lenient and strict love of Teacher Zheng Wei as a father, and also experienced the warm love of the motherly mentors, allowing me to experience what love is that does not require reward for my efforts.
With such true love, I began to have the courage to return to the starting point of my life .
(Teacher Zheng Wei: Find and accept your true self, our lives will return to the starting point. That starting point is the beginning of your life's true bloom.)
I am an only child. My mother is worried and anxious, criticizes and accuses. My father suppresses his emotions and endures it. He can't help but burst out.
And I rarely feel the happy atmosphere at home, So I started to slowly pretend to be strong , because I don’t want my mother to worry about anxiety, and I can feel that my father doesn’t like mothers with negative emotions, so I suppress all my negative emotions.
And my dad doesn't like me crying, so many emotions are pressed down on my heart, and I have to pretend to be very happy, so my dad still likes me more.
But if I cry and I do something wrong, my dad won't like me, and my dad would rather be a boy, so I have been like a boy since I was a child.
So in the original family, our ethics are also abnormal, I replaced my mother and became the most important person in my father's heart .
As a child, I have always given love to my parents. When I can't give, I start to lose my temper and fight against my mother.
But in life, , My parents always meet the requirements of me, and have high expectations and high requirements in terms of grades. I feel that I am very tired. Fortunately, in our era, the whole society was not so successful, and school education is not as eager as it is now. Otherwise, if I were in this era, I would have dropped out of school.
The pains that these original families have always followed me. I am still a child in my heart, but I have to take care of my parents' emotions. So I understand that children nowadays will suffer more than me, because the great satisfaction of material things makes children more eager for true love. But how many adults around us have true love?
I read a lot of books when I was in college. A voice in my heart told me that there must be something in the world that can solve all problems. I have been searching until I found love and happiness.
with heartache and suspicion, I insisted on participating in the salon for half a year, , especially the development of the Pudong small salon, and the love environment created by Wang Kangxiang and Cai Peixian, made me finally begin to believe in love and happiness.
So I went to participate in the Hangzhou second phase at the end of last year, and before participating, I had melted a little by the love, so the suppressed fear and anxiety came out. I had insomnia for 2 weeks, and I tested it and my depression had reached moderate level. During this period, I was very anxious, but I believe there was a way.
It turned out that the book I read began to help me, so I found Wu Zhihong, who was also depressed for 2 years. According to his method, with the nourishment of love and happiness, I spent it.
I really thank Teacher Zheng Wei for creating such an offline love environment, keeping love warm and giving all those who want to grow up a safe environment.
After class, I began to fully enter the release stage, I felt chill all over and often wanted to cry. As a child, I really only need such an environment to let him stay with me well, safe and warm. Everyone can explore themselves, and of course, I also need help at critical moments.
I have been exploring myself, so I hired my instructor, Teacher He Fan. I have always resented my parents. With Teacher He Fan, I learned that when I have no energy, I should not explore the problems of my original family and insist on doing the right things. So my eyes began to stare at myself and do the right things.
When He Fan was guiding me, I wrote an article in which I knew that I had two self in my heart, one is real and beautiful, and the other is to protect the self I grew up in when I was a child .
On June 26 this year, on my son's birthday, I suddenly understood my mother and began to feel sorry for her. I realized that it was normal for her to not change. I was so difficult in an environment like love and happiness, let alone my mother, she should be like this. So I cried for more than 2 hours, one of which was crying on the bus. At that time, tears couldn't stop flowing. I stood with my mother from the opposite side of my mother, and it felt so safe.
(Teacher Zheng Wei: Release, observe and soak in the environment of love. Our frozen hearts have slowly melted and subtly moved, love enters the heart. We slowly began to love others. When we saw this period, the heart that felt sorry for Zheng Y became a heart that bloomed joy for this life. Congratulations to Zheng Y.)
I felt much more relaxed, but I felt angry from time to time. By the end of July, I suddenly saw that inferior self. When I was a child, I worked very hard and did not get my father's recognition. I was inferior.
(Teacher Zheng Wei: We are becoming more and more introspective and painful, and our lives will bloom more and more! How courage does it take to dare to dig out and face the truth of our lives, although such courage is to be covered up by pain, tears and negative emotions.)
So I cried all afternoon, but I don’t know how to help this inferior me. So I brought this little girl with inferiority complex to Yanliu and felt the true love environment created by Teacher Zheng Wei and instructors.
(Teacher Zheng Wei: The solution of inferiority complex cannot be solved successfully through doing things in detail. The solution of inferiority complex can only rely on a person to express his true self in an environment of trust, so that the real self can be nourished by love, so that the inner strength can be strong. The process of inner strength is the process of getting rid of inferiority complex.)
I was prepared not to go on stage to share from the beginning. Later, I shared it in the group, and I wanted to experience it well and quietly nourish the little girl with inferiority complex.
nourished until the morning of the 4th day, I suddenly had a strong desire to find Sister Jiyun, so I saw that the girl with inferiority needs happiness. I was unhappy in my heart, but I still showed happiness. When I saw Sister Jiyun in the fourth period of Shanghai, I was infected by her happiness, so I added Sister Jiyun’s WeChat and got her warmth and happiness.
In such a safe and warm environment, I ran for the host with joy. Because I was a host that day, I sat quietly in my seat and watched 14 pairs of newlyweds get married happily under the host of Teacher Wen Yue. When the 14 pairs of newlyweds talk to each other, I cried 14 times, tears of joy and tears of relaxation.
I can finally feel the joy of my parents quietly. For the first time, I don’t have to pretend to be happy by myself and make my parents happy. At that moment, I was very happy, I was very happy.
Before leaving, I lay on Teacher Wenyue’s warm shoulder and cried once. Teacher Wenyue’s warm words have always been with me. However, as a child, I also want to tell Teacher Wenyue that you should not be too demanding on yourself, you are already very good. (Teacher Zheng Wei: What a warm Zheng Y, we started to warm our Teacher Wenyue.)
After returning from the sixth year of research, I have been very low-energy and even blew my way around. I went to Teacher Wenyue, Sister Jiyun, Teacher He Fan, and the group Essay I am in. It is a big challenge for me. I am a baby now, accepting myself. The most important thing in true love is accepting it, which is the fundamental thing. Everyone should do this, including themselves.
(Teacher Zheng Wei: The inner world is weak. When we know how to live with our heart through practice, the energy is very weak at the beginning. This kind of weak energy may be worse than the feelings before learning, but you must know that your life has undergone qualitative changes, from living with the "brain" with a mask to living with the "heart". You must accept your own weak energy. At the same time, you must not be alone. You must insist on letting yourself be with people with strong energy and environments with strong energy, and slowly nourish your heart. If the direction is right, leave the bloom of life to time.)
Thank you, Teacher Zheng Wei, and all the brothers and sisters of Yanliu. I returned to my starting point and grew up slowly. I also congratulate myself on sharing my experiences and feelings from the perspective of a child, hoping to help many parents.
And what I have to do now is to start my new journey in the sixteenth century, which is a happy big family in the field of study. I finally left my parents with confidence .
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