Selina (Ren Jiaxuan) has been in better and better condition after going through hardships.
On September 22, she posted a hearty breakfast on Weibo. On September 20, she said that she had not met her father for almost a month because she was busy with work, and her words were full of self-blame.
And on September 17, Selina was also photographed by the media having dinner with her ex-husband Zhang Chengzhong , and the good sisters Hebe and Ellah were accompanied by.
Since the divorce in 2016, the interaction between the two parties has stagnated for a while. This is the first time that they have been photographed meeting in public. It seems that the relationship between the two is gradually breaking the ice.
It can be seen from this that the princess who was once arrogant began to know how to cherish the people around her after experiencing that well-known disaster.
Selina is a member of SHE, a popular "first day group" that has been around the country. The group has been in the industry for 18 years and is an irreplaceable "myth" in the entertainment industry.
Compared with the sunny and handsome Ella and the elegant Hebe, Selina is the sweet and cute little princess among the three. However, a fire in 2010 caused the princess to fall into the mortal world, burning and disfiguring her face. The lover who had never left her, eventually left...
Physiological and psychological blows made Selina fall into deep inferiority. She once loved her thousands of people and believed that "I am a person without sexual attraction", dare not meet people, and dare not fall in love.
Until one day, she suddenly lost her voice but failed to seek medical treatment. She realized that she was not physically a problem, but had a heart disease. The process of her regaining herself is also a process of regaining her confidence. She no longer persists in pursuing perfection, begins to accept her flawed self, learns to reconcile with her loss, reconcile with her ex-husband, and reconcile with herself.
Nirvana rebirth
2001 to 2010, Selina is a well-deserved "princess". Her sweet appearance and tender voice make people love and pamper her. The family is healthy, the sisters have a tacit understanding, and their career is at its peak. Then I met the prince, summarizing it in her own words - "Love, friendship, and family are all perfect."
However, a fire on October 22, 2010 shattered the dream and became the beginning of a nightmare for a lifetime - she was swallowed by the fire due to an accident in filming.
54% of the whole body were burned, of which 41% were third-degree burns, and 36% of the legs accounted for 90 days of rescue. It took only 90 days for others to escape from danger. For others, this is just a simple string of numbers. For Selina, it means falling from heaven to hell.
She was tied with bandages like a mummy, her fair skin was gone, her beautiful long hair was cut, replaced by ugly scars, fishy and hideous. This sweet princess, who had been worried about acne for several days, looked at her strange and terrible self in the mirror, collapsed and cried countless times.
Before this, she was the goddess in the hearts of billions of fans, the bride-to-be who had just been proposed. The princess was about to hold hands and welcome the happy ending of the prince, but fell into hell overnight. She repeatedly asked: What am I doing wrong? Why is it me?
With the encouragement of her parents and sisters, she began a difficult rehabilitation training. In order to undergo skin graft surgery, she took her scalp three times, went into shock and fainted countless times, wore pressure clothes, applied silicone, and even a mask. Every step was extremely difficult for her.
January 19, 2011, accompanied by Hebe and Ella, Selina made her debut after a burn. She had a buzz cut and swollen face. In addition to her face, she wrapped her whole body and fingers tightly - she was afraid that others would see her scars.
When she was most vulnerable, she still had to endure the curse of those who didn't know the truth. Some even said that she was ungrateful and ungrateful, Yu Haoming, who saved her, was only pretentious, miserable, and sympathized with her. When she was in sorrow and angry, she wanted to commit suicide.
During that time, my father was always by her side. One day she suddenly realized that my father's straight back suddenly hunched, and his once thick black hair seemed to be mixed with white hair overnight.
"At that time, I relied on my father's strength to bully his strength."She suddenly realized that the pain that father suffered was no less than her. She could cry, make a fuss or even get angry at him, but her father had nowhere to vent, so he could only hide the pain in his heart, and pretended to be nothing, comforting and encouraging her.
She seemed to have grown up overnight and decided not to pretend to be an ostrich, but to face the eyes of the outside world boldly .
She participated in the ten-kilometer marathon and gritted her teeth and ran the whole process. She wore shorts and short sleeves, boldly exposing the scars of her arms and legs.
She only realized How much is the injury she suffered from the fire kiss? Facing the ugly scars, there is no ridicule or ridicule, the messages on the Internet are heartache and encouragement.
Because of this marathon, she showed herself more and more confidently and faced the pain. tragedy has happened and cannot be changed. Instead of complaining about the weak and timid and escaping, it is better to actively face the difficulties .
She set sail again, participated in the marathon, gave speeches everywhere, and released albums. She shot the cover of a magazine without makeup. The other party asked her if she had any concerns, and she replied: "No, you all dare to look for me to put the cover without makeup. What's the point of being afraid of . "
In Madame Tussaud's Wax Museum , she did not shy away from keeping every scar of her in the wax figure forever, which was the self she could not imagine before.
From the day she uncovered the scars in front of the camera and the public, Selina "reborn" . She bid farewell to the perfect princess in the fairy tale and began to embrace the sunshine and rainstorms in life, and the scars became the medal of her growth and transformation.
boldly pursue love
That fire was like a nightmare, destroying not only Selina's career, but also her marriage Marriage.
In 2016, Selina announced her divorce from her husband Zhang Chengzhong. People were surprised and sighed. The grand wedding of the two seemed to be yesterday, vivid in their minds.
At the concert, Zhang Chengzhong proposed to Selina in public. Hebe and Ella and the audience also witnessed their happy moments together.
However, one month after the engagement, Selina was kissed by fire. After her disfigured, her confidence completely collapsed and she felt that she was not worthy of him. She proposed to break the engagement, but was rejected by Zhang Chengzhong: "I want to marry Selina, she is my wife! "
On October 31, 2011, Selina and Zhang Chengzhong's wedding was delayed repeatedly due to burn accidents, and finally it was held. Guests gathered at the scene, and even celebrities with thousands of grievances such as Zeng Baoyi , Xiao S, Huang Zijiao , Jolin Tsai , Hou Pei-chen were present.
Selina, who was smiling like a flower, held her lover's hand and became Mrs. Zhang amid the blessing.
However, leaving the public eye, their married life also had trivialities that could not be escaped.
"If it weren't for this burn, our marriage would be nothing great. Without burns, breaking up is nothing great. But with this burn, it becomes a big deal. "Selina couldn't believe it. It turned out that in Azhong, the marriage was "unnecessary". She decided to let go, maintained the marriage for 5 years, and ended like this.
The sweeter it was in love, and now the pain is as great as it is. .
Selina is not as confident and charming as she is on the stage. She has always been the humble and uneasy. She once said in the show that she even knelt for love when she was a student. As long as the purpose of communication can be achieved, she can lower her figure.
This failed marriage made her fall into inferiority and sensitivity again, and she began to question Her own charm, "I am a person with no sexual attraction", even when she was taking a shower, she couldn't help but cover her face and cry.
Since then, she avoided talking about marriage and emotional state. Her ex-husband Zhang Chengzhong's rumored girlfriend has changed for several rounds, but her feelings are still blank. She closed herself again.
In 2018, when she was about to release a new album, she suddenly lost her voice and visited famous doctors, but was told that there was no problem with her body and her throat was nothing wrong. She had no results in seeking medical treatment, so she could only lip-sync at the 17th anniversary concert of S.H.E.
" My voice is good, but my heart is sick ."She went to see a psychologist and began to learn to accept her flawed self, no longer questioned herself or deny herself.
At the suggestion of the psychologist, she took the initiative to meet with her ex-husband. This was the first time the two met after the divorce. She expressed her heart like a friend, talked with heart-to-heart, admitted their shortcomings, and apologized sincerely to each other. After the conversation, she felt a relaxed feeling in her heart and completely let go, "He is in the seat in my heart, now he is very comfortable, comfortable and beautiful. "
After reconciling with her ex-husband, she tried to break through the inner demons, so she mustered up the courage to participate in the variety show " Daughters' Love " with her sister.
But compared to her sister's confidence and courage in the show, Selina was full of hesitation, doubt and disconfidence everywhere.
She was worried that no one would come to the date and had very low requirements for her date: amateur, married, and had a small It doesn't matter if the child is. When she finds out that the other party is a young man 11 years younger than her, Zhang Xuanrui , her first reaction is that the other party's "brain is broken", otherwise how could she like herself?
The inferiority and anxiety revealed from the inside out make people feel distressed. She longs for love, but is afraid of being hurt, and has been reluctant to take a step forward.
Fortunately, Zhang Xuanrui is very patient and a warm man. After the whole season, they are as sweet as ordinary couples and feed the audience a lot of dog food. After the show was broadcast, Selina posted on Weibo, thanking Zhang Xuanrui for her appearance, which made her believe in love again.
After experiencing suspicion, retreat, and timidity, Selina can finally muster up the courage to face the next happiness . She comes by putting the sky lantern Praying for love, it says, "Ren Jiaxuan will definitely find someone who loves her, and Ren Jiaxuan will definitely be happy."
No matter when the arrow of Cupid of the God of Love can hit her, at least she has become more and more confident and loves life more and more.
Conclusion
To this day, nine years have passed since that disaster, no one expected that the fate of the members of the SHE girl group would reverse so much:
The tomboy Ella, who used to be a little woman, got married and had children, and had a happy marriage;
The beautiful and well-behaved Hebe is becoming more and more like a queen, and she is brave enough to climb the peak of her career;
And the sweet and cute Selina, who is surrounded by stars and sweet and cute, has suffered a fire, disfigurement, divorce, and lost her voice, as if she was abandoned by fate.
She used to be the most like a princess, but now she is the least like a princess, but what about that?
She has long bid farewell to the perfect princess in the fairy tale world, like an ordinary girl returning to normal life. In her career, she opened her own company; in life, she has loved her family and unyielding close friends. Her life is fulfilling and happy.
Studying the impermanence of fate and ups and downs, she has been reborn, knowing how to cherish life, love life, and enjoy everything given by life. Her smile is sweeter than 9 years ago, and more Calm and more confident.
reference
【1】"This year of Selina's loss of voice". Look at the world
【2】 "In setbacks, I learned how to face the next time love is coming". Nandu Entertainment Weekly
【3】 "Daughters' Love". Mango TV
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