Have you ever had such an experience? In order to avoid saying hello to your neighbors or colleagues, you deliberately walk quickly or take a few steps slowly; in order not to talk to relatives, you find excuses to escape from family gatherings; in a small space like the elevator, others often chat with people you know, but you can't get into the mouth; when you know that you have to go on stage to give a speech the next day and face many people, you have already started to sleep all night the night before and have set your ambitions: you quit when you wake up the next day; when you hear the people who are talking to you, you will feel ashamed... · · · · · · · · 1
If socializing can bring us real benefits, you will be over. But in fact, many of them are useless social interactions and they will continue to consume themselves. In this sense, social fear is a good thing, which shows that we have begun to think about the value of life.
Recently, my mother met a little sister. The aunt asked her to ask her to go out with her every day, saying that she was too lonely and not safe to be alone, but my mother didn't seem to enjoy this feeling of being in company. Instead, she felt that she was not as relaxed and comfortable as she was alone. I realized that social fear is not a strange disease of someone, but a mental illness of a whole generation. It is not the weak, insecure, insignificant people who are sick, but the strong, stable and independent thinking. They often do not rely on, do not please, or force them.
Social terror people don't want to do anything not because they are too confused, but are overly sober. they are so smart that it has no meaning to see the operation of the entire world itself. They think that no one will understand them, and unfortunately they can understand everyone. Since they cannot get the understanding of others and cannot change the world, they simply don't struggle.
What kind of people are more socially terrifying? Those who have a strong sense of self-awareness are, the more difficult it is to be disciplined by society. When you reject social discipline, you will definitely feel pain, and this kind of pain will be manifested as social fear. The biggest problem for young people is that lives very drifty and their spirits are very lonely. Sometimes we habitually escape pain, create utopias artificially, and create a simplicity that allows us to settle down in our hearts. But the real healing is not that people do not have pain, but that I understand where our pain comes from, and that we can face and control our pain. hopes to gain recognition from others is a dead end. Many times we feel free only when we are alone. There is a sentence in "Stepwolf" by Hesse : "I cannot agree with the goals of the world, and I cannot share their joy. In such a world, how can I not become a Steppenwolf, a poor escapee!" Reading this book will bring deeper understanding. No book in the world can bring you good luck, but they can make you quietly become yourself.
