On September 15, 2022, Ma Jinyu posted a video on Weibo, saying that he published an article "Whale Falls|Resurrection", which was an explanation of his life over the past year.

On September 15, 2022, Ma Jinyu posted a video on Weibo, saying that he published an article "Whale Falls | Resurrection", which is an explanation of his life over the past year.

She said that in the past life, she also had something wrong with her, and love may not be the whole of life.

Once upon a time, she was desperate for love and married a young man from Tibetan areas, which was once a legend.

As a result, she fell into a love fairy tale like a moth flying into a fire, and ended up in self-destruction.

In 2016, she said in a CCTV program that she would not leave Qinghai because there were people and things she loved there.

But in the end, she broke her promise. In 2018, she fled from Qinghai with her three children.

In 2021, she wrote an article titled "Another "Ram"" about her husband's domestic violence and cheating. As soon as the article

was released, it quickly became a hot search. At the same time, she was attacked by unprecedented cyber violence and tsunami.

In the face of huge pressure, she suffered from severe depression and lived like a walking corpse and almost died.

Fortunately, she was dragged by many loving hands and eventually stayed in the world.

Now, she takes her children to live in Mongolian grassland , finds a new job and starts a new life.

A person’s rebirth comes at a price, but in the end it will make people more rational and stronger than before.

It can be said that Ma Jinyu's love began with a beautiful life, but after marriage, it ended in a mess.

Meeting the wrong person at the wrong time and in the wrong place is a kind of wrong love.

Wrong love is not love, this kind of love is a disaster.

(Ma Jinyu and Taxi)

Acquaintance 47 days of flash marriage

There are too many descriptions on the Internet about the love story between Ma Jinyu and her husband Taxi, almost the same.

The most incredible thing is that as a famous journalist in a metropolis, a top student at Shanghai University , her attitude towards the impulse of love.

She and Taxi got married after only 47 days of acquaintance. This speed is jaw-dropping.

You should know that Ma Jinyu has worked as a reporter in well-known media such as Southern Metropolis Daily and Beijing News , and has also won awards such as the Asian News Award.

and Taxi is a beekeeper of Qinghai-Tibet Plateau . Collecting honey in the mountains is the whole of his life.

Two strangers who are two parallel lines of fate unexpectedly have an intersection of love.

In July 2010, Ma Jinyu went to Guide County, Qinghai to interview beekeepers and met Thaxi.

At that time, Ma Jinyu was 32 years old and Tashi was 29 years old, three years younger than her.

As soon as the two met, Tashi blushed.

He even went to the Bodhisattva to pray, and this may be my future wife. I hope the Bodhisattva will bless her with peace all the way.

Later, Ma Jinyu left Qinghai, and Taxi missed her day and night.

One day, he drank wine and mustered up the courage to call Ma Jinyu to confess his love.

On the phone, Tashi cried, and she cried too, and accepted Tashi's confession without hesitation.

htmlOn September 8, she returned to Qinghai to register for marriage with Taxi. Is

very magical? What seemed impossible actually happened.

People in the village of Zhaxi don’t believe this at all. For a time, there were many different opinions:

Some people say that Ma Jinyu has a problem in his head;

Some people say that Tashi is charming and seduced Ma Jinyu;

Some people say that Ma Jinyu is a rich woman, and that Tashi is greedy for money...

A fucking sister of Ma Jinyu called her late at night, and she cried bitterly:

You got married like this, and you were ruined by yourself in this life.

Only in February 2011 did colleagues learn about her marriage. At that time, she attended the annual meeting and was pregnant.As soon as the news of

came out, it quickly became the headline of gossip within the newspaper.

Ma Jinyu's colleagues said that they were simply broken when they heard this news.

Another colleague who has a good relationship with Ma Jinyu was shocked to say that his colleagues were not optimistic about her marriage.

Before, there was a story about a white-collar worker marrying Mosuo people , but I didn’t expect that such a story actually happened to Ma Jinyu.

All shock and opposition appear pale and powerless. The facts are there, no one can change them.

(Ma Jinyu talks about the local people's discussion)

In fact, a reporter asked Ma Jinyu what she felt when she first met Taxi?

She answered that she didn't know, which was highly consistent with the word "confused" she used when describing her love and marriage.

Is Gao Zhi, who has been a reporter for 14 years, really confused when marrying a semi-illiterate beekeeper who has never left the family?

In her subconscious, there are two complexes that prompted her to make this choice without hesitation.

One is a romantic complex. Before

, she visited Yushu and was shocked by the traditional culture and ancient customs there.

In her eyes, this land of Qinghai is full of mystery and romance, which makes her yearn for.

The second is a kind complex.

She was moved by the kindness and sincerity of Tashi. The scene of him caring for the queen bee and chanting scriptures and praying for it made her believe that he was a kind person.

She once praised Tashi and felt that his heart was as pure as a spring.

She said that she would never divorce after marriage, and she wanted to find a kind person.

Kindness is Ma Jinyu's standard for choosing a spouse; romance is Ma Jinyu's label for pursuing ideals.

She told her colleagues about her marriage, but she kept it from her family for a long time.

Even though she had a child, her family didn't know that her mother had never seen her grandchildren when she died.

. My husband Thaxi has only seen Ma Jinyu's father twice, and his other family members have never seen him at all, so naturally there is no relationship.

Can their marriage not favored by most people usher in a fairy tale ending?

(Reporter asked Ma Jinyu's attitude towards love)

endured divorce for 11 years

After getting married, Ma Jinyu continued to be a reporter. The fairy tale she expected did not come, and she soon regretted it.

In December 2011, Taxi left Qinghai for the first time and went to Beijing to find Ma Jinyu who worked there.

He has been in Beijing for almost two months and always asks some questions that make Ma Jinyu laugh and cry:

"Why are everyone on the subway sleeping in the morning?"

"Why isn't anyone laughing?"

"Why is the meat here so bad? The water is so bad?"

"Why is the sky here always gray?"

After the birth of his eldest son, Ma Jinyu ran around. Every one or two months, she went back to Qinghai, stayed for a day or two and then rushed back to work.

When her son was 8 months old, she wanted to hug him, but he turned his head and refused, and he didn't know his mother.

When her son was 11 months old, she went to Hangzhou for an interview and used a basket to hold him in front of her chest, which made the interviewee feel distressed.

Until the Spring Festival in 2012, she had no intention of staying in Qinghai.

The huge difference in culture and customs, backward medical and transportation conditions, and language barriers made her feel huge regret and cursed herself in her heart: Why did she run here?

At this time, her ambition to stay in Qinghai had long disappeared.

But she couldn't leave because she had a child and had concerns. Besides, Taxi was afraid that she would run away, so she hid marriage certificate .

At this time, the relationship between the two has deteriorated.

What happened before pushed the relationship between the two into the abyss.

On September 2011, Ma Jinyu accompanied Taxi to Xining for medical treatment, and took his eldest son who was more than two months old.

Results On the way back, there was a car accident.

All three were injured. The son was the most serious. He stayed in in intensive care unit for 19 days. The person was rescued, but he left serious sequelae.

After the son's car accident, there were rumors in the local area that Thaxi shouldn't have married Ma Jinyu, otherwise this would not have happened.

, and Taxi's irritable temper also appeared. When he was in the hospital, he smashed the thing on Ma Jinyu's face in front of many people.

(Taxi shows the bees he raises)

Since 2012, Ma Jinyu has tried to sell Taxi's honey and local specialties online.

As the business grows bigger and bigger, the conflict between the two is getting deeper and deeper.

Arguing became commonplace. After a disagreement, the two of them started to fight. Ma Jinyu filed for divorce several times.

In early 2015, Ma Jinyu mustered up the courage to resign from the unit. After Tashi found out, the two started a big quarrel.

In the view of Tashi, Ma Jinyu works at least a fixed income of several thousand yuan per month, while his honey income is unstable.

Then, the situation reversed.

Originally, Ma Jinyu was in the upper hand, she was a family member, and Taxi was climbing a high point.

Every time you quarrel and fight, Taxi is in a passive state and gives in to Ma Jinyu.

Nowadays, both of them have become jobless people and are on the same starting line.

Thaxi's father once told him to give in to his wife, listen to her, she worked outside and saw the world.

And that summer, my father was in a car accident and left, and Taxi threw his father's advice out of the sky.

His macho thoughts rose and began to abuse Ma Jinyu, from a warm man who was originally kind and sincere, to a vicious domestic violence man.

In order not to let others laugh at me, Ma Jinyu swallowed his anger and was reluctant to speak out.

But what happened later became the last straw that crushed her to death.

Thaxi cheated on a female worker in Tibetan and was caught by Ma Jinyu. She rushed to the hotel, collected evidence and took photos, and recorded the sound.

But afterwards, Taxi denied it in every way, saying that he had not cheated and was legally responsible for every word he said.

In the face of evidence, he ignored the facts and tried his best to defend himself, which seemed childish and ridiculous.

Then, the two had a conversation.

Ma Jinyu said, divorce, it’s boring to keep going like this.

, and Taxi asked Ma Jinyu to keep this matter secret, and told the public that they had made up.

It has come to this point, and he still takes into account the face of the big man and struggles to hold on.

When he didn't know that he had cheated, did he think about what he said before, "Minyu is going to be the best in the world?"

I don’t cherish the relationship between the two, so why should I pretend to be fat?

In an interview, he insisted that Ma Jinyu did not file for divorce.

On August 2, 2017, Ma Jinyu wrote in his circle of friends: "Thaxi and I are separated and we will go through divorce procedures soon."

, while Taxi spoke on Weibo, saying that it is not easy to take care of three children, and he also misses Ma Jinyu.

Ma Jinyu denied this, and she said that this was just his way, and the truth was that he wanted to save face.

In July 2018, Ma Jinyu took away three children and left Taxi.

In 2021, Ma Jinyu's article "Another Ram" became a hit on the Internet and became a catalyst for the divorce between the two.

It seems that Ma Jinyu has made up his mind to no longer endure it and to end this 11-year marriage.

(Taxi denies domestic violence and infidelity)

Marriage is not a joke

The matter between Ma Jinyu and Taxi has caused a lot of controversy on the Internet.

Some people accused Ma Jinyu of being a love brain , and some people even said that she had planned to marry Taxi, and was to become famous and seek more benefits.

I don’t agree with the latter statement.

A woman, a woman with a certain fame and status, will she marry a farmer without money or status for the sake of so-called fame and fortune?

Step back ten thousand steps, at most, she can maintain the status quo and live a happy and carefree life.

If it is not true love, why should she suffer so much?

Ma Jinyu was impulsive at the beginning and chose to marry Tashi for the so-called romance and ideal in his heart.

But boys and girls, marriage is not a joke.

You can pursue a passionate love, but before getting married, you must think twice before doing it.

Ma Jinyu once said that he didn't know why he agreed to Taxi.

Maybe she was stung by a bee during an interview, and Tashi's care moved her; maybe it was Tashi's phone confession that made her heart moved...

But her rash marriage to Tashi was undoubtedly a bit rash, and she was stunned by love.

Even if the whole world opposes her, she can't bring back her fall in love.

When Ma Jinyu was scolded and attacked by many people on the Internet, the once kind Taxi also disturbed the situation.

He lay on the hospital bed and said that his real name is Xie Decheng . He is a Han nationality. Ma Jinyu is famous because of him.

He poured all the dirty water on Ma Jinyu, as if in an instant, Ma Jinyu became a sinner of all evil, and he was the victim of his miserable life.

He denies domestic violence , denies cheating, denies abuse of children, and denies everything he did wrong.

A man like this does not cherish the happiness given by God or the people around him who gave everything to him. Instead, when the cold comes, he throws cold water and puts in the insult.

(Thaxi said Ma Jinyu hyped him)

Then, Ma Jinyu took out the recording evidence of his cheating and immediately slapped him in the face.

She also released the alarm materials written on the mobile phone note in 2018, which recorded in detail the process of Xie Decheng's domestic violence, cheating, and abuse of children and witnesses.

Ma Jinyu's desperate love and marriage full of yearning turned into a nightmare that ruined her. Many people who are not optimistic about them have long expected the ending of such

.

Perhaps, Ma Jinyu also had a premonition after marriage, but he just didn't want to face it.

Someone has summarized that for thousands of years, it has nothing but major events such as national affairs, world affairs, life and death affairs, and marriage affairs.

Some people don’t regard marriage as a major event, but as a joke.

What kind of people can marry, what kind of people can't marry, don't think carefully, and the marriage is in a hurry and divorce is also in a hurry, and they are punished by marriage.

Love needs to be evenly matched, marriage needs to be a good match, and it must not be regarded as a joke.

hasty decision to get married, and the ending will be a bruised and crushed.

So, marriage should be taken slowly and don’t be in a hurry.

, etc., understand everything about each other before making a decision. Otherwise, if the three views are not in line with each other, the relationship cannot be cultivated, it will be useless no matter how hard you force it.

More importantly, in the process of slowly making choices, we must see the evil and good of human nature clearly in order to change freely in marriage.

In marriage, overestimating a man's human nature is a disaster.

Ma Jinyu once wrote a passage:

"The most collapsed comes from the heart, from the collapse of belief. All of this requires the fragments of the heart to be stained one by one.

I believe in people and believe in human nature, but the darkness and evil of human nature are always unexpected."

What a painful understanding. Isn't it the same when it comes to her own marriage?

It's a pity, it's too late.

(Ma Jinyu's alarm material)

Personality affects marriage

The two people in the marriage have very important personalities.

The formation of a person's personality depends to a certain extent on the original family and social experience.

978, Ma Jinyu was born in Xinjiang, and his hometown is located in the remote area of ​​Shihezi .

As the eldest daughter in the family, she has two younger brothers. Her father relies on farming and selling cold skin to support the family.

When she was a child, she suffered a lot, so she has long been accustomed to suffering.

From the first grade to the high school, she has to pick up cotton. Even if the weather is cold and the soil is frozen into a hard shell, she has to pick it up.

On the one hand, she is eager to escape from this life, and on the other hand, she misses this life very much afterwards.

On the one hand, she is eager to escape from this life, and on the other hand, she misses this life very much afterwards.

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It can be said that hardship has become an indispensable part of her life.

When she went to college, she worked part-time as a very poor student and went to the dormitory to clean.

She was very grateful to her parents, and they tried her best to support her in college.

The father had a bad temper and often beat her mother, but the two did not divorce and had a lifetime of stumbling.

When she worked in a newspaper, Ma Jinyu has outstanding writing style, writes about the warmth and coldness of the world, and shows true feelings in the subtle areas, and is famous in the circle.

But in life, she is definitely not a slender girl. She is eager to do things, and she is full of fire in the wind. In addition, she has short hair and a little dark skin, which is quite like a tomboy.

There is an annual meeting of one year, and her colleagues took her 3-year-old daughter to attend. Ma Jinyu likes children, so she plays.

After a long time, the child finally asked a question about the soul, are you a man or a woman.

The colleagues burst into laughter, and Ma Jinyu quickly explained: I am a woman, I am a woman!

Another time, she found a good topic and rushed straight to the editor-in-chief's room. As a result, she used too much force and pushed the door panel. The environment and experience of

have shaped her hard-working, carefree, tolerant, paranoid, and compassionate personality, which has affected her later marriage.

(Ma Jinyu and colleagues)

She also joked that she is a naughty boy, a bit 25 and strong.

In order to interview blind artists, she drank barley wine for a month, and until she walked, she leaned against the wall.

In order to get the marriage certificate, she had a big fight with the local staff.

This is easy to understand. Why did she marry Taxi desperately and crush her husband after marriage, which put a lot of pressure on him, so that the conflicts between the two sides continued, and finally escalated and became in trouble.

, and Taxi's family environment is even more miserable. He lost his mother since he was a child, and his father pulled him up.

When I was a child, my friend called him "no mother-in-law". This humiliating experience made him feel inferior and sensitive.

html When he was 113 years old, he followed his father to keep bees on the grassland.

I am used to living a leisurely life. He is a little lazy and will not adapt to the pace a little faster.

On the one hand, he could not tolerate Ma Jinyu's strength, which made him feel embarrassed; on the other hand, he enjoyed the dividends brought to him by Ma Jinyu's strength.

When his father was alive, he tried hard to maintain the relationship between the two.

After his father passed away, Tashi lost control like a horse that broke away from his reins.

He has had enough of it and needs to release the depression and pain in his heart and let himself live with dignity.

So, the other side of his character began to appear, no longer tolerate or surrender, and the conflict between the two became more and more intense.

Speaking of which, both of them are miserable people who have not received much love.

Back then, Ma Jinyu charged Xie Decheng 800 yuan, which became a "sweetness" in his heart.

and Xie Decheng prayed to the Bodhisattva, wishing her everything goes well, and also gave Ma Jinyu a "slight sweetness".

Two people who are seriously lacking in love come together like this.

However, they have the original intention of loving each other, but do not have the ability to love each other. How can both people who lack love give each other a love?

The irreconcilable contradictions in the two people's personalities exacerbated the breakdown of their marriage.

After Ma Jinyu left, Xie Decheng became a poor man again.

And Ma Jinyu himself was in debt and was seriously depressed, and almost died.

None of the two miserable people want to give in. They kill each other, hurt one thousand enemies, and hurt eight hundred of them, and end up in a miserable end.

(Ma Jinyu was interviewed by reporters)

Only when there is a way out is changed

What is gratifying is that Ma Jinyu completely awakened.

In June 2021, accompanied by her lawyer and friends, she went to Guide County, Qinghai to handle the divorce procedures.

She is determined to start over, be a good mother, and be a strong person.

She will never forget those old colleagues and old friends who stood up to help themselves when she was the most helpless.

They used their flesh and blood to form a human wall to block countless cold arrows for her, and endure pain and malice with her.

They encouraged her, and they should write articles well, which is what she is best at.

They told her not to deal with people and things in the world anymore, which was too complicated.

A once depressed media teacher encouraged her to bask in the sun, exercise more, take medicine every day, and not give up on herself.

A sister in the distance told her that she needed to talk to her in the future, no matter what time it was at night, but don’t do stupid things anymore and don’t hurt yourself.

A female worker who has not paid her salary said to her, Xiaoma, you have to work hard, it’s difficult for a few years now, and you have to survive, and the children have grown up, you are the happiest grandma.

So she started writing again, joined a new media company, and created content related to grassland e-commerce products, which is also the nomadic culture she likes.

Her heart was quietly changing, shedding her former vigor and fanaticism, and replaced by peace and peace.

The grassland she and she live in, the people she meets still maintain the ties and affection.

It is this bond and affection that injects strength into her chest and makes her dim eyes shine.

She has the confidence and ability to complete unfinished things, pay off her debts, and fulfill her obligations she has not fulfilled...

(Ma Jinyu who started a new life)

2 years ago, Ma Jinyu followed the disaster relief vehicle of Fund to the Yushu disaster area.

A young volunteer from Fujian died on the way due to severe altitude sickness;

Hong Kong volunteer Lao Huang died in the aftershock after returning to rescue three orphans and a teacher...

Fate often goes ups and downs, and things are always impermanent and unpredictable.

Inadvertently, her youth is gone, and the people and things she has experienced can never come back.

Only by remembering everything you have experienced, including the impulse of youth, the mistakes you have made, the obsession with love, the childishness and innocence on the road of ideals, the confusion and struggle at the bottom of life... can you be touched, make changes, and find a new way out.

Now, she no longer complains about anything and lets go of many things.

She once dreamed of her deceased mother entrusting her dreams and told her to wait for her at the next intersection.

She must live well and live with a smile. Even if one day her life ends, she must keep smiling!

She will still walk on the road of idealism, clearing the clouds and seeing the fog, getting rid of others' expectations, and finding her true self.

Live seriously and keep growing is a kind of power in itself.

She was surprised to find that the three children grew up and they learned to fold clothes, clean up beds, sweep the floor, mop the floor and other housework, and even helped her fold sheets and blankets.

Sometimes, they will cover her sleeping quilt to take care of her who is getting older in an instant.

She is growing up with her children, and she is walking on a new road.

No matter how bad the environment is and how difficult life is, it cannot defeat her.

A beautiful life will not be destroyed by external interference.

She hopes that God will protect sincere and kind people and brave and enthusiastic friends.

She is willing to do her best to change the image of collapse and sing the most beautiful songs for the rest of her life.

(Ma Jinyu and three children)

Author: Zhu Xiaolu & Xinpingqihe

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