When the relationship gradually gets better and reaches a certain stable period, you may find that love is not only sweet words, but also full of violence. Of course, violence is not limited to punching and kicking, but also includes "cold violence".
Encyclopedia explains cold violence as "mostly through indifference, contempt, laissez-faire, alienation and indifference, which leads to mental and psychological abuse of others. In short, it is actually a kind of mental abuse.
related statistics, cold violence is the biggest culprit of the separation of lovers and couples today. After all, in modern civilized society, if violence is too rough on their partner, relatively speaking, cold violence at least wears a "civilized" cloak.
In "Dream of Red Mansions", there are actually many scenes about cold violence. For example, in the 21st chapter, there is a cold violence between Hua Xiren and Jia Baoyu. You read that right, it is cold violence between a girl and a boy, a supporting actress against the big male protagonist, a cold violence between a little girl bought for a few taels of silver and a wealthy noble boy.
sounds a bit incredible What I thought about, but what is even more incredible is that after a cold violence with Hua Xiren, Jia Baoyu actually admitted his mistake and accepted his defeat, and even sweared, which made Hua Xiren seem to have won the cold violence.
Events have to start with Hua Xiren's duties. Xiren is the personal maid next to Baoyu, and she is also the maid whom Mrs. Wang secretly promised. Therefore, important things like serving Baoyu's food and daily life are all Xi People themselves, or Xiren assigned someone to do it.
But on this day, Baoyu got up and ran to Daiyu's room to find Daiyu and Xiangyun to play. Seeing that Xiangyun had finished washing, he begged Xiangyun to help him comb his hair. While the two were talking and laughing, Xiren happened to come over to prepare to comb Baoyu.
Therefore, Xiren felt very unhappy and began to commit cold violence against Baoyu. Baoyu asked without answering, and when he asked again, he answered in anger, and finally said sarcastically, "I dare to get angry there!" But don't go into this room again from now on. If someone serves you horizontally and vertically, don’t help me. "
Not only Xiren, but even the little girl under Xiren also made Baoyu bored. This made Baoyu quite angry, so when he was lying on the bed, Xiren went over to cover him with a blanket, and he suddenly raised it and met and pretended to be asleep.
Xiren said, "You don't have to be angry,... I won't say anything to you again! "
Originally, Xiren and Musk Yue brought tea and water, but now Baoyu pushed Musk Yue out with a sentence of "I dare not disturb you". Musk Yue called two little girls to go in and serve.
As a result, Baoyu didn't leave the room a day, and only used books to relieve his boredom. Time flies away bit by bit. Baoyu actually felt very uninterested in his heart, and began to miss the laughing scenes of Xiren and the others when he was there.
, but he was afraid that Xiren and the others would be more proud, so he read the book again and fell asleep in depressedly.
saw Xiren and his clothes lying on the bed the next day, and pushed Xiren and said, "Get up and sleep well, it's cold. "
Xiren ignored him, and Baoyu reached out to unbutton her clothes. Xiren pushed it away and then buttoned it. Baoyu held his hand and asked with a smile, "What's wrong with you?" "He asked a few times, and Xirenfang replied, "You go to wash your room there, and you will not be able to catch up if you are late. "
Baoyu knew that Xiren was embarrassed by his words, so he picked up a jade hairpin and threw it two times and said, "If I don't catch you, I'll just say this." "(Why is this jade hairpin guilty?) At this point, Xiren smiled and said, "Get up and wash your face!" "
A cold violence ends here!
Xiren and Baoyu are cold violence. Some analysts believe that on the one hand, they see Xiangyun washing Baoyu, and feel that his power has been violated; on the other hand, they are also a little jealous of Baoyu and Xiangyun's intimacy.
Cao Gong explained in the article that Xiren saw that he and his sisters were not having sex with each other in the dark day and night, and felt a little overwhelmed. He wanted to persuade him, but he was afraid that Baoyu would not listen, so he used "cold violence" on him.
and the courage to carry out "cold violence" against Baoyu means that Xiren and others still have a certain understanding of Baoyu's character, and they know that they are not the kind of master who bullies slaves with their master and suppresses them from above, so there is such an incredible cold violence between masters and servants.
So whether "cold violence" can produce a perfect ending must be seen by people and things, and treat them differently. Never commit cold violence when you are dissatisfied with the people around you. Remember that it is mental abuse, which is very undesirable.
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