Recently, an Fuyang Normal University , a senior boy posted on a short video platform about his daily life, his wife and one-year-old daughter, which aroused heated discussions among netizens.
In this boy's short video account, you can see life videos such as family of three going out for a trip and celebrating their children's birthday in another place. According to the boy, he met his wife in his second year of high school. They got married in their sophomore year and had a daughter in their junior year.
Nowadays, it is not rare for college students to get married and have children, but controversy continues. Netizens also gave many different opinions on boys who showed their love in such a high-profile manner.
Some netizens said that having both wives and daughters so early is simply a "winner in life"; some netizens said that it is enough for two people to live well, and they understand, respect and blessings; some netizens said that students have no independent source of living, and they can only rely on their parents if they have children...
The comment section of this matter was very fierce, and they pointed to a question: Should we get married and have children during college?
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can know some details from the short videos posted by this boy and the interviews he received. For example, the marriage was approved by both parents, there was no pressure to get a car loan and mortgage loan. The child was taken care of by parents, and he would go home to take care of the child on weekends. His wife took a leave of school for one year due to giving birth. In the future, she would find a stable job in her hometown. She planned to find a stable job as soon as possible after graduation to support her family...
From these details, we can feel that this couple is lucky. With the help of their parents, life and study are maintained relatively balanced. The marriage age of both parties meets the legal age of marriage. As outsiders, they do not have any right to criticize their life choices. However, when you choose to get married and have children during college, especially when you are still in the stage of learning and not entering the stage of internship and looking for a job, can you imitate this choice as a model representing "freedom of marriage and love"?
Yuyuanjun thinks it is obviously impossible.
Legally speaking, college students can of course choose whether to get married or have children on the premise of meeting the legal age of marriage. However, in the main task is to learn professional knowledge, and to set lifelong events and even raise offspring at the stage of initial contact with society. This must be considered carefully.
(Source: China Social Science Network )
Just entered university, and many students are still in the stage of independence from their original families, and they cannot even be adapted to society. This stage is the time to find the direction of future life and explore possible. The first few years of college were a window period for students who were preparing to enter society to provide knowledge and abilities, giving themselves more time and opportunities to learn the knowledge they were interested in and discover the job that suits them. Make full use of this time and will surely provide more guarantees for their future life.
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I believe that when reading the relevant reports on this matter, many people will realize one thing: the wife of the same college student has never appeared in front of the camera. As a woman, she will be affected even more in terms of childbirth. This boy can still take care of his family without interrupting his studies, but the girl has to choose to take a leave of school for a year to take care of her health. After graduation, she finds a job in her hometown, putting her family first. What impact will this have on the girl’s future? Everything is unknown.
(Source: The Paper )
Bounce out of this news itself. Many times, choosing to get married when your peers are still studying knowledge and first explore society is not out of rational considerations, but because of some accidents. In the face of this accident, whether forced by the family environment or the social atmosphere, the pressure on women is undoubtedly greater. Under the pressure brought by this accident and the accident, the two sides often make "compromises that weigh the pros and cons", rather than "decisions after rational thinking". The senior boy also said that because he had a family, he chose to give up plans such as teaching in remote areas and taking the postgraduate entrance examination. In order to prevent yourself from being so passive in important choices in life, no matter boys or girls, they should be cautious when it comes to getting married during college.
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Search for news like "pregnancy and marriage during college" online, and you can find that many men and women are sharing their mental journey. Among them, there are also mentions that "early marriage and early childbirth" can work harder more during the rising period of career after entering the workplace and recover faster when you are young. After identifying your partner, it is of course a good thing to think that the two of them work together for their future family as soon as possible.
Tsinghua academic top couple "date" every day to study.
(Source: French and Xuan Theater)
But marriage is different from falling in love, involving both families, child raising, and mutual adjustment between husband and wife. Among many college students who are not well-informed, there are only a few people who have sufficient economic foundation and can consider these comprehensively and maturely. Only by spending your main energy on learning knowledge and improving your knowledge can you and your partner have enough time and a rational and mature mind to face the choice of "graduating first or getting married first", so that your future self can gain more initiative and become a real "winner in life".
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