The main force in the current families who raise children is not parents but the elderly. Although sometimes they know that there are some disadvantages for the elderly to raise children, there is no way. If the elderly are not allowed to help take care of their children, judging from the current life situation, the pressure on young people can be imagined.
Julie and her husband are both office workers. After having children, Julie specially invited her grandmother who lives in her hometown to take care of the children. With the help of grandma, the family's life was in an orderly manner. It can be said that grandma's arrival has relieved Julie and her husband a lot of burden.
Last week, Julie took her daughter out to play outside. When her daughter saw that there were pet chickens selling so much, she cried and asked Julie to buy it home. When Julie saw that her daughter liked her, she agreed.
After returning home, my daughter treated the chicks as her baby, feeding them to the chicks every day, and even saying good night to the chicks before going to bed at night. But one day when my daughter was sleeping at noon, my grandma actually killed her daughter's chick. My daughter got up and couldn't find the chick, so she started crying loudly.
At this time, my grandma said coldly, "What are you doing if you raise a chicken without meat? Don't cry, come and eat chicken, it's so delicious." After hearing grandma's words, my daughter shouted to grandma, "I hate you, don't be at my house." After that, she ran into her room.
Grandma is quite wronged. She is just a little chick. I see that you can’t compare to a little chick every day?
Julie was in a dilemma by her daughter and grandma. Logically speaking, it was indeed the grandma who did something wrong this time, but in turn, we cannot blame her grandma, because after all, it is indeed not easy for her grandma to help take care of the children. But how to comfort your daughter is also a difficult problem.
Julie has also asked this question for like , because the friends around her are basically the elderly who look at the children, either grandma or grandma. Julie wanted to ask her friends what would she do if she encountered such a problem.
Some friends directly said that it was originally a big grandma’s fault, just tell her directly. Anyway, they are all their own mothers, and their mothers will not hold grudges. Unlike the child’s grandma, they need to pay attention to their words.
And my friend not only gave Julie an idea, but also analyzed the difference between grandma and grandma raising children for Julie.
Educational
Grandma has problems in raising children, and usually mothers will be embarrassed to tell grandma directly. After all, grandma is not a biological mother, and some words are not so casual. If you are not careful, you may cause conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
It is easier and easy for mothers to take care of their children. Because when there is a conflict in the child’s problems, mothers can directly tell grandma , because grandma understands her daughter’s temper and generally does not take it to heart. Moreover, the problems with the children can be directly exposed. In short, it is relatively easy for grandma to reach an agreement with mother in terms of education.
in life
in life will be more doting in life, after all, it is his own grandson. However, when it comes to the mother's issue, if the child has bad behavior, the grandmother will say it is the mother's problem, and generally it is not the father's problem. and will also say some bad things to the child from time to time, affecting the relationship between the mother and the child. There is also the grandma taking care of the children, and the mother also often pays her grandma for living expenses. Although she spends money on her grandson, some grandmas are unwilling to do so.
Grandma can reach an agreement with her mother in terms of life, and grandma is willing to take care of her daughter, and grandma is very willing to buy things for her children. Grandma knew that it was difficult for her daughter, so she would do her best to help her, and she never had to give her pocket money. Moreover, grandma will tell the child that it is not easy for mothers and that children should learn to be grateful.
conceptual aspects
Although grandma takes care of her children for her son to see the child, and the child is also in her own family, some grandmas always feel unwilling to do so. Because grandma will feel that no matter how much she has given, the child will eventually kiss her mother.
grandma doesn’t worry about raising children. timely It doesn’t matter if the child doesn’t kiss him. Because he loves his daughter, he also loves his daughter’s children. As long as the child can love his mother, it is worth it to work harder for him.
Since young people allow the elderly to take care of their children, they must also accept the disadvantages of the elderly taking care of their children, but parents should still spend as much time with their children as possible. The elderly help to see the children is just to help parents reduce some of the burden, but parents should not let the elderly become the main force in raising children, and they will not care about anything all day long. In the end, if the children have problems, they will still blame the elderly.
In fact, it is not necessary for the elderly to help take care of their children. Young people should be grateful and understand the difficulties of the elderly. The elderly sacrifice their rest time to help themselves, so no matter whether the children are well or not, parents should not put the blame on the elderly.
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