Thoughts triggered by Wu Xieyu's mother-killing

Wu Xieyu 's growth experience

Father Wu had a complete family when he was still there. Father Wu likes to play basketball with Wu Xieyu and likes to laugh. Wu's mother doesn't like to talk, and her personality is rather old-fashioned. At this time, Wu Xieyu listened to neighbors saying that he was still very lively and cheerful, and liked to talk and laugh. All these changes are due to Wu's father being ill, and Wu's mother, who is already very depressed, will feel even more uncomfortable and depressed when encountering such things. Wu Xieyu also took the first place after his father passed away, which also endured a lot of pain and depression. Just like this, Wu Xieyu didn't like to talk, and all his emotions were suppressed. Trying to be a good child in the eyes of a mother, the teacher praised and polite, and also said that someone around him was very filial and sensible. It is painful to be a good child for a long time and hold everyone's expectations. Coupled with the long-term depression of his mother, Wu Xieyu's heart is invisible. The mother’s heart is not sound enough, the mother’s fear and anxiety, the child will automatically take over the mother’s bad emotions, deeply blame himself for not taking care of his mother, and condemn himself for not being a good child. Children study and work with a sense of guilt and shame, and gradually form and develop various patterns of mental illness. Such as anxiety, depression, obsessive-compulsive disorder, social phobia, etc.

Indulge in seemingly depraved is to release oneself

After the mother's death, asking relatives to borrow money, being a male model, prostituting, drinking and bragging, are all unimaginable in her lifetime. During his lifetime, his mother handled things fairly and with high morals. Wu Xieyu must follow his mother's arrangement to be himself, and never really be himself. After his mother died, he was relieved. Completely released himself. Maybe only his mother's death can he live again. He released all the negative emotions and became a bad boy, and everything went against his mother. Maybe this is belated rebellion. Maybe one day, after his emotions gradually become better and worse, he will think of his mother's goodness. Everything will return to normal track. But how vulnerable it is to the law.

The importance of mental health

A child’s danger often comes from whether the parent’s mental health is normal.Children who are swallowed by the emotional disaster of their grandparents will stop growing, regress or lose control. Creating nourishment of the elimination of parent-child relationship, reducing the torture of the relationship, and assisting children to achieve their best self and realistic learning and life goals is the homework of parents in a lifetime.