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Rebellion during adolescence is not scary. What is scary is that parents regard rebellion as the "enemy" and miss the last opportunity to adjust their parent-child relationship with their children.
Features of adolescent children:
1. Emotional sensitivity is easy.
2. Communication difficulties.
3. It is easy to get addicted to mobile phones.
Today's children started to fight with their parents at the age of 6 or 7. So where does this come from?
Is this what the child looks like when he is born?
As parents, how do we accompany our children through the "rebellious period"?
1. Rebellion is a signal, it is a reminder for parents.
The inner pain of the child has reached its limit! Parents need to learn new ways to help their children relieve emotional pain! At this time, if parents’ own communication methods do not improve and instead adopt high-pressure policies, it will bring greater pain to their children!
How do we say that children will listen?
The answer is: speak to the child's heart.
① Listen more
to the ears: "Yeah, that's it."
Purpose: Let the child say more, let's say less.
② Understand more
to be moved: understand more about the psychological and physiological changes of children at this time
But more importantly, beside the children, create something that touches children from small things
③ Respect more
to be the right to be mastered: "Son/daughter, what do you think? Mom wants to listen to your suggestions."
2. Let the child get involved in the war between husband and wife.
In many families, couples like to blame and complain to each other, and always want to prove that I am right and you are wrong.
- Such a communication model will greatly hurt the child's self-esteem and sense of security, causing the child to feel very painful no matter which side he is on.
Couples quarreled. In order to make themselves feel like they won in the conflict in marriage, they turned their children into accomplices who tried to pull the children against their partners. The children were forced to take sides and faced a dilemma.
At the same time, the child also learned to blame his parents. Over time, you will easily have problems such as rebellion, complaining, disgusting, and procrastination!
Without a good husband-and-wife relationship and a family atmosphere, there will be no healthy children. "Where there is no end to the nest?"
3. Frustration Education
Many parents have biased their understanding of "frustration education" and try to cultivate their children's strength and strength by cracking down, punishing, suppressing, and coercing.
—As a result, many children not only do not become stronger, but their self-esteem and sense of value are seriously trampled on and their performance is getting worse and worse. At this time, some children will give up or don’t want to go to school, while some children will be depressed!
What is the real frustration education?
What is important in frustration education is not the setback itself, but the ability to recover after facing setbacks and whether children have fearless confidence. The essence is to cultivate children's ability to find happiness and keep children optimistic and positive in the face of setbacks.
What is the prerequisite for cultivating a child's mentality of becoming more courageous as he sets his marks?
Good parent-child relationship.
Only a good parent-child relationship can motivate parents' language to their children. The more they like, the greater the influence of who they have on their children.
4. Children fall in love early
In fact, children are not "looking for love" but "looking for love".
The less warmth and security a child experiences at home, the easier it is to "beginning love".
For example, a girl does not receive enough care from her parents before elementary school, and when she enters puberty, she may fall in love early and hate school...
A boy has a bad relationship with her parents in childhood, and will break out during adolescence, such as early love, Internet addiction, truant school...
5. Ignore the emotions of children for a long time
If parents ignore their children's emotions for a long time, do not listen or understand their emotions, it will lead to the children's heart becoming more and more lonely! The more lonely a child is, the easier it is to transfer to electronic products, and eventually he will become addicted to the Internet.
The root cause of the problem that a child has during his rebellious period is:
Parent-child communication is ineffective for a long time! Parents have no better way to connect with their children’s souls!
— Rather than complaining about your child, it is better to grow yourself first!
Only when parents grow up first and children can experience enough love and warmth when communicating with their parents, all problems in adolescence can be cured!
Some parents try to solve these problems of their children with violence, which resulted in more confrontation!
Adolescence is the last opportunity for children to leave to parents and seize this golden period. I hope that every parent can become a parent who teaches according to his aptitude and an expert in educating his children.
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