Through long-term observation and research, I have discovered a very important life ability:
enables the ability to obtain the ability
, so-called "to make the follower", even if people obey, specifically, it is the process of changing from the current activities to the obedience of activities.
"Make the follower" is a life activity that people often carry out and must carry out. It is widely present among relatives, friends and strangers. The powerful support ability will bring great benefits to people.
"Make obedience" is an important social activity. For example, the country is to make the people obedient, promotion and sales are to make the market obedient, talk about love is to make the object obedient, shopping is to make the merchant obedient, leadership and management are to make subordinates obedient, etc.
In order to make people obey, people often have to do a lot, with understanding, communication, planning, research, advertising, communication, services, processing, giving, payment, etc., so it is a broad life ability.
It is not always smooth sailing and achieved overnight. Many difficult tasks require hard work, or even arduous efforts to successfully complete. There are many such examples, such as making the market recognized, making the opponent surrender, making the leader appreciated, and supporting the subordinates, etc., which are all difficult.
But if you have a strong "enablement", everything will not be so difficult. People will be able to be good at everything, be versatile, want to get rain, and be windy, and life will be smoother and easier to succeed, and people will inevitably become nobler!
The powerful ability to achieve success is what people dream of. In fact, the main task of people to go to school is to improve their ability to achieve success. "Make the follower" is mysterious and complex, and improving the follower's ability is not easy. People should understand the reason.
1. The law of love
I discovered very early that there are many laws in social interactions, and the most fundamental law is the "law of love":
Be happy and obscene;
Be afraid of success, obscene;
Be afraid of success, obscene;
Be sincere in both love.
Below is my detailed explanation
1. From pleasure to emptiness, it is false to obey: The so-called "obedience" means "obedience". As long as it is realized from pleasure, people will definitely obey and obey happily. But because only by pleasure, people's obedience is often false.
"From a happy feeling" is an important emotion in interpersonal communication, mainly used for inspiration, motivation, inducement, etc. Everyone has a certain ability to build pleasure, and even babies have strong ability to build pleasure, and it is very common for them to "fall into a smile".
The ability to build joy is very important to life. People all yearn for strong build joy, because this way they can better interact with people, otherwise they will not be able to make friends well.
Establishing the reality of pleasant feelings is common and diverse, caring, caring, giving, serving, cultivating, caring, and so on.
The most professional thing is the economic field, which is to establish the market's pleasure through high-quality products or services to make it purchase. There are some deliberate thinking and suggestions, some face difficulties and innovate, some gossip and tell each other, spend a lot of money, some work hard and strive for excellence, etc.
has a strong "construction ability", which will inevitably make people respect, will inevitably have strong appeal, and will inevitably make people obey.
2. If you are afraid of violating, you will be lazy: The so-called violating fear is "the fear of violating". As long as the violating fear is realized, people will definitely obey and dare not refuse. But because there is only disagreement of fear, people's obedience is often slack.
"Fear" is an important emotion in interpersonal communication, mainly used for prevention, prevention, promotion, etc. Everyone has a certain ability to establish fear, and even babies have strong ability to establish fear, and it is very common for them to "kill and scare them" to happen.
The ability to establish a sense of fear is very important to life. People all yearn for a strong ability to develop a sense of fear, because this way you can better interact with people, otherwise you will not even be able to educate your children well.
The reality of establishing a sense of fear is common and diverse, including intimidation, reprimand, beating, scolding, control, rejection, bad things, etc.
The most professional thing is in the military field, which is to establish the fear of the enemy through powerful attacks or deterrence to eliminate the violation. There are strategic planning, cultural and military strategies, scientific research and exercise equipment, showing off power, information publicity, attack and combat, verbal criticism, etc.
has a strong "failure ability" that will inevitably make people respect, will inevitably have strong urging forces, and will inevitably make people obey.
3. If both emotions are in good faith, they will follow: If both emotions are realized, people will definitely obey and strictly obey. Moreover, since people have both pleasure and fear, their obedience must be honest.
In fact, people do things for people either because of pleasure, because of fear, or both. If you follow, you will be happy, if you violate it, you will be afraid; if you follow, you will be happy, if you violate it, you will be afraid. "Following pleasure and disobeying fear" is both a mechanism and an emotion. "Mechanism + emotion" will inevitably make people obey, which is the mechanism of the law of emotion following.
"The Law of Love Following" is the fundamental basis for social activities;
"The Law of Love Following" is the fundamental basis for solving social problems.
A variety of political activities, economic activities, military activities, consumer activities, various cooperative activities, etc., there are shadows of the "law of love" everywhere. As long as you establish two feelings, you can obtain obedience, which is enough to show the importance of "the law of following love" and it is enough to show that "submitting people with emotions" is the most fundamental way to make people obey.
Emotion promotes people's movement, and follows because of love. Only by following the "love follows the law" can people obey people the most steadily, and only by following the "love follows the law" can people be respected the most and have a clear conscience!
2. In terms of emotion and reason
According to the "law of emotion", if you want people to obey, you must establish two emotions, and the occurrence of two emotions - from pleasure and disobedience is a reason and reasonable:
Aspirations for success lead to happiness, and losing ambition leads to fear
Life ambitions are all "maximizing blessings", which is always like this, and everything is like this. If people can realize their ambitions in life, they will feel happy; if they cannot realize their ambitions in life, they will feel fear. This tells people that as long as they achieve success, they can achieve happiness forever; as long as they make their ambitions lose their ambitions, they can achieve fear forever.
Note: The amount of blessing = average blessing × life
In real life, it is not always easy to establish the two major emotions of "from pleasure and disobey fear". The key lies in the establishment of the two emotions of joy and fear. There are mainly four situations:
1. The two emotions of joy and fear come from "facts and understanding". For example, when creating a "happy" feeling, giving, help, and service should be real, otherwise it will be deception and will make people feel bored; it must also make the object recognize "this fact", otherwise, because people do not know it, they will not have a good impression. Only by having both the facts of building love and the understanding of building love can we always achieve two love.
2. Pleasure and fear come from "compliance or confrontation". Whether adapting or confronting, can generate powerful emotional power to build joy and fear. Eastern culture focuses on adaptation and adjustment, while Western culture focuses on confronting challenges, and has formed a systematic and rigorous theoretical system.
3. The two activities of Jianyou and Jianyu can adapt to each other. "Refusing to build pleasure" is also a fear of building, and "building fear service" is also a joy of building pleasure, which is very common in people's interactions. People should be good at adapting and flexibly use various emotional construction abilities to build relationships more efficiently.
4. You often have to use outsiders and external objects to successfully build love. , for example, "fear" must be achieved with government support, otherwise it will not be established because it cannot be scared!
In general, if you know the reasons and reasons for "from pleasure and fear", people will have ways to establish two feelings, and people will have ways to improve their ability to build feelings to better make people obey.
3. The way to follow
According to the "law of love", if you want people to obey, you must establish two emotions, and the establishment of two emotions - from pleasure and fear is not always smooth and achieved overnight.
is sometimes simple and easy, sometimes complex and heavy. In fact, the essential process of making people obey is:
is responsible for the pursuit of love, and the control of love is obtained;
is responsible for the love, and the transformation of love is obtained.
Below is my detailed explanation
1. Progress in love: means planning two loves to obtain the basis for building love. The method of building a relationship is equivalent to the planning, planning, planning, etc. commonly mentioned in real life, to obtain the basis for future journey (rescue the power of love, get the opportunity of love, and get the follow-up of love).
Success brings joy, and failure brings fear. As long as you make your ambition successful, you can achieve the feeling of happiness; as long as you make your ambition lose your ambition, you can achieve the feeling of fear.
2. Get the right to win the love: means to conquer the love and gain the power to follow. Follow the planning, research and development, organize drills, compete and hire, etc., in order to obtain the strength to achieve "from pleasure and fear", that is, what people often call service capabilities, rectification capabilities, production capacity, , productivity, etc., in general, it is called power.
Power is a support for establishing two feelings and a bargaining chip for making people obey. People all yearn for having strong power to better make people obey.
3. Reporting to get the message: means telling the two people to get interaction. In real life, like persuasion, consultation, negotiation, communication, etc., it is also the essential connotation of "advertising". Its purpose is to sign contracts, reach contracts, agree on agreements, etc., and ultimately to obtain an interactive mechanism. There are three main steps:
(1) to attract attention: attracts attention through affinity, entertainment, events, etc.;
(2) Expression: to recognize both emotions through straightforwardness, deduction, narrative, etc.;
(3) to show the story: to recognize both emotions through exhibitions, demonstrations, demonstrations and other activities.
4. Getting from love: means making two loves to gain honest obedience. Since the love between pleasure and fear comes from "facts and knowledge", as long as the facts of the two feelings are formed and the report is done well, you can obtain honest obedience.
People must have a certain ability to do things and report things, and can they effectively form a relationship.
In short, through the above four steps, people can steadily establish two feelings and make people obey. "Seeking the situation to obtain the authority, restrain the situation to obtain the opportunity to obtain the situation to obtain the following" is the most reliable way to follow!
4. Both virtue and ability
In fact, people's purpose is for their own activities, but the process is for outsiders, and all this depends on "both virtue and ability" to achieve best.
"My virtue" and "talent" are both grand concepts and have very grand connotations. They are of great significance to people's understanding of the world and transforming the world, and have great significance to people's ability to live, so that "cultivating virtue and talent" is the main method to improve all abilities. No exception, improving one's ability also starts from "cultivating virtue and cultivating talent":
1. Cultivate virtue and plan with good intentions
The so-called "virtue" means virtue, which mainly refers to following the original heart and following the right path.
Small strategy depends on wisdom, big strategy depends on virtue, full of "outsiderism spirit", which will make people good at "making things to be evidenced" in the process.
After long-term research, I have found that the "morality" that can improve people's abilities mainly include the following twelve types:
(1) Benevolence: has a kind heart, whether it is happy or afraid, it will be twice the result with half the effort.
(2) meaning: understands the difficulties before it, "sential help" is more touching and higher than "icing on the cake".
(3) Etiquette: do what you need before, "building emotions with etiquette" is a safe, efficient and commonly used way to follow.
(4) Letter: Abide by trust when interacting with people, and make the interaction mechanism more stable, so that popularity will increase greatly.
(5) Loyalty: "loyalty" can not only greatly increase one's own value, but also a prerequisite for being reused.
(6) Integrity: "Integrity" can not only make one's mind open-minded, but also greatly improve one's competitiveness.
(7) Frugal: achieves the same or even better results with less investment, which will make people respect it.
(8) Thanksgiving: will not let any help to yourself be "in vain", and outsiders will be more generous in helping you.
(9) Equality: Everyone is equal and treats people equally, which can avoid suspicion, debt and harm caused by "bias".
(10) Tolerance: A free space gift, a certain range of tolerance, are all about helping others.
(11) At a loss: can reduce external difficulties and increase implicit and timely external help, which is conducive to success.
(12) Honesty: can reduce misjudgments from outsiders, reduce unnecessary twists and turns, and the interaction will be smoother.
2. Cultivate talent and do good deeds
The so-called "talent" means talent, which mainly refers to being smart and capable, and being quick to act.
Small success depends on diligence, and big success depends on talent, full of "scientific spirit", which will make people good at "restraining emotions and gaining power, telling emotions and gaining opportunities, and gaining obedience in the process".
After rigorous analysis, I found that there are two main "talents" that can improve people's ability to follow:
(1) Professional talent: is used to "respect the rights and make love to follow". Specifically, it is mainly the ability to solve social difficulties, used for invention, research and development, processing services, etc. With one trick and one way to eat, a "professional talent" can give people powerful power.
(2) Speech talent: is used to "report the opportunity to tell the truth and follow the situation". Specifically, it mainly involves the ability of consultation, persuasion and notification, which is used for communication, advertising, explanation and reporting. Good horses come from their legs and good people come from their mouths, and opportunities always tend to be people who are good at speaking.
Great virtue and good plan, great talent and good deeds
Both virtue and talent are good at making followers, benefiting others and self-interest, and doing everything well, so as to solve life problems is easy.
or above are my research results on "enablement".
Based on the overall concept and the principle of starting from reality, after countless learning, research and testing, I have clarified the fundamental situation of "enable ability", which is of great help to people's lives.
In modern society, about 80% of life tasks must be completed with the participation of "following" and the ability to apply in all aspects of life. Strong ability is a great blessing for people, which is beneficial to mood, safety, health, ability, and resources, and will ultimately make people's lives happier!
Author of this article: Huo Shuangwu
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