I have immigrated to Canada for many years, and my family has been in a fuss recently about an incident: my 23-year-old niece’s boyfriend is 1/8 black.
This child looks Chinese, his parents look Chinese, and he has a younger brother who also looks Chinese, but one of his grandparents is black.
Let’s do it, it’s not racial discrimination, it’s just that different races have different values. If we live together in the future, maybe there will be conflicts and disharmony. This is what grandma said.
Of course, there are also very outstanding black people who can also be presidents. However, what if you get married and give birth to a black child in the future? This gene can be inherited for many generations. my sister said.
"You are still racist. I don't care about the color of the skin. The important thing is that others are good to me and I like him. I also had a Chinese boyfriend before, and that man was not very good. So the problem is not the color, but your concept." The niece said with a serious face.
I haven't spoken yet. I don't know how to express my point of view without being racist and allowing my niece to understand the family's perspective.
’s niece grew up in Canada and is already a “banana” who is not good at speaking Chinese. To be honest, her westernized thinking and lifestyle may not conflict with the culture and values of a boy who also grew up in Canada, even if the boy is 1/8 black. But as the first child of the third generation in the family, everyone hopes that she will find a Chinese partner even though she lives in Canada. Every time I go back to Beijing, every family member will tell me this: Let’s find a Chinese in the future!
She is still hiding this matter from her father, and it will be a big deal when it comes to her father. Although his father loves his children, he is a parent with a very typical Chinese mindset. He is so typical that when his children come home with medals for drawing, they don’t take it seriously and only say, “Please do a good job in mathematics, physics and chemistry.”
How should we look at it, especially how to deal with this matter?
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