Text: Wang Xiaojia
Pictures: from the Internet
At the end of August last year, my fellow teacher Xu from Xiao County, Anhui Province ( Huaibei editor of a newspaper supplement) suddenly visited me. As soon as I walked in, without saying a few words, we talked about his remarried wife. .
Unexpectedly, it was just a matter of not mentioning this matter. When he mentioned it, he kept shaking his head and waving his hands, and said the following words in one breath: "I thought she was very honest, and thought that since we are a family, she will Treat her well and trust her. So I gave her my salary card. Unexpectedly, she spent a lot of money behind my back. They were all given to her ex-husband's children, and there was basically not much left in her monthly salary. After I found out, I immediately took the salary card back. You trust her, and she thinks you are honest and easy to bully. ! "
This editor was a talented student at An Normal University before the Cultural Revolution. He had published a collection of novels and was a member of the Provincial Writers Association. After being transferred from Xiaoxian to Huaibei City , he first served as a middle school teacher, and then was transferred to the Huaibei Miner Newspaper to edit a supplement. He was quite famous in the literary circles of Xiaoxian and Huaibei.
His first wife passed away due to illness. In order to have someone to accompany him and take care of his old age after retirement, he was introduced to another unemployed woman whose husband died. Who knew there was such a big gap between ideal and reality? No wonder he was filled with emotion when he saw me.
From this, I thought of several elderly remarried couples in our community. Not many were happy, but many suffered. They have become the talk of the town for many years.
A division-level engineer, his wife passed away not long after he retired. As long as he was healthy and could still take care of himself, his subsequent wife's concern and care for him were acceptable. However, when he became seriously ill and was admitted to the hospital, he showed up a few times and never disappeared again.
It turned out that she took advantage of others' danger and quietly took away the valuable items in the house and disappeared without a trace. While the director was hospitalized, he relied entirely on his own children for care until his death.
There is also a former party committee secretary. After his wife passed away, he also found a wife. After getting married, the old couple lived in harmony and harmony. Afterwards, his wife took good care of him, just like a married couple.
But as time went by, conflicts arose between the children of both families. The children of the woman's family said that their stepfather's children did not respect their mother, and the children of the man's family were afraid that their stepmother would inherit the family's property a hundred years later. Indeed, I usually push her a bit. In this way, the family tacitly lives in a state of emotional dissociation in their hearts, barely managing to get by.
Later, the secretary suffered a cerebral hemorrhage and passed away. The secretary’s children did not look down upon the stepmother. When the stepmother’s children found out, they took their mother back before the funeral process even started. Our family lived in the front and back buildings, and we never saw the secretary’s new wife again. Presumably this marriage was not a happy one for her.
A section chief who was in charge of coal sales when he was working. After his wife passed away, he used his family's strong material foundation to find a retired elementary school teacher who was younger than him.
lived a happy life in the first few years. People would often see them walking hand in hand on the roadside. If any family had weddings or weddings, they would attend them together. To outsiders, they looked like a pair in love. The couple looked at each other with envy.
Undoubtedly, people of this advanced age, regardless of whether they are male or female, will have biological children, and it is impossible for them not to take their children into their hearts and take care of them. In fact, this is reasonable and impeccable. .
Although the section chief’s step-wife was cautious and concerned about her children’s belongings, the section chief finally discovered it. So the two of them had a small quarrel for three days and a big quarrel for five days, and finally parted ways and went their separate ways.
Similar examples are common in society and are not uncommon.
But everything should be looked at from two aspects. There are also happier sunset marriages.There is an accountant who lives in our community and his wife in his later years. He sincerely loves and takes care of him. It can be said that he takes care of him in every possible way. Whenever people mention the couple, they give him thumbs up and praise him.
The old accountant passed away last year at the age of more than 90 years old. To this day, the step-wife still lives alone in the old house, never leaving, watching over the sincere relationship between husband and wife.
To be honest, as people get older and their thinking and actions slow down, they very much need someone to accompany and take care of them. This will not only benefit their own daily life, but also greatly reduce the burden of raising their children. . If this is handled properly, it's really the best of both worlds.
Also in our community, there is an old man who has been a mine director, chief engineer of a mine, and director of a department in a group. After his wife died of illness, some well-intentioned people wanted to introduce him to someone, but he declined them all with a smile. His reason was, if I find another one, how can I be worthy of my dead first wife?
Although he has two sons, they each have children and are very busy at work. They hardly have time to accompany him. He lives alone in the old house upstairs and takes care of his own life.
Perhaps it was due to the fact that he had become increasingly lonely and lonely over the past few years and that he was getting older. His physical condition was deteriorating, and he eventually suffered from Alzheimer's disease . No matter how busy his two sons were, they took turns taking care of him, and they were overwhelmed.
Just imagine, if he had found a wife to live with while he was still healthy, he would not be in this predicament. How do you say
? Although Sunset marriage is difficult to control, full of conflicts, and has many sequelae, in my opinion, when a person encounters the situation of losing his spouse in his later years, it is better to find another wife. But this step must be taken very carefully, with repeated thinking and weighing, and only when the relationship between the two parties matures can they come together.
Of course, it is true that you can’t find the right one. It is irrational and undesirable to have the mentality of making do with it. Rather than doing that, it is better to stay single to the end. However, you must have a healthy body and a happy mood as a guarantee.
Dear readers, what do you think?
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