Change of relatives was originally a festive custom in the countryside, which means good meanings. This was because two families with rich feelings knew each other since childhood and married each other between childhood sweethearts who grew up together, which meant getting along with each other. These were often naturally arising from the development of people's feelings at that time and the harmony between the two families.
However, in some remote mountainous areas, changing relatives has become a marriage condition for some poor families - Use one person's life happiness to exchange for another's marriage. There is such a pair of parents in Jiangsu who actually married their 15-year-old daughter to their 30-year-old brother-in-law for the sake of their son.
Ma, an old farmer from a small mountain village in Hongze District, Huai'an, Jiangsu Province, has a son and a daughter with his wife. Influenced by the concept of inheriting the family line, Ma and his wife have a strong concept of favoring boys over girls. They are very caring and considerate about their son, but they do not care much about their daughter Ma Cuifang.
1983, Ma looked at the eldest son who had been adult for a long time and still had not obtained his wife. He was secretly anxious and hurried to ask the matchmaker to help him say hello. However, Ma's family was in poverty, and the family was all farmers who dig food in the fields. Ma and his wife were still old and did not have much labor. In this case, naturally, not many families were willing to marry their daughter into the Ma family and suffer.
Ma sat on the ridge of the field in distress, looking at the endless golden rice fields in front of him and felt worried. He held a dry cigarette in his mouth, his eyes were blurred. At this time, his young and young daughter came over and said to Ma, "Dad, stop smoking, it's not good for her health."
Looking at his daughter who was already a little graceful and elegant, Ma's eyes lit up. He threw away the cigarette butts in his hand, and showed a kind smile to his daughter who had not paid much attention to him, and said, "Daughter, Dad, I want you to have something to do." Ma Cuifang couldn't bear to have her father's silent pain alone, and nodded in agreement- However, what she didn't know was that what her father called was to use her life's happiness to find a marriage for her elder brother.
Just like that, after having a good idea, Ma immediately planned a marriage for his son. Ironically, when Ma saw that the man was in his thirties, he did not hesitate at all. You must know that Ma Cuifang is only 15 years old this year.
On the wedding day, Ma Cuifang's brother personally brought the bride in a festive red robe. The girlish feelings are always spring. Ma Cuifang looked at the bride wearing a red wedding dress and secretly fantasized about putting on the wedding dress and marrying her beloved man. However, at this time, Ma walked over and took Ma Cuifang to his in-laws, pointed to a man in his 30s, and said, " He is your future husband ."
Ma, who prefers boys over girls, did not care about Ma Cuifang's thoughts, even if it was not true that Ma Cuifang's thoughts, even if Ma Cuifang cried for a long time, and even opposed it in front of him, but in Ma's mind, he was always filled with the sentence " The daughter is a loser. It would be great to marry out early and let her son marry a wife. ."
Under Ma's ruthlessness, Ma Cuifang finally married a man who was older than her and could even be her father. After marrying, the man's family did not cherish this poor girl. After all, She was just a product for exchange.
It’s like this. At first, Ma Cuifang was a tool for giving birth to children for the man’s family; after giving birth, he became a tool for taking care of his parents-in-law and farming at home... In this family, Ma Cuifang could never feel his position. It seemed that everything about him was from someone else. Ma Cuifang had thought more than once whether to escape, but every time he was about to leave, he would stay because he remembered the cry of his children.
2000, Ma Cuifang, whose child was 16 years old, could finally leave this family that once regarded her as a pure tool without any scruples.
Before dawn, she boarded the train to Changzhou City alone. She vaguely remembered that when she went out, the bright moon was still hanging high above her head, bright and cold. "I have never seen such a bright and beautiful moon," she recalled.
As soon as she arrived in Changzhou City, she was stunned by the modern big city. The skyscrapers that went straight into the sky, the roads that were still bright at night. In this brand new city, she felt a sense of panic, but more of an unprecedented sense of freshness and freedom. She could explore freely and go to those unknown places. This feeling of unrestrainedness made her very relaxed. People often say that the depression of big cities, but for Ma Cuifang, the small village with fresh air is the cage .
In this city, Ma Cuifang learned what true freedom is, what marriage law is, and what free love is; plus she met her true love, in a factory, an honest and gentle man did not dislike her birth, and still helped him live in this city.
Under the influence of these factors, Ma Cuifang decided to end the marriage that once made her feel desperate through legal means.
According to my country's " Civil Code ", the age of a woman's marriage shall not be earlier than 20 . In other words, in fact, Ma Cuifang's marriage at the age of 15 was an illegal act. At first, Ma Cuifang and her first husband had no legal basis or guarantee. However, according to my country's "Marriage Law", the two lived together for many years and had a child. In this case, the relationship between the two has constituted De facto marriage . Therefore, although the two do not have marriage certificate , the marriage relationship still shows the marriage relationship.
On this basis, Ma Cuifang lives together with a man in the city. It has constituted the crime of bigamy . may face legal liability. Once it is suspected of cheating within marriage, then in law, Ma Cuifang is the obvious fault party and is the weak party in terms of dividing property after divorce.
, but it is a matter of changing relatives. violates the principle of freedom of marriage in the Marriage Law , which is an illegal act. The marriage relationship between the two itself also has certain flaws. After several twists and turns, the man's family finally agreed to Ma Cuifang's divorce request .
"One relative exchanges one love, one regrets ruin one marriage" Please remember that marriage may be able to be purchased, but feelings cannot be purchased, and the exchanged marriage cannot be exchanged for feelings, and in the end they can only change from "change" to "regret".
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