The third child has been letting go for a long time. Some young people who have just gotten married have always been looking forward to the happy time of the family of five, and their minds are full of heavenly life. However, for some families who already have children, they do not look forward to the life of a family of five, because some families really can’t afford to have a second child.
Xiaowei lives in a small county town and works as an ordinary company employee. His income is also considered to be of medium level in the local area.
According to the standards of local people, Xiaowei's living conditions are also ideal, with a stable job, stable income, and a stable living environment. So, when Xiaowei first got married, he thought about having a bunch of children and having a happy life every day.
When I had just given birth, Xiaowei heard people say that the child was "Gold-swallowing Beast ". However, during the process of raising the child, Xiaowei felt that it was okay. With his and his family's income level, does not seem to have a big financial burden to raise a child , and there is even a small balance. So, Xiaowei felt that others were exaggerating, and was more calm about having a second child. After
, Xiaowei successfully got his second child. But unexpectedly, as the eldest brother grew up and the birth of the second brother, the family expenses became more and more, which made Xiaowei cautious. So Xiaowei calculated the annual expenses of the family of four, but he was frightened by himself. After calculation, the annual expenses of the family of four actually reached 85,000 , equivalent to more than 7,000 per month.
Some people may say that living in a small county town costs more than 7,000 yuan a month? I'm afraid it's not a waste, right? But in fact, Xiaowei not only does not waste it, but also saves a lot.
According to the expense bill posted by Xiaowei, the fixed expenses at home (insurance, vehicle maintenance, fuel expenses, property expenses, water expenses, electricity expenses, network expenses, phone bills, etc.) each year require more than 20,000 , and does not include temporary expenses such as car repairs.
The tuition fee for the big baby and the milk powder money of the second baby will cost 30,000 yuan a year, which is equivalent to 2,500 yuan per month, which is actually a savings.
. In terms of clothing, Xiaowei only spends ,000 yuan a year , and this ,000 yuan mainly buys clothes for children, and Xiaowei and his wife basically do not add new clothes.
Some daily chemicals and other things in daily life require about 400 yuan
every year, and the living expenses are food, drink, defecation, home appliances and furniture, about 4,000 yuan
, and the gifts for about
Through Xiaowei's expense list, we can find that in fact, Xiaowei is still relatively saving in . Some families also have a meal every weekend, some heroines in some families also like to put on makeup, buy clothes, and buy jewelry, and some heroes in the family like to spend money in the car, some families also need to pay mortgages, etc.
If you don’t save it, estimates that the average family of four will have a year of more than 100,000 . Have you ever thought about how much money an ordinary family can only make in a year?
So, after watching the expenses posted by Xiaowei, many families are not very brave to have a second child. After all, Xiaowei lives in a small county town, and the expenses are so much. If he lives in a first-tier and second-tier city, the expenses will be even greater.
However, the matter is artificial. If we can reasonably "find" in some aspects, then the second-child family can live a happy life.
What should I do to raise a good child on the basis of spending the least amount of money? These suggestions can be found in
▶Don’t be obsessed with “fairness”, but pay attention to reality. After giving
as needed, the small tower will adhere to the principle of fairness. As long as the big treasure has it, it will also prepare for the second treasure. No matter whether the second treasure is needed or not, in the words of the small tower, it is to be impartial to avoid the two children being quarrel.
However, this parenting method has put Xiaota on a lot of unnecessary economic pressure. Over time, Xiaota feels a little unable to hold on, but for the sake of "fairness", he still holds on to the end.
and Xiaobei is different. Xiaobei, who also gave birth to a second child, does not deliberately maintain material fairness to the two children, but is supplied to as needed. This can meet the different needs of the two children. Although it seems unfair in material terms, there are more and less in two children, in terms of , the greatest fairness is actually the satisfaction of both children.
Therefore, it is recommended that parents do not have to be too focused on material fairness, because this will not only fail to achieve the purpose of fairness, but will also cause a greater economic burden without reason.
In addition, there is no absolute fairness in the world, and parents do not need to demand any so-called responsibility for every child, but should pay attention to reality and provide on demand. allows both children to get what they really need in their growth, which is the real fairness.
▶ Some things can be used for the big baby after using the second baby, or the big baby and the second baby together with the big baby
Some parents nowadays think that letting their children wear second-hand clothes is embarrassing and sorry for their children. In fact, there is no need to have such a mental burden.
Family with two children can completely let the second child wear the eldest's clothes, or let the second child play with the eldest toys, books, etc. There is no problem at all, because strictly speaking, these things are actually bought for two children, but the eldest child learns to use them first when he is old.
and now many places have activities such as "buy one get one free", "second item half price", and "two discounts", which are very suitable for families with two children to consume.
It can be said that after taking advantage of these factors, can fully achieve the economic purpose of "1+1＜2", and parents will have much less pressure to raise their parents.
At the same time, the big kids are sometimes a great help for parents to educate their second kids. They can help parents take care of their second kids, discipline their second kids, tutor their second kids, etc., making it easier for parents. In addition, the two children can also gain deeper friendship in this process
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Now the birth policy has been opened a lot. People who used to want to have a second kid can now realize their dreams, but when they see the expenses of a family of four, some families will still choose carefully. So, Do you have the idea of having a second kid?
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