Author: Yun Danfeng Qing
" Neijing " says: "If anger comes, the qi will rise, and it will hurt the organs; if the organs are injured, it will cause illness." In other words, all diseases come from anger.
A few years ago, I went to the hospital to visit my dad. In the corridor, I saw a man being driven to the ward by two people. His upper body was like an inflatable doll, and his face turned pale. The painful look makes people feel distressed when you see it.
I asked my dad, "What disease did he have?" My dad said, "I heard from his family that he was angry with his wife, so angry." "Ah, how can you make people so angry?" I was shocked.
The next day, he heard further news: his wife divorced him, saying that he was too angry and could not stand it. I spent money and suffered, and my family was still separated.
In fact, everyone understands that whether it is angry, calculating, or complaining, these negative emotions will affect people's physical and mental health and make life a mess. But many people can't change it, or they don't know what to do?
The book "Three Nosenses to Cultivate the Mind" says: "If you are angry, you will hurt people a lot; if you care, you will be tired; if you complain, you will be angry and disgusted."
So, how do experts deal with these negative emotions? Let’s learn: it’s better to be ambitious than to be angry; it’s better to work hard than to be calculating; it’s better to change than to complain.
1.Corruption
There is a saying on the Internet: "People who cannot be angry are fools. People who do not get angry are wise."
Indeed, as long as people with normal IQ are unhappy things, they will inevitably get angry. But the wise are the wise.
There is a newly graduated college student who majors in English. He thought that his English was no problem no matter whether he listened, spoke, read or wrote.
When he submitted his resume to foreign companies, he thought that foreign companies would rush to ask for him. However, after posting resumes, they were all over the sea. Just when he was uneasy, he received a reply from a foreign company.
letter harshly wrote: "Our company does not lack people. Even if there is a lack of position, it will not hire you. Although you think you have a high English level, judging from the resume you wrote, your English writing ability is very poor, probably only at the level of a high school student, and even some commonly used grammars are full of errors." After reading
, he was furious and was about to pick up his pen and scold him to relieve his anger. But then I thought, there is no reason to harm me if I have no grudges or grudges? Or I am self-righteous and have not noticed any mistakes.
After self-reflection, the anger in my heart gradually subsided. He wrote a letter of thanks in particular. Surprisingly, a few days later, he received a reply from this foreign company: He was admitted.
Don’t punish yourself for other people’s mistakes, don’t be badly evaluated by others to influence your emotions. You are a truly thoughtful wise man.
Carnegie said: "If a person has happy thoughts, then he will be happy; if a person has miserable thoughts, then he will be miserable."
can be sure that what determines the result is not the good or bad temper, but the height of the person's thinking. If you have high awareness, the direction of things is positive. If you have low awareness or no awareness, you will naturally fall into negative emotions and have no chance of good things.
Because people will lose their demands on themselves at the moment of anger. Without constraints, negative energy will be unruly, which will prevent you from solving the problem. It hurts you and your body.
. By introspection, the thought will rise to another level and the mentality will completely change. Just like a compass, it points out the right direction: it can replace rebuttal, tolerate the other party, and calms the anger.
Change your mindset and your attitude will change. If your attitude changes, your life will change as well.
anyway, if you don’t get angry, you will win.
2. Can accommodate
Throughout history, looking back at those successful careers, they are all knowledgeable people with broad minds and ability to control their emotions. The reason why they succeed is because they can tolerate small things.
Ma Ji is a famous crosstalk performance artist. There was a time when there was no performance arrangement due to schedules.
Author: Yun Danfeng Qing
" Neijing " says: "If anger comes, the qi will rise, and it will hurt the organs; if the organs are injured, it will cause illness." In other words, all diseases come from anger.
A few years ago, I went to the hospital to visit my dad. In the corridor, I saw a man being driven to the ward by two people. His upper body was like an inflatable doll, and his face turned pale. The painful look makes people feel distressed when you see it.
I asked my dad, "What disease did he have?" My dad said, "I heard from his family that he was angry with his wife, so angry." "Ah, how can you make people so angry?" I was shocked.
The next day, he heard further news: his wife divorced him, saying that he was too angry and could not stand it. I spent money and suffered, and my family was still separated.
In fact, everyone understands that whether it is angry, calculating, or complaining, these negative emotions will affect people's physical and mental health and make life a mess. But many people can't change it, or they don't know what to do?
The book "Three Nosenses to Cultivate the Mind" says: "If you are angry, you will hurt people a lot; if you care, you will be tired; if you complain, you will be angry and disgusted."
So, how do experts deal with these negative emotions? Let’s learn: it’s better to be ambitious than to be angry; it’s better to work hard than to be calculating; it’s better to change than to complain.
1.Corruption
There is a saying on the Internet: "People who cannot be angry are fools. People who do not get angry are wise."
Indeed, as long as people with normal IQ are unhappy things, they will inevitably get angry. But the wise are the wise.
There is a newly graduated college student who majors in English. He thought that his English was no problem no matter whether he listened, spoke, read or wrote.
When he submitted his resume to foreign companies, he thought that foreign companies would rush to ask for him. However, after posting resumes, they were all over the sea. Just when he was uneasy, he received a reply from a foreign company.
letter harshly wrote: "Our company does not lack people. Even if there is a lack of position, it will not hire you. Although you think you have a high English level, judging from the resume you wrote, your English writing ability is very poor, probably only at the level of a high school student, and even some commonly used grammars are full of errors." After reading
, he was furious and was about to pick up his pen and scold him to relieve his anger. But then I thought, there is no reason to harm me if I have no grudges or grudges? Or I am self-righteous and have not noticed any mistakes.
After self-reflection, the anger in my heart gradually subsided. He wrote a letter of thanks in particular. Surprisingly, a few days later, he received a reply from this foreign company: He was admitted.
Don’t punish yourself for other people’s mistakes, don’t be badly evaluated by others to influence your emotions. You are a truly thoughtful wise man.
Carnegie said: "If a person has happy thoughts, then he will be happy; if a person has miserable thoughts, then he will be miserable."
can be sure that what determines the result is not the good or bad temper, but the height of the person's thinking. If you have high awareness, the direction of things is positive. If you have low awareness or no awareness, you will naturally fall into negative emotions and have no chance of good things.
Because people will lose their demands on themselves at the moment of anger. Without constraints, negative energy will be unruly, which will prevent you from solving the problem. It hurts you and your body.
. By introspection, the thought will rise to another level and the mentality will completely change. Just like a compass, it points out the right direction: it can replace rebuttal, tolerate the other party, and calms the anger.
Change your mindset and your attitude will change. If your attitude changes, your life will change as well.
anyway, if you don’t get angry, you will win.
2. Can accommodate
Throughout history, looking back at those successful careers, they are all knowledgeable people with broad minds and ability to control their emotions. The reason why they succeed is because they can tolerate small things.
Ma Ji is a famous crosstalk performance artist. There was a time when there was no performance arrangement due to schedules.
One day, he was on the bus and heard two young people talking: "I heard that something happened to Ma Ji and he had been arrested." Another said: "No way? The TV station also broadcasted his crosstalk two days ago." "That was recorded long ago."
is such a coincidence. Ma Ji sat next to them, listening to their conversation, but instead of arguing, he shrank his head into his collar.
The mouth grows on others, but it is someone else's business. It’s your own business to be careful. If you are calculating, you will never know what the other person will say after you.
Maybe if you make you even more angry, you may fight because of your emotions. Even if an apology is an embarrassment to both sides.
without caring about it will not only save yourself time and energy, but will not destroy your mood, and may also avoid a disaster. Regardless of the outcome, the outcome can only be that one thousand enemies will hurt you and eight hundred of them.
However, don’t worry, it’s not just silence, but also to restore the facts and make explanations.
Former US President Andrew Johnson , in his inaugural speech, someone suddenly shouted in the audience, "He is just a tailor!" Faced with the ridicule, Johnson was not angry, but took it calmly.
He smiled and said, "A gentleman said I was a tailor in the past, and that's true. But I didn't feel embarrassed about it because when I was a tailor, I enjoyed a good reputation.
I am enthusiastic and thoughtful to my customers. Even if I am just a tailor, I can achieve outstanding results." As soon as I finished speaking, the audience burst into applause.
Smart people know how to give in. It is a big picture to not get involved in bad people and trivial matters, and to spend time on major events that realize your future.
Those who do big things are broad-minded and can tolerate people and things. As long as you do not violate the rules and regulations and do not exceed the bottom line of being a human being, you can pass by it. Those who are petty and only look at the smallest place in front of them will naturally not achieve great things. Everything in the world is proportional.
If you care about it, you will have more worries; if you look open, you will have less worries.
don’t care, don’t be in trouble with yourself. It is wise to cherish the happiness in front of you.
3.教文
In a resort outside London, Harry opened a restaurant and was busy every day. On that day, Harry was busy in the kitchen. The waiter came in with a plate of fried potatoes and said to Harry, "The customer said it was cut too thick."
Harry glanced and thought to himself, it was so cut in the past, no customer complained that it was thick. However, without saying a word, he made a new portion and cut the potatoes thinner as required.
But a few minutes later, the waiter brought it back angrily and said to Harry, "That customer must have been deliberately looking for trouble, complaining about me, complaining that we were still cutting it thick."
Harry held back his temper, said nothing, cut the potatoes thinner, frying them golden brown, and sprinkled a little salt on it, so that the waiter could serve it again.
After a while, the waiter returned to the kitchen enthusiastically and said to Harry: "The guests were very happy this time, and the other guests praised it. They ordered a few more servings." From then on, this potato chip became the restaurant's signature dish. Harry also became famous in one fell swoop.
doesn't complain, sometimes it's another way to get it. Just like a loser, it brings unexpected benefits.
There is a passage on the Internet: "Complainting is like pouring water into your shoes, which will only make the road more difficult to walk in the future. After complaining, people who complain not only make others feel sad, but their mood is often worse. Not only does the resentment in their hearts not decrease, but they become more."
There are many unsatisfactory things in life and work. If you have too little energy and always complain, you will be surrounded by negative energy, which will definitely affect your mood. Only by enlarging your mind and spending your time and energy on doing meaningful things is nothing.
As the writer He Quanfeng said: "If you get bigger, complaining will become smaller; if you have broader your mind, the road will become wider; if you have big enough, the problem will disappear.
Don't complain, you are good to yourself.You can't lose in life to bad moods.
4.
Bai Yansong said: "No matter whether you admit it or not, the more successful a person is, the more self-disciplined; self-discipline can almost determine whether your career is successful or not."
deeply agrees.
Everyone wants to make a difference in the career field they love and help happiness. But the vision is beautiful, and it is difficult to achieve this goal without self-discipline.
self-discipline is the prerequisite for achieving all goals. Everyone may have bad emotions in targeting things that they are unfair or ununderstood. Self-discipline can help stop losses in a timely manner.
Don’t get angry, your body will be healthy. Health is your lifelong support; not caring about it means not being able to get along with yourself. Relax your mindset and work hard, and the future will be expected; if you don’t complain, it will not affect your mood. As long as you believe in yourself, you will not be disturbed by external factors and put your energy into creation, why worry about not being able to achieve results?
Writer Made once said: "This world seems to be noisy around you, with all kinds of people, all mud and sand. In essence, it is still your own world. If you clarify, the world will be clean; if you are simple, the world will be difficult to complex."
uses love to run through your entire life, and you will find that you are happier than anyone else.
Author profile: The clouds are calm and the wind is light. Multi-platform special contributor
You can't lose in life to bad moods.4.
Bai Yansong said: "No matter whether you admit it or not, the more successful a person is, the more self-disciplined; self-discipline can almost determine whether your career is successful or not."
deeply agrees.
Everyone wants to make a difference in the career field they love and help happiness. But the vision is beautiful, and it is difficult to achieve this goal without self-discipline.
self-discipline is the prerequisite for achieving all goals. Everyone may have bad emotions in targeting things that they are unfair or ununderstood. Self-discipline can help stop losses in a timely manner.
Don’t get angry, your body will be healthy. Health is your lifelong support; not caring about it means not being able to get along with yourself. Relax your mindset and work hard, and the future will be expected; if you don’t complain, it will not affect your mood. As long as you believe in yourself, you will not be disturbed by external factors and put your energy into creation, why worry about not being able to achieve results?
Writer Made once said: "This world seems to be noisy around you, with all kinds of people, all mud and sand. In essence, it is still your own world. If you clarify, the world will be clean; if you are simple, the world will be difficult to complex."
uses love to run through your entire life, and you will find that you are happier than anyone else.
Author profile: The clouds are calm and the wind is light. Multi-platform special contributor
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