The first "Marriage and Family Lawyer" documentary "Dear Enemy" jointly produced by Youku, Tencent Video and production agency Zhongguang Tianze was launched on July 13 and is currently updated to the third episode.

Pengpai News reporter Gao Dan

The 40-year-old son left a scar of 8 cm on his mother's arm to compete for real estate; a man was forced to divorce by his wife for 14 years and found that his two children were not his own children; in the face of a violent husband, what should the wife do to escape unscathed; let his wife keep doing test tubes, but behind his back a female college student miscarriage twice...

These seemingly weird cases actually happened and were captured and recorded by a documentary "Dear Enemy". The first "Marriage and Family Lawyer" documentary "Dear Enemy" jointly produced by Youku, Tencent Video and production agency Zhongguang Tianze was launched on July 13 and is currently updated to the third episode. This documentary starts from the professional perspective of four senior marriage and family lawyers and records the dilemma in different marriage and family stories and intimate relationships.

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Discussion on marriage, the two variety shows " Goodbye Love " and " Spring Reset " calmly stood at the end of a relationship and reflected on the crux of the rupture of it. In the slowness and warmth, there is more helplessness. "Dear Enemy" is much crueler, just like the 2019 " Marriage Story ", life is always difficult, but when we need to strive for something, or can no longer bear something, our soft, muddy, mediocre life can also make deafening sounds, the pain becomes violent and swells, and the old friends become the enemies we hate the most.

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Marriage and family lawyers who entered the "secret corner"

"Dear Enemy" chose four marriage and family lawyers with different styles and followed these lawyers into each family. Wang Jing, producer of "Dear Enemy", said in a recent sharing session that students who graduate from law may first choose to be a marriage and family lawyer. "Marriage and family lawyers not only need to master the " Civil Code ", but also property inheritance and other laws and regulations. More importantly, they need to understand how to communicate well. It solves the problems of emotions and relationships between people."

Regarding the vertical choice of marriage and family affairs, Yuan Bo, producer of the documentary channel of Youku Pan Entertainment Content Center, believes that the subject matter of marriage and family affairs is universal and widespread, and is closely related to our daily lives. Marriage and family affairs are not only about marriage, but also about father-son relationships, mother-son relationships, inheritance and other related content. These are what ordinary people will encounter when they grow up. Audiences can gain enlightenment from it and avoid some problems in life.

Producer Wang Jing said that the current marriage is far more complicated than we imagined. Now when two people divorce, they need to consider how to solve their property, how to solve their equity, and even how to allocate some funds bought and sold in Alipay . Therefore, there is a scene where the financial director must first arrive regardless of whether his wife is present or not.

Producer Wang Jing

When selecting the subject, Wang Jing introduced that in the planning and preparation stage, "The Changsha Lawyers Association has 10,000 lawyers. We screen out the top lawyers in the field of marriage and family affairs, and then re-screen according to each person's different characteristics, good case handling methods, and leading the team. Then go to different law firms to check out the operation of the law firm, including how marriage and family lawyers handle cases; secondly, you need to listen to what everyone generally asks about the law firm. What kind of performance and reaction are there? "

where Wang Jing is located once produced the brisk and interesting "Guarding the Liberation West", while "Dear Enemy" is not as short and fast as the former. "Our shooting mode is the same as the shooting of the reality show. A group of people follow up with a lawyer team, with a main person in charge and executive director. "Dear Enemy" has a long time span. It took a year and a half to complete the entire case. The last case was divorced in July this year."

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"Marriage Story" says: Criminal lawyers will see the best side of bad people, and divorce lawyers will see the worst side of good people.

There is probably no lawyer who will reach the most secret corner of every family like a marriage and family lawyer and see the worst appearance of people. For example, Shu Rongyue in the fourth episode "If this marriage is divorced, I will take your surname"" is herself the deputy director of the Rights and Interests Department of the Hunan Women's Federation. Unlike many lawyers who can generously share their winnings and how many games they have won in total, lawyer Shu Rongyue believes that every time a divorce lawsuit wins, it represents a family's Broken, a relationship is dispersed.

breaks the deadlock for a bad relationship

Although using marriage and family lawyers as the entry point, "Dear Enemy" is essentially concerned about the marriage relationship itself.

Producer Wang Jing said that during the investigation and observation stage, you will see various reasons for divorce. A young couple born in the 1995 have a divorce. The fuse was that the mother-in-law did not change the child's diapers, the girl beat the mother-in-law, and the boy chose to protect his mother. "Just because of this incident, the case materials we saw, the content of the two disputes were very trivial, such as 'I bought you soy milk today, and I bought you something else tomorrow'. "The most troublesome thing in court was that neither of them wanted a child. Wang Jing said, "The judge asked repeatedly, they didn't want it. The judge was also very angry and said that I could not sentence him to divorce the first time. ”

Of course, there are also cases that are particularly sad or shocking, such as the existence of domestic violence , deception in marriage, etc.

Screenshot of "Dear Enemy"

There are also some common differences in divorce cases. Wang Jing said: "I followed the lawyer to listen to a lot of consultations. I found that girls generally talk about their emotional problems and emotional needs, but boys basically think clearly, knowing clearly what they want and what they want to solve. Therefore, the barriers to communication between partners are too high, and we need to open our ears and listen to the other person’s needs in daily life. "

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Every marriage that reaches the end seems to be a bad debt, and both parties chatter endlessly, and there is never a solution. "Dear Enemy" also shows how lawyers can break the gap for these bad debts. "The existence of lawyers is to resolve conflicts, such as the complexity of marriage relationships and the division of property issues. In the end, it is the best thing to be able to talk about it peacefully. If you show that life is full of violent things, crying, making noise, and it is not something we want to convey. At the same time, we must also get rid of the stigma of divorce. In addition, in the presentation of the program, in addition to the story of the parties involved, we still want to show what kind of dynamics the lawyer is in it and how he handles the case, because many people do not know what the lawyer is doing. "

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Han Yun, director of the documentary channel of Youku Pan Entertainment Content Center, also introduced that in recent years, TV series with realistic themes have become more and more popular among young people because users' demands for real things have always existed. In the past, news and documentaries have relied on news and documentaries to satisfy this demand, but now many documentaries have begun to take the route of eating, drinking, entertainment, and reality shows. Users' demands are not satisfied, so they find documentaries with realistic themes to satisfy this part of the gap. "In the past few years, Youku has successively launched some documentaries on social reality themes, including focusing on the female fertility documentary "Wonderful Eggs" and the medical humanistic documentary "Shengsheng", etc. After "Dear Enemy", the documentary "Makeup" focusing on appearance anxiety will also be released. "Han Yun introduced.

In addition, the platform hopes to provide users with greater discussion space outside the documentary. To this end, the Tree Cave Community was opened and many lawyers contacted various parties to provide legal aid to users in need. In the online community triggered by the documentary "Dear Enemy", there are confusion about marriage every day. As of July 30, the number of interactions of #Love Marriage Legal Mutual Assistance Tree Cave# reached 7,951.Youku Documentary will also invite lawyers to give professional legal opinions on everyone's general issues.

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