Unconsciously, in just three months, [ Kapok ] has opened 7 consecutive battalions. From the breast cancer family training camp in May to the lung cancer camp in June to July, [Kapok] accompanied hundreds of cancer families from late spring to midsummer.
As China's first cancer family training camp , we actually don't have any references. From course design to instructor invitation to operational rules, we have paid a lot, but we have been warm and powerful along the way.
There is a topic in our course design that talks about the changes brought to the family by cancer. Our imagination was to send encouragement and care to the students, but we didn’t expect that we were moved to tears by the students every time.
"I have to admit that it was cancer that made me grow up quickly."
"Because my father was sick, the family seemed to be more united and loving than before."
"My mother's illness made me see evil and made me truly feel good."
"I never thought I was so powerful. I could carry my father to 180 for carrying him."
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cancer is like a huge rock pressing on the heads of these families, but sometimes it is easy for to bloom from the cracks of the rocks to .
We are never afraid to discuss the horror of cancer. In real life, there are many examples that constantly remind us of the fragility of life.
Famous host Li Yong , storyteller Shan Tianfang , drama performance artist Zhu Xu , rock musician Zang Tianshuo , cross talk performance artist Shi Shengjie ... Many well-known people passed away one after another after experiencing cancer torture.
Even the data seems to be inclined to the side of the illness.
According to the latest national cancer statistics released by the National Cancer Center in January 2019, in 2015 (the data of the National Cancer Registration Center generally lags for three years), about 3.929 million malignant tumors occurred and about 2.338 million died. On average, more than 10,000 people are diagnosed with cancer every day, and 7.5 people are diagnosed with cancer every minute.
These cold data hurt every cancer family seriously.
Faced with unbearable pain, high treatment costs, and unpredictable prognosis, the once-magnificent father became helpless, the optimistic mother began to cry, and the happy family became gloomy.
But "what can't beat me will make me stronger."
Although it is difficult to fight cancer, we have never given up on each other. In some aspects, cancer has also brought a beautiful positive impact on these families.
During the training and teaching process of June Camp, we witnessed countless such surprises and touches.
They said:
"My mother was busy before she got sick, and her father was very lazy and didn't like to move. After she got sick, my father became much more diligent. And I am no longer a child who can hide behind my parents, but a pillar of the family."
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"Dad was sick, and I realized that this man was so cute. He was also a naughty when he was a child."
"My child just called grandpa, I want to start teaching her what responsibility and love is."
"My mother, who used to be very unscrupulous, now takes her grandson downstairs for a walk every night."
"I always felt that I was young and strong and didn't have anything to worry about, but after my mother got sick, she felt the helplessness of beings in front of the disease, and the helplessness of having medicine but not money. She quickly bought insurance for her family to improve her ability to resist risks."
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Who would have thought that they cried in despair when they got the diagnosis? Like a moth to the fire, he was determined to fight against cancer to the death without hesitation, but after several struggles with cancer, he actually smiled brighter than before.
So, after moth pounces on the flame, Nirvana regenerates a new possibility .
Many times, what really defeats us is not cancer itself, but the fear of cancer.
and fear makes people escape, surrender, and even give up on themselves.
Domestic studies have shown that about 20% to 40% of cancer patients have thoughts of suicide.
Previously, Taiwanese media reported that cancer has ranked first in the top ten causes of death among Taiwanese people for 32 consecutive years, with about 80,000 to 90,000 new people suffering from cancer in a year. Statistics found that the suicide mortality rate of cancer patients is more than 7 times that of ordinary people, not only exceeding three times that of neighboring South Korea, but also much higher than that of ordinary countries and regions.
For many people, talking about cancer is a positive feedback, and directly surrendering is the only possibility.
Someone once said: "Every struggle God has arranged for us is purposeful, and I have never even had the opportunity to have close contact with death. That is what I want to live."
So, there are always some people who refuse to surrender.
I believe everyone still remembers the story of Xiong Dun 7 years ago.
On August 21, 2011, Xiong Dun was diagnosed with lymphoma. During the process of fighting cancer, she created "Get out, Tumor Lord! 》 This comic uses light weight, calm and humorous description of the process of seeking medical treatment when you are sick.
She once said: "Why blame others? Getting sick is a very painful thing in itself. Why do you have to add pain to your pain and make yourself more uncomfortable?"
Change, starting from the fact that you learn to reconcile with the illness in a happy way .
When reviewing Xiong Dun's story, it also reminds me of the American female photographer Nancy Borowick who has a set of works that are particularly suitable for sharing.
Her mother has been fighting cancer for nearly 20 years, and her father was diagnosed with cancer in 2015. Nancy records the process of his parents fighting cancer, the changes in their lives and emotions.
has the pain of surgery and chemotherapy, but the couple also maintains and cares for each other, and is gentle but powerful.
In the face of cancer, subtraction of pain is equivalent to adding hope.
Hope will tell you that cancer can only make waves in your body, but your life yearns for the stars and seas, and should be prosperous.
" Strange Talk " once had an issue of the topic: Can you see the time of death of others, should you tell them?
Qiu Chen When she stood up to debate, she told her story. She said there was a countdown on her phone. 219 days ago, she wrote 5 words on it: Hello, Tumor Lord.
On March 14 this year, Qiu Chen was diagnosed with thyroid malignant tumor.
In the face of cancer, many people's first reaction is "death."
However, the most terrifying thing is not death, but because they know when they face death. During the countdown, they have disappeared the determination to continue to struggle, and the quality of life has disappeared.
So Qiu Chen is different. She often laughs at herself as "death", but lives very seriously.
After suffering from cancer, Qiu Chen said that she started to be admitted to the hospital and was discharged from the hospital to restore full-time patient life, and then took medicine and checked. Two months later, she resumed work, and three months later, she resumed fitness. The training for "The Debater" began four months later, and the recording of "The Debater" began five months later, until now.
She said: "Death is the most accurate 'education' of life. Death will not bargain with us and treat us equally. Only in this way can we let go of our inner prejudice and arrogance, let go of our self-righteous carelessness..."
Every struggle God arranged for us is purposeful, and we have never even had the opportunity to have close contact with death. That is what we can live.
Qiu Chen's change is not a direct reversal from bad to good, but a good addition. A life that was already brilliant enough has become more serious after encountering cancer and is not in vain.
As Haruki Murakami said, death is not the opposite of life, but a part of life.
The pregnant cancer patient Zhang Lijun desperately gave birth to a child Xiaolongbao, and then underwent surgery. He said this at the time of parting, "Instead of asking what death is, it is better to think about how to be alive.
Teacher Li Yinhe said: I tend to think that death is indeed the destination of everyone's life, but people Life can also set many other purposes, such as physical comfort and spiritual pleasure, which can become the purpose of life.
When you start facing death, you might as well set this purpose for yourself first:
"You will start to try to go to bed early and get up early, you will start to care about your family and friends, you will know how to use your time well, you will understand what is the most important thing for you, and you will choose to wait before dawn. ”
Only those who live to the death can die be born.
[Kapok care plan]
①Kapok is the first service project for "cancer families" in China. The project is committed to training a cancer patient's family with the shortest time, the most vivid cases, the clearest guidance, and the clearest path to train the family of a cancer patient from "knowing nothing" to "I'm ready!"
②The operation of kapok is very simple:
training is achieved through WeChat group + mini program
with 21 days as a cycle (the specific course shall prevail)
uses the fragmented time of daily "timed"
to let patients go from "nothing knows" to "I'm ready"
③ The purpose of the training camp is to allow every participating family member to start a new journey of "with patients" - this journey is not easy and even challenging, but with the help of doctors, industry experts and other families, this journey will also be full of hope.
④【3 instructions on "Kapok"】
1: There will be no consumption behavior during this training camp, and no medicines, health products, foods or any products of specific brands are recommended.
2: This training camp is mainly dedicated to the training of cancer families in treatment paths, family relationships, psychological burdens, behavioral habits, etc. It does not involve specific treatment plans, does not recommend any specific doctors or drugs, and will not give treatment advice for any individual case.
3: The training camp is of a social scientific research nature. We accept students to participate in anonymous online. We do not collect any patient-related privacy treatments (including but not limited to contact information, medical records, treatment plans, etc.), nor will any information generated in this training camp be provided to any institution or individual without the consent of the trainees.
["Kapok" course catalog reference]:
Topic 1:
The way to seek medical treatment
Topic 1: Doctor Yifanren
Topic 2: Faced with new therapies rationally
Topic 3: Re-view of alternative therapies
Topic 2:
About pain
Topic 1: Pain in treatment
Topic 2: Long-term cancer pain management
Topic 3: Relieve side effects
Topic 3:
Anti-cancer economy
Topic 1: Cost-effective treatment
Topic 1: Treatment cost-effective
Topic 2: Long-term cancer pain management
Topic 3: Relieving side effects
Topic 3:
Anti-cancer economy
Topic 1: Treatment cost-effective
Topic 1: Treatment cost-effective
Topic 0Topic 2: Long-term cancer pain management
Topic 3: Relieving side effects
Topic 3:
Anti-cancer economy
Topic 1: Treatment cost-effective
Topic 0Topic 1: Treatment cost-effective
Topic 0Topic 3: Treatment 2: How to find more money
Topic 3: Commercial medical insurance
Topic 4:
Family communication
Topic 1: About listening
Topic 2: About the truth
Topic 3: New topic
Topic 5:
Prognosis recovery
Topic 1: Exercise and rehabilitation
Topic 2: Family nutrition regulation
Topic 3: The importance of long-term persistence
Topic 6:
Family changes
Topic 1: Accept change
Topic 2: Two new identities
Topic 2: Two new identities
Topic 3: The importance of long-term persistence
Topic 6:
Family changes
Topic 1: Accept change
Topic 2: Two new identities
Topic 3: New changes
Note: All the above courses are set by front-line clinical experts, psychology experts, community service personnel, and anti-cancer stars. The course details may be temporarily adjusted according to the actual situation of each training camp at any time. This course schedule is for reference only.
Add Kapok - this time, I will work hard for my family!
Registration method: Add Assistant Teacher Xiaohe (WeChat ID: zlzd886)
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