Investing in yourself is the most effective investment

I can’t take anything with me except myself.

A pen pal, Zihan, told me her story two days ago:

She has been married with her in-laws and her in-laws. Sky drying net, life depends on the help of parents-in-law. When Zihan was young, he would wash cars and sell vegetables for his children as long as he could earn money. He had to endure hardships and suffer for a better life for his children, and finally got married until his children graduated from university .

At this time, both her father-in-law and her mother-in-law are sick. Zihan is busy with her work every day, and she has to serve her parents-in-law at night. Her husband only takes care of her parents-in-law's meal at noon. As soon as she enters the house at night, her husband is gone. film. What I thought was to stick to it and wait until I retire and my life will be better.

But the worst thing happened, one night, in order to buy medicine for her mother-in-law, Zihan ran out at ten o'clock, but saw her husband and a woman hugging and kissing at the gate of the community, Zihan saw this scene, no matter what I can't continue to live the confused days. The two divorced peacefully, but the house is owned by the father-in-law and the mother-in-law. The savings have been given to the daughter as a dowry, so Zihan had to leave the house.

Zihan said: For 30 years, all I have left is the pain and tingling in my heart, nothing else belongs to me, the only thing that comforts me is that I started writing a year ago and made a profit , this and only belong to me, and I feel very relaxed and happy emotionally now, which is also my property.

Zihan's story shows a truth: Except for our own body and our own skills , everything else is unreliable, and it is possible to change the owner at any time. love yourself!

Love yourself before you love your lover

The one who is even more miserable than Zihan is the younger brother of the netizen "Eleven". He accumulated a lot of family business in the first half of his life, but he didn't take care of his own body, and he didn't pay attention to maintaining the relationship between husband and wife. As a result, when he became seriously ill Abandoned by wife .

I think his wife lost her support when her husband was suddenly seriously ill. At this time, she subconsciously protected her money and provided some material security for her children and herself. In fact, she made a mistake, in this world The most precious wealth is not material, but spirit and emotion .

Through this incident, what his wife lost was the public's recognition of her, and there was a lack of emotional level in society , and our emotional life first originated from and reflected in the relationship with others, and everyone around her treated her If you lose trust, you will be ashamed to associate with her in the future.

That is to say, his wife is "dead". Humans are social animals and live in society. If social death occurs, there will be many inconveniences in the future.

From the above case, we can see: Zihan lost material wealth , but she has spiritual wealth and life skills, which are just the capital for her to live a better life in the future; "Eleven"'s younger brother lost a healthy The body and the mind do not belong to him, and he has truly entered into a desperate situation; and although the younger siblings of "Eleven" have controlled material wealth, they have become a real poor person who is at a loss in society.

These all illustrate one truth: Investing in ourselves, in the only tool we use to do things and contribute to our work, is the most effective investment we can make in a lifetime.

Dr. Covey told us: Constantly updating this habit is personal productivity , which protects and optimizes the most important asset you have - yourself. It renews your nature on four levels, namely: physical, spiritual, intelligence , social/emotional.

is the greatest wealth of life only if it is constantly updated in these four aspects and has its own best state!

From now on, love yourself

British The British politician Halifax said this: Self-love is far from a disadvantage, and this definition is appropriate. A person who understands that loves himself just as much as can do everything else properly.

"Seven Habits of Highly Effective People" also tells us that the four aspects of life are closely related: physical, spiritual, intellectual, and emotional: physical health contributes to the development of mind and , and spiritual enhancement is conducive to the fulfillment of interpersonal relationships. Therefore, balance produces the best overall effect.

If we want our own true independent , we must start from the following aspects:

1. First of all, we must take care of our body, eat healthy, get enough rest, and exercise regularly.

"The body is the capital of the revolution" is a well-known saying at any time. Without a healthy body, everything is in vain.

2. Always update your spiritual level, deeply understand the center and goal of life, constantly reflect, and persevere.

We can grasp the direction of life and the true meaning of life with our hearts, just like getting a big umbrella that can gather everything, giving us new power continuously, if we can persevere, the effect will be more obvious.

3. Continue to learn, think hard, sharpen your mind, broaden your horizons, and improve your intelligence and life skills.

The level of intelligence can determine the angle of our thinking about the world and the way we deal with events. Only when our intelligence has stepped to another level can we enter a higher-level life; having a skill is what we can stand by sharp weapon.

4. We uphold the habit of win-win thinking, knowing each other and understanding ourselves, and comprehensively communicating with people in our lives, working with and to create a good interpersonal relationship.

We live in society, and we need to communicate and work with others to complete a task or solve a problem. Only by having good interpersonal relationships can we be invincible in society.

Only by fulfilling the above four points, that is, cultivating the seven habits of highly effective people, improving ourselves first, then influencing others, and spiraling between growth and transformation, can we continuously improve ourselves.

In this process, what we need to do is to learn, persist and practice with , and constantly improve the level of time, that is to say, in order to make continuous progress, we must learn, persist, practice and learn, persist, and practice ......

Conclusion:

" Zeng Guofan's family letter " said: In times of crisis, only rely on yourself, not on others as an honest idea.

At any time, you are the most reliable person, establish your own life goals, continue to adhere to the process of learning and practice, and completely transform yourself from the inside to the outside, so that we can control our own life.

And Dr. Stephen Covey's "Seven Habits of Highly Effective People" is the help on our road to success. It can not only help us become good individuals, but also help us become good managers. Our life is an indispensable tool, if you are interested, you can buy it and take a look.

As long as we master these seven habits, we can build ourselves into a strong warrior, no longer confused on the road of life, and then achieve an excellent life.