Brother Zhang, who has been in real estate for 20 years and is well-versed in the industry. I will not be a so-called "expert". I only use twenty years of practical experience to help everyone answer questions and solve problems.
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It has been a long time since I met again, and I have become much older again.
After three rounds of drinking, Lao Zhang, who had already resigned, came to the senior with a glass of wine, raised his glass to toast, thanking him for his kind reminder of his children's education back then. However, Lao Zhang didn't take it seriously back then, and it was too late to regret it now.
Lao Zhang is a typical grassroots counterattack. His parents are ordinary workers in small street factories and have no education. But he was born with an IQ of 130 and became a "child of other people's families" all the way. After graduation, I went from state-owned enterprises, joint ventures, foreign enterprises to large factories to become executives. It was not a winner in life.
But Lao Zhang resigned this year, not because he was laid off, but because he voluntarily resigned. Because his son took the junior high school entrance examination this year, he had no suspense to enter the technical secondary school. On the one hand, Lao Zhang felt shameless to face his colleagues at work, and on the other hand, he felt ashamed of his son. It doesn't matter whether the money is earned or not, but the son can no longer let it go. So he resigned and went home to concentrate on studying and education. Even if his son was already like this, he should try his best to become a talent, and at least have the ability to settle down.
The senior's kind reminder mentioned by Lao Zhang probably was when his son was still in the lower grade several years ago. At that time, there was also such a party. Lao Zhang joked that he was busy with work and often couldn't see his son for half a month. Every time he met, he felt like he had met again after a long time, and he could even notice that his son had grown taller and fatter.
Everyone laughed, only the seniors didn’t. He reminded Lao Zhang not to ignore his children’s education and have a sense of crisis. Our generation and the previous generations are too poor. Now, there is a sudden opportunity to make money, and it is easy to be unable to control the rhythm, which delays children in order to make money. If the child is not well educated or has not achieved academic success, what is the point of making even more money?
At that time, everyone didn’t care much about it because we all studied well, otherwise we would not have been able to get into college. Therefore, we cannot say that we do not pay attention to children's education, but we are not too worried. We always feel that our children cannot be too bad. Of course, we all understand the principle of "mean regression" and know that children will most likely not inherit their parents' IQ. But it is not that bad, so I secretly think that the senior is worried and is selling anxiety.
Lao Zhang was the one who cares the most. At that time, he said that the child was still young, and if he grew up, he would naturally strengthen education, and the child himself would understand the importance of learning. And anyway, the family has a lot of assets, so don’t expect your children to learn, just go with the flow. The senior
said nothing, but just reminded the truth that "seeking it above and getting it inside". Then I talked about the most popular coat brother at that time. I didn’t say it clearly, but everyone understood what he wanted to express. At that time, Lao Zhang definitely didn't take it seriously, otherwise he wouldn't have come to thank him today. This feeling can be remembered, but it was too disappointing at that time.
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At that time, Brother Coat was already very famous and should have made a lot of money. It is said that he earned tens of millions of dollars a year. But it has also caused a lot of trouble, all of which are between the villagers and the villagers. For example, if someone queued up to ask him to borrow money, he would not pay it back, and he would be scolded for repairing bridges and roads in the village.
The mainstream arguments at that time were all condemning the villagers for being ruthless and unrighteous. Of course, this is the mainstream opinion until now. But the senior put forward a point at that time, that is, the villagers' consciousness remains unchanged for millions of years, and this is human nature. Who stimulated the outbreak of humanity among the villagers? It's Brother Coat. Why? Because he had never controlled such a huge amount of property and had not learned how to use this power.
To put it more, the essence of money in society is a kind of power.Other powers include violence, administration, professionalism, words and deeds, and traditions. Each power has a different way of expressing it. When anyone suddenly gains power, or realizes that he has a certain power, he will not use it at all. Just like a child gets a machete, not only can he not swing it, but he will also hurt himself if he doesn't do it well.
Wealth is the most confusing power. If you are rich at first, you don’t know how to benefit from it, which means this situation. The windfall from heaven can make everyone unable to find Bei, and even know who they are. This is not only Brother Coat, but everyone is the same and they will be too arrogant. Then it must be backfired by this power, but some people can wake up, while others are obsessed with it. But even if you wake up, you will inevitably have some consequences, and some of them are even irreversible.
At that time, the senior also gave an example, which was very devastating to the three views. It was possible that Wu Dalang could not die, but because of the sudden appearance of Wu Song , Wu Da gained power, and without being able to use it, it caused a life-threatening disaster.
You can look at Water Margin or Jin Ping Mei. Wuhan University was originally an ordinary person at the bottom. He was short and incompetent. A younger brother even ran away because he hurt someone, so he could only live alone. Why did Dahu Zhang marry Pan Jinlian to him? Because he fell in love with Wuhan University, he knew that even if he had an affair with Xiao Pan in front of him, Wuhan University would never dare to resist. This is true. After marrying Pan Jinlian, Wuhan University knew that she still had an affair with Dahu Zhang, but she couldn't afford to offend her, so she could only swallow her anger. However, suddenly Wu Song appeared, and he appeared as a tiger-beating hero and the head of the county. Then what did Wuhan University gain at this time? He has supported power, violence and administrative power, and no one dares to bully him again.
If it were the past, then Pan Jinlian and Ximen Qing would have endured it, because he really couldn't afford to offend other people's high-ranking officials. If you bear it, you can still get some money, but if you can't bear it, you can only be beaten and humiliated and have nothing to do.
But now it’s different. Wu Da has a brother like Wu Song, and he has power and can’t bear it anymore. So he recklessly went to catch the adulterer by himself, but was beaten and even poisoned to death. And the reason why he was poisoned to death was because of his words that threatened Pan Jinlian: Wait for my brother to come back!
Wuhan University does have power, but it has not used it well. Originally, if Wu Song came back first, it would be another ending, but the novel could not be rewritten. If Wu Da died, he would die. It was very frustrating and helpless.
Wealth is even more power. Wealth is rich in the mountains and has distant relatives. Money can make ghosts push the grinds, and more money can even help the gods. Brother Coat didn't use this power at the beginning, so he not only felt wronged, but also brought criticism from the village.
The question is, if you were rich, how would you use this power?
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Brother Coat does not know how to use wealth and is also reflected in his education of his children.
According to common sense, even if Chinese people are not rich, they know the importance of education. If Brother Coat is not getting rich, he is an ordinary person. Even if his two children are not good at studying, they are likely to become ordinary people and farm for a simple life. They just live a lifelong life of marriage and having children.
But Brother Coat suddenly became rich, and his two children were confused. According to the report of his son at that time, after learning that his family had so much money, he immediately felt that going to school was boring. Wouldn't he be able to live a good life without going to school?
so anyway, my son started to skip school. As long as Brother Coat went out to perform, his son would not go to school immediately. Of course, Brother Coat has also been anxious and has taken care of it. He even wants the child to enter high-quality private office, or invites a few good teachers to teach at home.But both the school and the teacher eventually rejected Brother Coat.
then no one cares about his son. The most meaningful career he engages in every day is to play games, and even to the point where he forgets to eat and sleep. He plays games for several days and nights, and doesn’t even eat food, and he relies on snacks to satisfy his hunger in the dark.
Anyway, the report said that his two children had dropped out of school, and soon they went from being quite handsome to eating into a big fat man, or even an "obsimilary".
And Brother Coat doesn't care and always defends his children. It is understandable that children love snacks, but I have said of them, but I don’t listen. But that doesn't matter, just grow up. Anyway, I don’t want them to achieve much. I can just have a safe life with food and drink at home.
At that time, our senior commented on Brother Coat's behavior and defense, saying that this was actually making excuses for yourself and making excuses for your compromise. It is his repeated compromises to reality that ultimately the path he takes will definitely become a pit in his future life. I understand all the principles mentioned by senior
, but the word "compromise" still makes me feel very moved. Indeed, anyone’s life is full of compromise, but in fact it is just giving up efforts.
The so-called letting things go is nothing more than a self-deprecating classical Chinese rhetoric. A broken can also be said to be content with the situation, and a peaceful life is even more peaceful. Compromise makes you more confusing. It seems to be the result of negotiation with life, but in fact it is just your unilateral abandonment. In this society and life never negotiate with you. People only know that the way of heaven is permanent and all choices have to pay the price.
Brother Coat's two children now see everything. The result is not too bad. It's just the trouble of getting married, divorced, and then getting married. My daughter is nothing more than being cheated of pyramid schemes and becoming fat. She is not a prodigal son at least, and is much better than many who cheat their parents. But if Brother Coat himself said this sentence, is it also a compromise? Just fool yourself, otherwise there is no good idea. Once the time for education is missed, it is difficult to find it back.
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Half Zhang must have not cared about what his senior said at the time. He did have his own capital and didn't care. With family conditions, you can afford any school district housing and any private school can afford it. Not to mention cram schools and good teachers, as long as it can be solved with money, it is not a problem.
But Lao Zhang and his wife must regret it now. Their son only went to a technical secondary school in a top school. What can we say? If you miss the age to develop good study habits, you can only make up for it later.
Lao Zhang regrets his compromise with his son. When he was addicted to games, he felt that the child was just curious and that he would stop playing when he was tired of playing. When the child cracked the bank password for grandparents, he felt that it was just that the child had no idea about money, so it would be better if he was older. When the teacher reminded him that the child's grades were very poor, he felt that no matter how bad he was, he would go to high school and work hard before the college entrance examination. It was not until the teacher asked them to choose a school that was not a general high school. Lao Zhang was panicked. He asked me which school was the best? I can't answer, I can only say: When we were in school, we were the most developed era of vocational high-tech schools. Do you still remember which one is very good?
Half Zhang once again compromised. This time there is really nothing he can do. What can I do if I don’t compromise? After all, only the scores are recognized in the high school entrance examination. I advise him to consider international schools. It is likely that he is better than technical secondary school. It is nothing more than spending more money on making up for the course. If you have a million, you should be able to keep up with the course.
But Lao Zhang didn't want to compromise this time, so he quit his vocational college heart learning education. I don’t know what he is going to do next, but what is certain is that he must have made up his mind to never let his children become giant babies and must not compromise with the world all his life.
Before, he didn’t understand why Haidian Gaozhi tiger moms are so anxious? The conditions of any school are not bad, and it doesn’t matter if the child doesn’t get the exam. But now he understood that once he compromised, there would be endless troubles. Tiger moms may not have high expectations for their children, but they may only get it if they want it. Once compromise becomes a habit, what they get may be a prodigal son, and they dare not imagine it.
Lastly, it is not that anxiety is a good thing, but parents should be more likely to have a sense of crisis. After all, there is only one best study period for anyone, and once you miss it, you will regret it.
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