It doesn’t matter if you marry the wrong person, but you need to have the courage to start over. If you don’t leave, you don’t know how to endure it for decades. Whether you live well after divorce depends on yourself, not in other people's mouths. Don't continue to endure just because others say a few words. If you blame your ex-husband for being unprofitable every day after the divorce and your personality becomes sarcastic, you will naturally not be able to get better.
If you feel relaxed from now on, be motivated and free, and keep growing, and make your personality and career better, you can naturally change your life! Live another life. Bai Jiaqi is an example. Although she had a low point after her divorce, she met the right person and helped her repair herself.
25 got married and divorced due to cheating
21 years old, she married her ex-husband 15 years older and gave birth to two daughters. Unexpectedly, after 4 years of marriage, her ex-husband cheated. Bai Jiaqi decided to divorce, and the restaurant they jointly run also went bankrupt, with a debt of 6 million yuan, and lost her marriage and career. In order to pay off her debts, she entered the entertainment industry, but instead entered the highlight of her life and became a popular actress.
But the previous marriage still had a great influence on her. Bai Jiaqi revealed that when she first met her current husband Wu Dongyan, she had not yet emerged from the shadow of divorce. At that time, she felt that no one loved her anymore, no one would like her true side, and her daughter didn't want her to fall in love, so she never accepted Wu Dongyan.
She will still cry when she talks about that time again. She thanked her husband for accompanying her through a difficult road during that process. That was why she was moved and allowed to accept Wu Dongyan, but the test was not over yet. After dating, she was still full of insecurity and could not trust love. She often put pressure on Wu Dongyan and even made excuses to break up.
often says to Wu Dongyan: "Are you different from what you originally thought after dating? Did I tell you that I am not the kind of girl you imagined?"
This may be because she didn't believe she deserved to be loved at that time, so she unconsciously tested the other person's sincerity with these emotional words.
If the other party accepts such a mess, he will feel at ease and feel that it is a sign of being loved, but it is often because of this. This is a behavior that many people with black holes in their hearts will have.
Every time she breaks up if she doesn’t agree with her, Wu Dongyan accepted it abnormally, and she realized the importance of the other party! Reflecting on Wu Dongyan having been with her for so long, those shadows were not caused by him, but he was willing to fix them with her: "No one can do it, there is really no one, only him."
This is the psychology abandoned cat effect played a role. If the partner often breaks up and gets back together, you promise him once. After he truly feels the pain of losing you, he will be more cautious next time. is not about teaching him a lesson, but about letting him learn to cherish it.
Sister-brother relationship and second marriage and life
Later, Bai Jiaqi married Wu Dongyan, who was 5 years younger than her, and the two lived a very happy life, and they also interacted well with their ex-husband's family. "Every year, everyone celebrates the birthdays, New Year and Mother's Day together. We all love our children as the premise. We get along well on both sides, and we won't be embarrassed."
This means she let go. After a person lets go of his resentment, life will be completely different! Her generosity allows her daughters to have the love of their parents at the same time, and she has also become more positive! Thank you very much for everything you have .
She didn't regret having children early marriage: "Fortunately I had a child at the beginning, but now I have no worries. My children are old, so I can communicate well with me like my friends."
Later, with Wu Dongyan, he gave birth to another son and a daughter, a total of 4 children, and the family was very lively.She also encouraged single mothers with her own experience: "I have also experienced these difficult processes. Fortunately, I had positive support from family and friends at that time, and encountered assistance from noble people such as Minshi. Now I am very happy. Looking back on that period, I am grateful and believe that God has his own arrangements!"
From the perspective of causality, the debt I had with my ex-husband back then was paid off, so the other party cheated, allowing her to leave that bad relationship. Soon after, I met Wu Dongyan who came to repay her kindness and helped her change her life and get happiness again. If we look at it from the perspective of 's Law of Attraction , it means that the universe feels that the ex-husband is not suitable for her, so we let the other party leave her life.
Because her heart is kind, she attracts Wu Dongyan to overcome difficulties with her and help her become more positive and happy! It seems that Wu Dongyan should be a safe attachment. This type of lover can help you, who are full of insecurity, slowly return to normal, look at the relationship with a normal attitude, and establish a stable inner order.
If Wu Dongyan was not safe and attached, he could not stand it when Bai Jiaqi kept asking for breakup. The analysis of the characters in the article is just my personal opinion, and it does not mean that the characters in the article must be like this. If you are also in a situation similar to Bai Jiaqi, , please do not look for anxiety type or avoidance type together. They will only strengthen your dark side and make you more abnormal!
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