American psychologist Harlow and colleagues conducted a famous, cruel and shocking experiment called rhesus monkey experiment.
The baby monkey is separated from its mother from day one after birth, allowing it to come into contact with two fake mothers, a wire mother and a cloth mother, in the wire mother's There is a baby bottle hanging on the chest, and the baby monkey can eat breast milk, while the cloth mother does not have a baby bottle hanging on the chest. The experiment was carried out for 165 days.
The following conclusions are drawn from the experiment:
1. When the baby monkey and the wire mother are together, although they can drink milk, they would rather not drink milk than the cloth mother stay together.
2. When the baby monkey is threatened by safety, it will run to the cloth mother and hug it tightly. The cloth mother brings more security to the baby monkey.
3. Physical contact surpasses breast milk. Baby monkeys only go to the wire mother when they need food, and most of the time they snuggle by the cloth mother's side.
4. For primates, including humans, love requires touch and safety.
The subjects of the experiment are monkeys. Psychologists reasoned that monkeys and humans share 94% of the same genes, so the experiment has certain implications for human infant feeding and child growth: Can't build the love between baby and mother,Strong maternal love requires touch (stroking and hugging, etc.) and security.
It's not hard to see that babies also like blankets and soft toys. According to Harlow, softness represents a tender, warm mother. Be patient, provide milk 24 hours a day, and only represent food. The parenting of children is not only about feeding them, but healthy growth of children cannot be lack of tactile, auditory, visual and other sensory stimulation, but also to make children feel the presence of their parents and get a sense of security from them.
The baby is annoying and it just shows that he is attached to his loved ones. There should be frequent skin-to-skin contact between parents and children, hugging and touching children, so that they can experience the joy of contact , also for older children.
When a child sleeps, he must touch his mother's body, hold a doll, hold a quilt, or grab an adult's hand to sleep. It fully shows that the role of exposure to children's growth is immeasurable.
The meaning of a mother to her child is not only to provide food, but also to give her child enough security . At night, parents should accompany them to sleep, interact and play with the baby more, and avoid long-term separation from the baby. After get off work, the mother must kiss the child, hold the child, and interact with the child. Raising a child is best about fixing a person and cultivating their attachment. Respond positively to crying children, have enough patience and tolerance, and do not scare children.Children who are cared for by the elderly should communicate via video frequently, and hugs and intimacy are essential when visiting children.
Children who are often separated have anxiety and fear, and have no stable sense of security, which is extremely detrimental to their brain development. Insecure children, low self-confidence, timid, withdrawn, and have interpersonal barriers . A sense of security is the cornerstone of a child's mental health.
6 months after the birth of a child (3 months for monkeys) is a critical period for establishing a good mother's love. To avoid prolonged separation from the child, raising the child not only provides food, but also requires touching, Hug and interact!
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