Someone once said: There are two kinds of fate between children and their parents, one is to repay kindness, and the other is to collect debts.
For children who come to collect debts, their parents have paid a lot but still cannot get anything in return from their children. For children who come to repay their kindness, parents do not need to pay, but they can also receive rewards from their children.
There is a line in "Do you know ": In a family with many children, parents need a bowl of water to keep their home peaceful. But in many families, the vast majority of parents cannot keep a bowl of water balanced.
Xu Wen (pseudonym) did not expect that his mother-in-law sold her retirement home to buy a new one for her son, but she asked to come to her daughter's home for retirement. Faced with such a selfish mother-in-law, Xu Wen could only ask for an equal share of the house sale proceeds and then an equal share of pension expenses.
01. The mother-in-law sold her retirement home to buy a new home for her son.
When Xu Wen married his wife, he knew very well that his wife was a filial daughter. Before getting married, most of my wife’s monthly salary would be sent back to her parents-in-law, while she herself lived frugally.
After falling in love and living together with Xu Wen, Xu Wen shouldered all the rent, water, electricity and household expenses, because he did not want to embarrass and embarrass his wife. He originally thought that his wife's filial piety would be tempered after getting married and starting a family, but Xu Wen didn't expect that he was so wrong.
After getting married, the parents-in-law still did not let go of their wife, and still required her to contribute 2,000 yuan a month, no less. As soon as the parents-in-law received the filial piety payment from their wives, they gave the money to their brother-in-law as a subsidy. This happened every time.
In the fifth year of Xu Wen’s marriage, his parents-in-law were encouraged by his brother-in-law to sell their only retirement home and buy a house in a school district for his brother-in-law in the city, saying that no matter how hard it was, they could not bear the pain of their children. As a result, the brother-in-law deceived the retirement home of the parents-in-law into disappearing, and they were still happy with it.
02. The parents-in-law want to come to their daughter’s home for retirement.
The parents-in-law have sold their retirement home and want to live in their son’s house. At first, the daughter-in-law did not object and accepted her parents-in-law because they sold the house and raised several hundred thousand for them as a down payment.
But the parents-in-law only lived in their son’s house for a month before they were kicked out by their daughter-in-law. The daughter-in-law disliked her parents-in-law for being unhygienic and getting in the way, so she asked them to look for their daughter to take care of them in their old age. The homeless parents-in-law did not want their son to get divorced, so they asked to come to their daughter's home to take care of themselves.
When the parents-in-law came to the door crying and begging, their pitiful look really made my wife feel bad, and she quickly went to settle down at home. Seeing that everyone had arrived at his door, Xu Wen couldn't be a bad person and chase people away.
But after his parents-in-law lived in his home for half a year, Xu Wen couldn't bear it anymore. He protested to his wife and asked her to discuss it with his parents-in-law. After all, his parents were getting older and they should be taken in to take care of them.
03. Son-in-law: First share the house sale proceeds equally, and then share the pension expenses equally.
As a result, the wife was unhappy and thought Xu Wen was driving her parents away. When the parents-in-law saw that their daughter was defending herself, they straightened up and said that we are here to provide for our daughter in her old age, and you, an outsider, have no right to interfere.
The parents-in-law had an attitude of not being afraid of boiling water, and they seemed to be refusing to leave, which made Xu Wen a little angry. The house they live in now was bought by his parents. Even his parents have never stayed here for a day, so why should he let his parents-in-law enjoy the blessing now?
Since the parents-in-law sold their retirement home to buy a bigger house for their son, it is natural that they should look to their son to provide for them in retirement, not his son-in-law. Xu Wen got angry and directly challenged his parents-in-law: first they would split the house sale proceeds equally, and then they would split the pension expenses equally. It’s not that we don’t provide for the elderly, but it must be fair and just.
As soon as she heard that her son-in-law had to share the house sale proceeds equally before he was willing to provide for his retirement, the mother-in-law’s expression changed drastically: Since ancient times, family property has been passed down from male to female. Our own house will be given to whoever gives it first, and you are an outsider in charge. Not.
Xu Wen was not to be outdone and said: Since I, an outsider, can't control it, you should pack your bags and go back to your son's house immediately. We don't take any of your property, and we have no obligation to provide for you in old age.
Xu Wen kept his word and started packing his luggage and sent his parents-in-law to his brother-in-law's house. As for how much trouble his brother-in-law would cause because of the arrival of his parents-in-law, Xu Wen didn't care for a long time.
04. Parents who are partial, don’t expect fair treatment.
Some people say that parents who are partial, parents who favor sons over daughters, should stop expecting fair treatment from the moment they are partial. Once the parents' preference is finalized, no one can change or reverse it.
Faced with such eccentric parents, we can only say that we should do what we can, instead of breaking up our marriage and family for the sake of eccentric parents.
Just like in the movie "The Godfather", there is such a classic line: Being soft-hearted without boundaries will only allow the other party to take advantage of you; being kind without principles will only allow the other party to do whatever they want.
For eccentric parents and filial children, being too soft-hearted and kind will only make the parents more pushy and do whatever they want. And we must not condone such parents.
Today’s topic:
Do you support Xu Wen sending away his eccentric parents-in-law?
Pinxia explanation: Analyze marriage emotions and teach you to understand human nature!
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