Regarding the education of children, some netizens once concluded that "Student masters come to avenge their gratitude, and scumbags come to avenge their revenge" , but is academic performance the only criterion for evaluating a child's excellence? The answer may be no.
Bao Ma: My husband is a doctor of 985, I am a master of 985, but my son is a scumbag.
Recently, I saw a treasure mother shared her real experience, which is very educational. The mother's name is Xiaolin (pseudonym), her lover is a doctoral student from a 985 college, and she is a master's from a 985 college. It can be said that they are two proper intellectuals.
According to common sense, the academic performance of the children born by such a couple should not be too bad. Moreover, Xiao Lin was cautious when she was pregnant. Not only did she pay great attention to her diet, but in order to better support her fetus, she even took a long vacation when she was just 3 months pregnant. For fear of having a little impact on the child, she carried out eugenics and prenatal care to the end.
However, when the child was born, Kobayashi didn't realize that didn't seem like his child was a "good seedling" who could read. It's not even a middle class. Basically, is at the bottom of the list. It is a proper scumbag.
In order to improve the children's grades, Xiaolin tried various methods, enrolling the children in many remedial classes, studying the children's learning courses synchronously in addition to work and life, and tutoring the children one-on-one after get off work in the evening, but even if Xiaolin After making all kinds of efforts, the child's academic performance is still not improving, and because of the excessive pressure of and the heavy learning task , the child only put on glasses in the fourth grade of primary school, and his immunity is weakened, and he often suffers from colds and fevers. .
So the poor grades are because the child is too playful and does not study hard? No, Kobayashi's children worked very hard. One summer, he even asked to sign up for a language remedial class, worried that he would not be able to keep up with the progress after returning to school.
For such a situation, Kobayashi can only have to admit that Some children will read when they are born, and some children are not suitable, and his own children undoubtedly belong to the latter.
But over time, Xiaolin gradually discovered that there are many other bright spots in the child, and the poor academic performance cannot hide the fact that he is still an excellent child.
Although Xiaolin's child is very hard to learn knowledge, he has a soft spot for cooking. Even though is only
In addition, Kobayashi's children are always helpful and warm-hearted. When selecting sports committee members in a class, Kobayashi's children topped the list with a high number of votes. When Kobayashi asked everyone why they voted for their children, the classmates chirped and said who would meet each other every time. When difficulties arise, the first figure to rush forward to help is always Xiaolin child, and he does his part in the position of sports committee. After the
incident, Kobayashi saw it completely. She said in her self-report, " Although my son is indeed a scumbag, I am still proud of him! " She said that she realized that learning is not enough. To measure the excellence of a child, it is not difficult for your child to be able to support themselves in the future, and it is not difficult to find a job where they can earn a living. In a sense, living an ordinary life like this is not another kind of success.
Looking at children in another way, it may be a completely different world.
Every parent hopes that their children will become dragons and their daughters will become phoenixes. The vast majority of people are ordinary, and parents’ anxiety will not make their children better, but will put too much pressure on their children, and even crush them.
Although academic performance is very important for children, it is not the only criterion for measuring the excellence of children. Sometimes parents choose to look at their children from another perspective, which may be a completely different world. More shining points, just like Bao's mother Xiaolin, although the child's academic performance is not satisfactory, he has many other advantages, and the small defects in learning do not prevent him from becoming the pride of his parents.
Indeed, too many parents are worried that their children will lose at the starting line, especially in terms of learning, they cannot tolerate any "lagging behind", resulting in too much pressure on their children, but things are getting worse and worse. In this regard, Xiaolin is indeed worth learning from. looks at our children from another angle. He may not be so bad. Xiaolin is indeed a parent who "slaps his face" a lot in his attitude towards his children.
American educator Ken Robinson once mentioned in a speech that " In this world, every child is very different, but we are afraid that any one will be left behind " , this is undoubtedly for those who are afraid of children "Losing at the starting line" is the best description for parents, no matter whether the child is a student bully or a scumbag, parents should calm down their mentality, as long as their children can grow up happily and happily according to their own ideas, and become the one they want to be. people, that's enough.
Crooked mother's conclusion:
It is undoubtedly too simple to evaluate children by academic performance. Children are like flowers. Everyone has different flowering periods and different characteristics. On the road of growth, parents should strive to find the advantages of children. , good at digging out their talents.
Topic of the day: What kind of life do you want your child to live in the future?
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