Hello everyone! This is [Mountain Banyan Tree], I am Sister Zuo. I am lucky enough to meet you in the vast sea of ​​people. Thank you for meeting me! I, a 26-year-old young woman, am an ordinary person trying to create a better life through my own efforts. I never dreamed that th

Hello, everyone!

This is [Mountain Banyan Tree], I am Sister Zuo.

I am honored to meet you in the vast sea of ​​people. Thank you for meeting me!

I, a 26-year-old young woman, am an ordinary person trying to create a better life through my own efforts. I never dreamed that those plots that could only appear in TV dramas would actually happen to me.

(pictures from the Internet)

01

"If you don't get married, you won't be able to get married after the age of 30!"

"What are your conditions? You and him are evenly matched. Don't dislike anyone!"

"Don't take a piss and look in the mirror. Who are you? It's good for people to like you."

I lived in this language nightmare for a long time and fell into extreme self-doubt. The person who said this was my biological mother. In order to force her daughter to marry, she would do anything to force her daughter to marry. She skipped the step of persuading her and went straight to a state of near madness.

By the way, I have met the person my mother asked someone to introduce, and I didn’t like it enough to fall in love at first sight, nor did I dislike it enough to break up on bad terms. In short, I just didn’t feel it.

The other party is a small boss. When I first saw him, I felt that he fit the image of the little boss in my impression: suit and leather shoes, dark skin, and a paunchy look. Of course, I'm not a face-conscious guy, but who would refuse a handsome guy to be your partner?

We didn’t chat for a few words during the dinner. In order not to refute each other’s face, we still added WeChat after the meal.

02

"Good morning!" "Good night!" He sends me messages every day. Maybe he has a good impression of me after seeing that person, so he checks his presence so frequently.

One day he suddenly talked about marriage, saying that if he married me, he would love me well and buy me rings, earrings, and necklaces...

At that time, thousands of curse words came into my mind, but I was always consistent. Being cautious in my words and deeds, I still suppressed the flames of anger and replied to him lightly: "Oh? Really?"

"Don't believe it, women are meant for pain." He seemed eager to prove his strength and took a picture of his villa to show me.

is not a splendid place, but it does have some wealth, and the decoration looks quite impressive.

"I didn't say I didn't believe you." The true reflection in my heart is actually this: How many days have we known each other? Do you just dream about getting married? Who do you think I am? Am I that kind of materialistic girl?

03

"Good morning!" "Good night!" "What are you doing?" At first I would reply politely. After a while, I figured out that no relationship that comes through force will last long. Besides, there is still a chasm-like gap between me and him. He can't cross it, and neither can I.

"Where are the people?" "Does it take you that long to reply to messages?" I only replied with an eye-rolling expression, not bothering to reply to him even half a word. The emoticon package was enough to express all my emotions.

Later, I gradually became indifferent to him and stopped replying to his messages.

One of the reasons is that I don’t know how to reply to him. Is he eating? Reading? Working out? Ready to take a shower? Am I going to sleep? Do I have to report my whereabouts to him in such detail?

The second reason is that I have no desire to share with him. I don’t even want to share my life with him. It is said that the desire to share is the basis of an intimate relationship between two people. Is it possible to rely on this kind of tumultuous reply?

At this time, how I hope he can know: In the adult world, not replying is rejection.

04

"Good morning", "Good night", "What are you doing?" "Where are the people?" Unfortunately, he was completely unaware and still bombarded with information tirelessly. I stopped replying to any of his messages. I guess he vaguely sensed my "cold violence" and was no longer keen on asking me for help.

I feel more relaxed than ever before. Finally, I no longer have to be irritated after seeing messages and struggle between politeness and willingness. I finally got rid of this strange man. I naively thought I could breathe a little relieved, but I didn't expect that the danger that had been lurking for a long time was approaching quietly.

"Where's A Cong? Why don't you see him come to our house?" The mother's confusing remarks, could it be that the mother-in-law is getting more and more fond of her son-in-law? Why did you think it was him?

"Oh, I have nothing more to do with him."

"You guys have been in love for several months and still haven't gotten together? Has the relationship broken down yet?"

I was silent. Then there was the first scene, where my mother began to belittle me uncontrollably, and everything I did became her reason to drive me away from marriage.

05

I am really speechless: Why is it so difficult to find someone who understands me? My requirements are not too high, right? Of course I can try to understand my mother, but her way is really unpleasant.

I don’t remember how long this autistic state lasted, but fortunately I found psychological comfort from my best friend, so that I wouldn’t sink deeper and deeper.

It’s not a big deal if you fail to get married, and it’s not a big deal if your parents force you to get married. The key is that you must know what you want.

Finally, I sincerely hope that each of us can find our own direction, not be swayed by public opinion, and be ourselves unswervingly.

The world is big and life is still very long. We should all love life and everything related to beauty. The most important thing is to learn to love yourself first.