In the early morning of May 25, 2016, Mr. Yang Jiang passed away. In another 50 days, by July 17, it will be Yang Jiang’s 105th birthday. She told us not to be sad, she just went to reunite with her family in another world.
In 1997, his daughter Qian Yuan passed away. In 1998, her husband, Qian Zhongshu, passed away. Yang Jiang wrote about the sorrow in his heart with a sentence "The good things in the world are not strong, and the colorful clouds are easy to disperse and comb and brittle."
is not a family, and you don’t enter the family. Three people who love reading and learning form the Three of us. The three of them came to the world and left the world. Qian Yuan and Qian Zhongshu passed away, and they all declared that they would not leave ashes. Yang Jiang asked to cremate first and then issue an obituary. They just wanted to leave in a low-key manner.
Qian Yuan and Qian Zhongshu took the lead, and Yang Jiang held on for another 18 years. Yang Jiang said that she wanted to stay and clean the battlefield. After 18 years of cleaning the battlefield, Yang Jiang finally achieved great merits and could reunite with her daughter and husband with peace of mind.
Once Yang Jiang is gone, there is no more female husband in the world. Media such as " People's Daily ", " China Youth Daily ", " Global Times ", " Xinmin Evening News ", " Wenhui Daily ", and other media have published articles to mourn Mr. Yang Jiang. My favorite comment was published in the "News Morning News" on May 26.
"Yang Jiang has maintained the 'girl appearance' throughout her life. She loves everything she does from the bottom of her heart - whether it is housework or work, so she does it without distraction. No contradiction, no entanglement, no division. She believes everything she says; she does what she believes. The beauty of a gentleman lies in the relaxed eyebrows and naturalness. This is the real and powerful soul of freedom."
This evaluation is the most humane, lowering Yang Jiang, who has a high personality, high talent and high status to the level of an ordinary person, enough to make us see, smell and touch. This not only meets our expectations, but also meets Yang Jiang's own positioning. She said that she likes the Du Fu that is in harmony with the people, and does not like Li Bai who is beyond the people. She is willing to stand with the people.
Yang Jiang is an ordinary old man around you and me. If there is a difference, it is because she always has a "girl appearance". We might as well erase the gender differences. From the perspective of young people, the most valuable thing about young people is that they can dream freely and do things freely. Unlike middle-aged and old people, who have been worn out by the world and erased their true hearts, looking forward and backward, not left and right, not at all distinctive, and have no life.
It is not easy to maintain a "girl appearance" throughout your life. Yang Jiang can do it because she has 5 rules for happiness .
"For so many years, after I get up every morning, I have to make such a decision: I like it. If I like it, I am happy, I like it when I am happy! I have always adhered to five simple and easy-to-use rules of happiness: one is not to have hatred in my heart, two is not to have worries in my mind, three is to be simpler in life, four is to give more to others, and five is to look forward to less expectations for myself."
Looking back at Yang Jiang's life, she believed and liked, she did it. Even if she had received a bad name and suffered obvious losses because of these things, she had no regrets. has become Yang Jiang's longevity code and the password that will last forever in the world.
1. "The unique combination of three incompatible ones: wife, lover, friend" - Qian Zhongshu
1. Be willing to be a "maid under the stove"
1935, Qian Zhongshu was admitted to Oxford University in the UK with the highest score and is about to study in the UK. At that time, Yang Jiang had not graduated from her postgraduate study at Tsinghua University. Considering that Qian Zhongshu was born into a scholarly family and was not good at taking care of himself in daily life, Yang Jiang planned to go abroad with Qian Zhongshu to take care of Qian Zhongshu.
Unable to wait for graduation, Yang Jiang and her teacher discussed using a paper instead of the exam, so they set off home immediately. After returning home, in order to go abroad together, Yang Jiang and Qian Zhongshu held their wedding on the hottest summer day of the year.
First arrived in the UK, Yang Jiang and Qian Zhongshu lived in Lao Jin's house. Life was OK at first, but later it got worse and worse.Yang Jiang was worried that her husband would never have enough food, and it would not be a big deal for this long, so she proposed to rent another place to live. Qian Zhongshu advised his wife, you can't cook, so just live.
Yang Jiang is confident that she just cooks and can learn it. After changing the residence, Yang Jiang learned to cook after making a lot of jokes.
What is extremely interesting is that once a store sent lentils . Yang Jiang didn't know him and thought she wanted to peel out the beans inside to eat. While peeling hard, I became "disliked" the lentils with too thick skin and too small beans. Why did I eat beans so hard? Later I realized that lentils were either peeled or eaten with skin.
But no matter what, Yang Jiang is very happy that Qian Zhongshu can eat enough.
happier things came soon, and Yang Jiang was pregnant with a child. During the time of giving birth, Yang Jiang was in the hospital and Qian Zhongshu was at home alone. Qian Zhongshu goes to the hospital to see Yang Jiang every day, and always brings "bad news" to Yang Jiang. Yang Jiang gave birth to a daughter, and she wanted to comfort Qian Zhongshu like she was comforting her "son".
Qian: "I did a bad thing, knocked over the ink bottle, and dyed the landlord's tablecloth."
Yang: "It doesn't matter, I can wash it."
Qian: "I did a bad thing, I smashed the desk lamp."
Yang: "It doesn't matter, I can fix it."
Qian: "I did a bad thing, I can fix it."
Qian: "I did a bad thing, I got rid of the balls at both ends of the door shaft, and the door couldn't be closed."
"It doesn't matter, I can fix it."
Yang Jiang said "It doesn't matter", and Qian Zhongshu felt relieved. In their family, Yang Jiang gave birth to the child, and Yang Jiang was also the manager. Qian Zhongshu told Yang Jiang that he had no ambitions in his life and just wanted to do research. Yang Jiang was both a woman and a man at home, and took care of Qian Zhongshu and studied with peace of mind.
Qian Zhongshu wanted to write " Siege ", but he couldn't find time. Yang Jiang said, if you take less classes, you can save a little more at home. It happened that the maid from the family came home, so Yang Jiang stopped hiring him and acted as a "maid under the stove" to serve his life.
Yang Jiang is actually a "maid under the stove", but she actually has a connection. Yang Jiang is very filial to her father. When she was in elementary school, after her father had breakfast, she would make a bowl of tea for her father; after her father had eaten fruit, she would peel it; after eating dried fruit, she would peel it. In winter, a whole family sat around the stove. After a while, the stove needed to add coal. Yang Jiang always kept silent and gently pinched the coal and put it into the stove.
There are different people with affairs and people with intention. People with affairs are high-profile, while people with intention are low-key. If you have something, you will be whispering, and if you do something, you will be afraid that others will not know about it. If you have a heart, you will do it and do it without any ostentatiousness. Yang Jiang is a person with a heart, and her sister and younger brother. She admires Yang Jiang the most for not making a sound, as if she should have done it alone.
2. Be willing to be a "roadblocking dog"
, who once served as the director of the library of Peking University and the director of the Shanghai Museum, Xu Hongbao praised Qian Zhongshu and said that a talent like Qian Zhongshu only produced one in two or three hundred years. Qian Zhongshu is known as the "Cultural Kunlun" and has been widely praised at home and abroad. Many people found him and wanted to be his introductory disciple. But he didn't want to start a sect, he just wanted to swim in the sea of books quietly and undisturbed.
Qian Zhongshu loves books, and he was already showing off his dew when he was one year old. His family arranged for him to arrest Zhou, but he didn't take anything else and just grabbed a book. The name "Zhongshu" was changed because of this.
Coincidentally, Yang Jiang’s biggest hobby is reading. My father Yang Yinhang asked her, what would you do if you don’t let you read for three days? Yang Jiang replied, it’s hard to have a living. My father asked again, are you not allowed to read a book for a week? Yang Jiang replied, I have lived in vain for a week.
Yang Jiang's mother once joked that the reason why Yang Jiang had to study at Tsinghua University was to meet and fall in love with Qian Zhongshu. It is hard to explain the matter of fate, but with fate, the subsequent explanation will be natural. Yang Jiang said: "Qian Zhongshu and I are like-minded couples. We were attracted to each other because we both loved literature and were obsessed with reading."
so Yang Jiang understood Qian Zhongshu's mood of just closing the door to study.Yang Jiang compared reading to visiting each other, and it is very wonderful. There is no need to say hello in advance or disturb the master. Come and go like entering a state of no one. Since you can visit each other in books, why do you have to go to the door in reality?
However, "money fans" don't think so. "Qian Fan" is a fan of Qian Zhongshu. They always want to see their idols in person. Qian Zhongshu always needs to find a way to hide. Once, he said to a British female reporter who asked for a meeting: "If you eat eggs and think it's good, why should you know the hen that lays the eggs?"
After hearing this, Yang Jiang was worried that Qian Zhongshu would hit the person with words, so she came forward to block the car. Of course, there are also reasons why Qian Zhongshu is not in good health and needs to rest.
Yang Jiang once wrote in an article: "I respect the doctor's instructions and thank him for his (Qian Zhongshu) and work hard to be a 'roadblock dog', which has made many people disgusted, and I am so sorry in my heart."
I think today, people can give Yang Jiang and Qian Zhongshu the greatest respect and understanding.
3. Be willing to be the "Cash Office Director"
Only you know what your home looks like best. Qian Yuan always says that she and her father are "buds" and that they are mother's naughty children.
When the family is healthy, Qian Zhongshu and Qian Yuan always like to think of ways to be naughty. One day, Qian Zhongshu stacked a high stack of dictionaries on his daughter's pillow, then placed a small stool upside down on the top dictionary, and a pair of leather shoes in the stool, one leather shoes was stuffed with a pen holder full of pens, and one shoe was placed with a broom. The daughter caught her father, and her father actually complained and shouted, "Mom, Mom, A Yuan (Qian Yuan) bully me."
The husband who is still childish and the naughty and lovely daughter, in front of Yang Jiang, is just two children who never grow up.
If such a good situation is going to be, it would be really happy. However, when Yang Jiang was 85 years old, Qian Zhongshu and Qian Yuan were lying in different hospitals. Yang Jiang ran away from both ends, feeling so tired that she could be said to be exhausted, but she had no regrets and was willing to do so.
Qian Zhongshu's cousin Qian Zhonglu commented on Yang Jiang and said: "She is like a tent, covering both the eldest brother and Qian Yuan inside, and the external storm is resisted by her. She always wants to enclose this family and prevent the eldest brother and the others from suffering."
It's a pity that life and death are fate. Her daughter and husband have left one after another. It is conceivable that Yang Jiang suffered a huge blow. A kind-hearted person came to persuade her, but she showed extraordinary open-mindedness.
"You don't understand. If I walked in front of my daughter and Zhongshu, think about it, can Qian Yuan and Zhongshu bear it? So, this is not a bad thing. Think deeper and let me take the burden of pain. Isn't this a good thing?"
Others can only see the bad, but she can see the good. Yang Jiang always thought in her mind that men are worse than women. When it comes to death, she wants to strive for "the husband is in front and the wife is in back". If the order is wrong, it will be bad, and Qian Zhongshu will suffer a serious crime. If you can't love the most, you won't have such emotions. Yang Jiang saw not only pain, but also heavy responsibilities.
"Zhongshu escaped, I want to escape, but where can I escape? I can't escape at all. I have to stay in the world, clean the battlefield, and do my best."
Yang Jiang proclaimed himself "Director of the Qian Office". Although she was nearly 90 years old, she did not dare to waste a day and night. She carefully collage the scattered broken manuscripts left by Qian Zhongshu one by one, edited and published one by one.
Qian Zhongshu said: "My things must be reviewed by me before they can be published." But Qian Zhongshu left too early, and Yang Jiang could not see Qian Zhongshu's lifelong hard work ruined, so she helped do things that her husband could no longer do.
Yang Jiang, the "Director of the Money Office", is undoubtedly excellent. She said that her greatest credit was to preserve Qian Zhongshu's naughty and infatuation. Because of this, Qian Zhongshu can leave a large precious spiritual legacy to the world.
2. "You are the most virtuous wife and the most talented woman" - Qian Zhongshu
1. Smart people
After Qian Zhongshu and Yang Jiang fell in love, the two often passed letters to each other and wrote letters to express their lovesickness.Unexpectedly, a letter written by Yang Jiang to Qian Zhongshu was received by Qian Zhongshu's father Qian Jibo . Qian Jibo is a master of Chinese studies, but he has no privacy concept. He just opened the letter and read it. After reading it, he was said to be very proud and made a judgment that "this is really smart."
What did Yang Jiang write about? What was the fate of investing money like this?
"Now, we are happy and useless. Both parents and brothers must be happy. Our happiness is completely unhindered."
Seeing this sentence, Qian Jibo felt that he was so sensible and knew that a wife who was considerate of her parents and cared about her family was once a lifetime. As if she was afraid that Yang Jiang would run away, Qian Jibo did not ask for his son's advice and directly wrote back to Yang Jiang and admitted his daughter-in-law.
Qian Zhongshu's mother also likes and trusts Yang Jiang very much. Qian Jibo once asked his wife, if I leave first, who have you ever lived with? My wife replied: "I am Ji Kang (Yang Jiang)."
The most difficult relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in the world, let Yang Jiang get this way. It is conceivable how smart Yang Jiang is. Only by handling the relationship between a big family can the relationship between a small family be better.
And Yang Jiang's intelligence is filial piety and kindness.
2. The attending students and temporary workers
Qian Zhongshu went to study in the UK for public expenses. Yang Jiang went with him at his own expense. Because his father suffered from hypertension and had no antihypertensive drugs at that time, Yang Jiang was unable to take care of her parents after leaving home. She felt extremely ashamed and couldn't bear to ask her parents for money. So Yang Jiang was at the expensive tuition of Oxford University , and was at . In addition to listening to classes, she went to the university library to read books.
Yang Jiang, who was unattended, prepared a course schedule for himself. According to the order of literary history, she read classic writers one by one, from the classical period to the 19th century writers, and she read them carefully and had a lot of experience, laying a solid foundation for later creation.
The famous Argentine writer Borges once said that if there is heaven, it must be the appearance of a library. At this time, Yang Jiang was in heaven. Qian Zhongshu, who likes to go to the library, envys Yang Jiang’s happiness of free traveling to the sea of books. His courses are too tight and he only has time to go to the library during the holidays.
Regular students are jealous of the auditors, which is also a good talk. Yang Jiang enjoyed it very much and extended this fun to the days of working in the future.
1949, Qian Zhongshu and Yang Jiang received a letter of appointment from Tsinghua University. But at that time, Tsinghua University had an old rule that couples could not serve as full-time professors together. Qian Zhongshu served as a full-time professor who guided graduate students, and Yang Jiang had to be a part-time professor. His salary was calculated based on the hourly rate, and his salary was very small. Yang Jiang called herself a "scattered worker". Later, Tsinghua University abolished the old rules and invited Yang Jiang to be a full-time professor, but Yang Jiang insisted on doing "scattered labor".
Maybe it has developed a habit of being an attendant student in Oxford, so that you can better arrange your time. If you do "spare jobs" and you can "escape", you will have a lot of flexible and mobile time.
3. The female husband
1941, Shanghai fell. In addition to teaching at the Zhendan Women's Arts and Science College, Qian Zhongshu also accepted a student. Yang Jiang also gave a substitute in elementary school, and the family was barely self-sufficient.
In the winter of 1942, dramatists Chen Linrui and Li Jianwu encouraged Yang Jiang to write scripts. Yang Jiang spent his spare time writing his first drama "Satisfaction". The official performance in the spring of 1943 was a great success. Afterwards, Yang Jiang created the comedies "Make Fake Real" and "Game of the World" and the tragedy "Wind Tiger", which were refreshing.
Yang Jiang's translation is also very famous. The famous professor at Peking University, , Zhu Guangqian, , said that translation is divided into prose (novel) translation, poetry translation and theoretical translation, and prose translation is the best.
" Don Quixote " translated by Yang Jiang was once given as a state gift to the king and queen of Spain. Spain also invited Yang Jiang to visit. The Spanish King presented Yang Jiang with the "Medal of the Cross of King Alfonso X".
However, when it comes to Yang Jiang’s most well-known work, it must be her own "We Three".The family of three written by Yang Jiang is ordinary and has bumpy bumps, but Yang Jiang is extremely proud of it: "None of us has wasted our lives because it is the three of us." When "We Three" was published, Yang Jiang was named "Lady of Literature" of the Year, and Ba Jin was awarded the title of "Mr. Literature". The following year, the News Evening News said that Yang Jiang "touched China with "We Three".
good works bring rich rewards, and Yang Jiang did not use money on himself. In September 2001, Yang Jiang, on behalf of her family of three, established a "Good Reading" scholarship at Tsinghua University, donating all the remunerations of her and Qian Zhongshu and the remunerations she received for her subsequent publication to the Tsinghua University Education Foundation. The scholarship has accumulated more than 10 million yuan, and has sponsored many poor students.
Tsinghua University expressed its gratitude, but Yang Jiang said in reverse: "Thank you Tsinghua University for helping me realize the wish of our family of three." How deeply and affectionate, touching and crying.
Many people are familiar with a poem by the British poet Rand translated by Yang Jiang: "I don't fight with anyone, and I don't care about anyone." Yang Jiang likes this poem, and in most cases, she does the same. Most of the people who bullied her were forgiven, saying that they were "sheep in wolf's skin" and that they were not bad in nature. She accused her of translating "Don Quixote" as a negative textbook, and she affirmed that the other party could be her teacher.
But Yang Jiang is definitely not a person without the concept of right and wrong. Yang Jiang, who should fight for what he should be, has a more gentlemanly character.
In May 2013, the newspaper publicly reported that 110 letters and manuscripts of Qian Zhongshu, Yang Jiang, Qian Yuan will be auctioned. After Yang Jiang learned about it, she issued an open letter to the media, expressing her firm opposition. She said: "Can personal privacy, trust between people, and years of feelings become commodities and trade? I am over 100 years old and I am completely unacceptable in my thoughts."
Finally, the court ruled that the auction would be stopped. In addition to paying 100,000 yuan in economic losses and 100,000 yuan in mental damage compensation, the defendant also publicly apologized to the plaintiff. Without surprise, Yang Jiang donated all the 200,000 yuan he received to a public welfare organization. Yang Jiang does not value money, she values reason, and what she wants to maintain is the basic human rights of citizens' freedom of communication and communication secrets.
Yang Jiang's view of right and wrong has actually shown signs of right and wrong. Publisher Li Jingduan founded the foreign literary journal " Yilin ", and a Yilin incident occurred. The first issue of "Yilin" published the British detective novel "The Tragedy on the Nile". Writer Feng Zhi wrote a letter to criticize "Yilin" for "fashioning and kitsch." Yang Jiang believes that it is nothing wrong to introduce the popular literature , which reflects social reality, and firmly stand up for "Yi Lin". He also gave an example: "Dream of Red Mansions" was also popular literature at first, but later became a classic."
3. "If it is a radish, try to make a good radish with a lot of water and crispy water; if it is a cabbage, try to make a good radish with a solid porcelain heart" - Yang Jiang
1. Educational view
"'Good education' first of all, inspires people's interest in learning and self-consciousness in learning, cultivates people's ambition, guides people to be studious, and constantly improves themselves. Students should be educated unconsciously and let them be subtle. The role of role models in this regard is very important, and words are not as good as teaching by example."
When Yang Jiang explained her view of education, she also gave her own example, saying that she was also naughty when she was a child, but under the influence of her father who loved reading, she became more and more fond of learning. When she saw her father posting comments one after another in the previous article of Shenbao, she asked her father for the secret. Her father said that there was no secret, that is, to read more and read good books. My mother finished her housework and could read books when she was free, and she would also read with relish. Yang Jiang read like her parents, and she realized the fun in the book and became obsessed with reading.
The best education is to be yourself first, and then influence others to stay away from the disadvantages and move towards the benefits.
2. View of love
As an old man, Yang Jiang reminds young people that the most important thing about the union of men and women is feelings. The deeper the understanding between both parties, the more they can appreciate and attract each other, support and encourage each other, and be in love with each other.
Yang Jiang thinks that it is not important to be a good match. According to Yang Jiang's own statement, the Qian family and the Yang family are inappropriate and the households are incorrect. The Qian family is an old-style family and the Yang family is a new-style family, but this does not hinder "I am Yang Jiang in Qian Zhongshu's life."
Yang Jiang is humble in other things, and she is proud of her husband. She said: "To be honest, I am not only to Qian Zhongshu personally, but also to all the people in the world who like to read his works!"
Yang Jiang and Qian Zhongshu let us see the most beautiful appearance of love and the most successful model of marriage.
3. Career View
Institute of Foreign Literature and Yang Jiang, who has worked as a colleague of Yang Jiang, commented that as long as the things that come to her, no matter how big or small, she must do her best. Whether she uses hemp rope to make door curtains, translates world famous works or creates novels, she is always meticulous and pursues perfection.
Yang Jiang translated "Don Quixote", which could have been translated from an English or French translation. She found 5 English and French translations to compare them carefully, and felt that each had its own strengths and shortcomings. She believes that no translation can represent the original work. She must be loyal to the original work and can only translate the original text. So, Yang Jiang, who was already proficient in English and French, resolutely decided to learn Spanish again. After learning Spanish for 2 years, she started translating.
People who want to do things to the extreme will never be lazy and take shortcuts. It’s better to be slower than to be wrong.
4. Outlook on life
"Maintaining a contented and happy mentality is the best way to temper the mind and purify the mind. All enjoyment of happiness belongs to the spirit. This happiness turns endurance into enjoyment is the victory of the spirit over material matter, and this is the philosophy of life."
Yang Jiang talks about the philosophy of life, which is light on matter and emphasizes spirit. She is content with happiness in material terms, but not spiritual terms. After his daughter Qian Yuan passed away, Yang Jiang still wore Qian Yuan's shoes during his lifetime. The shoes represent material things, as long as they are useful. After her husband Qian Zhongshu passed away, Yang Jiang carefully sorted out her husband's manuscripts and read and write diligently. Manuscripts and books represent spirits and never ends.
With this kind of girlish mentality, Yang Jiang is qualified to say: "Every day of mine is special, with fresh feelings and feelings."
In June 2000, Li Biliang, a beautiful young man from Hong Kong who met Yang Jiang for the first time, praised Yang Jiang: "Mr. Yang is so beautiful, beauty should be like this."
A colleague from the Institute of Foreign Literature Zhu Hong likes to describe Yang Jiang as "beautiful", saying that Yang Jiang's beauty is a natural poetic and literary aura. She always cleans up and is born with a kind of grand style - she is still like this when she is 100 years old.
The century-old man is finally a girl. It is a very lucky thing to have come to Yang Jiang in the world; it is a very sad thing to have come to Yang Jiang in the world. I only wish that the gentleman's style and the girl's heart will be high and the long and long, and that the sun, moon, and the stars will be there forever!
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