Many people have heard of the "Eight Great Forgiveness of China", a concept that is both down-to-earth and full of neoclassical flavor. People must have heard these words many times, and no matter what kind of trouble, people throw out one of these words, and it is easy to be forgiven by others.
The eight forgivenesses are: is here, save face, still a child, for your own good, get used to it, big holiday, old age, not easy.
Here is a fictional story:
After graduating from university, Xiao Li found a job in the provincial capital. On the first night of work, I happened to meet a few colleagues eating hot pot. The colleagues were very enthusiastic: came to , so let's have two drinks!
As soon as Xiao Li was drinking, a child next to him was very naughty and accidentally spilled the drink on Xiao Li. Xiao Li was about to get angry when the adult next to him said: or child , what do you care about.
At the wine table, an unfamiliar leader asked Xiao Li to drink, but Xiao Li politely refused, and the leader was not happy: , give me some face, ! Xiao Li bit the bullet and drank a few glasses.
On the way home, Xiao Li told his colleagues that he didn't want to come here next time.
Colleagues patted Xiao Li on the shoulder: For your own good , drinking more can enhance each other's feelings.
On the second day, after the off-duty time, Xiao Li asked his colleagues: Why did you get off work, and everyone is still working hard? Colleagues replied disapprovingly: is good for .
Xiao Li is conscientious and conscientious, and his new job is finally on the right track. Once, a colleague made a mistake at work, and blamed Xiao Li, and then pitifully asked Xiao Li not to speak up: is not easy to ! After all, Xiao Li is a newcomer, so he has to be dumb.
The Spring Festival is here, and Xiao Li goes home from vacation, so he can't help saying New Year's greetings to his relatives and friends.A bunch of relatives asked Xiao Li: Has the object been talked about? Did you buy a car? Did you buy a house? Xiao Li felt awkward and a little angry. The elder brother patted Xiao Li on the shoulder:
, which is a big holiday, why are you angry? Your uncle and aunt are older than , what's the matter with you? I will ask you if I care about you.
summarizes Xiao Li's experience, "eight forgiveness" brings Xiao Li an unpleasant feeling. Did Xiao Li really forgive? I don't think so. This is the traditional human society. Principles give way to human feelings. It is a kind of moral kidnapping that is difficult for you to break. Every submission is like eating a fly, but you cannot fight back.
said so much, just to help you understand the ins and outs of the "eight forgiveness", these are the condensed essence of Chinese culture, each sentence should be mastered when dealing with people, compromise, open-mindedness, tolerance, understanding, this is the process of human growth The mentality that should be gradually acquired.
But both unconditional approval and outright denial are undesirable. I hope that everyone will stick to their bottom line, forgive when they should, and go back when they should, so that life will be better!
is here, just give it a thumbs up!
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