And what is good, gays
And what is not good—
Need we ask anyone to tell us these things?——《Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Repair》
I 'm just afraid that if I died today , that my life would've amounted to nothing.——《Soul Travel》
My expectations for myself, be a kind and noble person
When tracing back, what opportunity made me want to be such a person? Who told me that I need to be such a person?
Who is the person I think of in my mind? Do you want to "become someone else"?
Attachment: During this period, I was studying Adler . Many theories come from Adler's psychology. Adler is one of the three giants tied with Freud and Jung .
"The great psychologist who studies the potential of people throughout his life" is to understand the truth and goals of human nature
I have a friend who is optimistic by nature and is particularly liked by others (many brothers and many beautiful women), has strong independence, strong learning ability, and is loyal. For a long time, I wanted to be a person like him, thinking that such a person is better, and can also solve my bad sociality, and will not please people
I have known my friend for more than 8 years, and I am still me today, and I have not become a friend like me
But I know how to like, and I have become positive and optimistic. Here, the elder gave an explanation:
[No need to rush to get the answer. The answer should not be obtained from others, but should be found by myself. The answers I got from others are just symptomatic treatments, and they have no value.
Well, continue to explore, go back to an earlier place, change, the first step to change is to understand
At first I wanted to be a friend, but later I became myself. This is the previous story, so the new story needs to be re-narred. What is the purpose of becoming a friend?
I met a friend for the first time, and later dealt with him. I thought that a person like him was a bit cool, and his way of dealing with people is better
So on the other hand, I was not satisfied with myself at that time, and I needed to improve interpersonal relationships and learn some better ways to do things
Now I think about it, the most important thing behind this is that his free spirit and open state are most attractive to me
Because of these, I want to be someone else. Unfortunately, I start here. I don’t like myself, I don’t love myself, and I can’t accept myself. I’m
This state is very bad. There are many resistances on the road to growth
. This change happened after experiencing a failure and was sinking for a while. When I returned to normal again, one day I thought clearly that I was a mortal, traced the roots to where I came from, and how to get to where I am today
. Then I began to accept myself [even if you want to become Y, you can’t become Y. You are not Y. You are "you"]
["What is important is not what is given, but how to use what is given]
should focus on "how to use what is given".
Okay, many people here have a sense of injustice. Some people are born in the family of kings and princes, and some are born in the home of the people
Then let's follow this point, will the reality of being obsessed with "given" change, will life be happy?
I have to repeat here that the world has "life" [how you treat it, it treats you. And, it can actually do such a miracle: it can always prove to you that you are right]
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[The reason why you are unfortunate now is because you choose "unfortunate" by yourself, not because you were born unhappy.］
For example, I used to be negative and pessimistic, but now I have become positive and optimistic. This is a process of choosing
And today I met a fool and made me very upset. I started to complain and kept getting angry. Not long after, there were too many things to get angry. In a blink of an eye, I was angry for a long time
This is also something I can decide myself. I choose to stop complaining quickly and make everyone happy today
Many worries and troubles come from the past. What we can do is to interpret them positively
What we need to talk about here is that "no one wants to do evil", [there are indeed many evil behaviors. But no matter what kind of criminals do they do bad things because they want to do evil. All criminals have their own internal "responsible reasons" for their crimes. The corresponding reason corresponds to the action of "good". This is good from the perspective of "self-interest" and is a kind of benefit, not moral benefits
For example, I just chose to complain because I think "complaint" is a kind of "good" to myself!!!
Think of the "I am the cause" that my predecessors often warn
Not to be continued
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