I wanted to eat a melon quietly, but I felt a little confused when I saw it in the comment section.
Far from afar, the times are progressing.
Zhao Liying announced her divorce, increasing her fans by 310,000 in one day.
wangziwen openly gave birth to single children, and business activities have increased instead of decreasing.
Zhang Yuqi was photographed dating his younger brother 8 years younger than him, but this time he received a lot of blessings. Yixue was said to be the "shame" of "a poor vision of men."
In the past, society was always full of prejudice against divorces from women.
Today, female celebrities divorce, don’t get married, or find a beautiful man who is far inferior to them in career and wealth to fall in love. It is a happy event for passers-by to celebrate, and fans set off firecrackers.
Looking at the close, the times are regressing.
Arius Lin encountered the biggest reputation crisis since her debut.
is said to get up at 4:30 every day to pay tribute to my father-in-law and walk to work every day.
was scolded for being a humble "24 filial daughter-in-law". She was not clear about her mind and the topic directly reached the top of the hot search.
forced Ariel Lin to post a long article on Weibo to clarify, but it seems that few people care about this clarification.
The former Ariel Lin praised the reputation because of her good acting skills and strong career aspirations.
is just this, most of the passers-by have broken down.
No one breaks the law, nor does it violate morality. Her personal freedom of marriage and love is tragically disliked by everyone.
In two completely opposite evaluations, I caught a keyword with extremely frequent appearance:
Independent women.
The more I look at it, the more I can't figure it out.
Zhao Liying, Zhang Yuqi, and Wang Ziwen, can they represent independent women?
Why is Lin Ariel Lin not considered independent?
A further ask:
Who is specifying "independent women"?
Who is in line with the "independent women"?
"Women who enter marriage are not worthy of independence."
The word "independent woman" has been tired of it in the past two years.
However, under this word, the space that can accommodate is getting narrower and narrower.
Once upon a time, the meaning of independent women is: economic independence and pursuing independence in thought.
"Jane Eyre"
If you follow this standard, Zhao Liying, Wang Ziwen, and Zhang Yuqi are all in line with independent women.
And, they went further and broke the traditional narrative.
I understand that after being disciplined for thousands of years, women are already tired of being asked to put family first and are controlled by patriarchy.
Suddenly, a woman who can break through these shackles and be brave enough to be herself will naturally applaud her.
However, when some independent women have achieved more than just "buy flowers yourself and wear them yourself".
Women who were originally considered independent women seem a little "insufficient".
" Back-wing abandoned troops "
In the current context, a "qualified independent woman" must devote herself to doing money and career, fight marriage and childbirth, and break love without mercy.
You can fall in love, but you must never fall in love. It is never allowed to bow your head for love and be dominated by men.
can not cut mats with the original family, but when the original family is tied to you, you must resist as soon as possible.
In the current atmosphere, how many people can have the confidence to become "independent women" who are in line with others' vision?
Even Ariel Lin, whose income and social status already belong to the upper class, has been identified by netizens and needs to be expelled from the ranks of independent women.
The reason is that it is because it is "not advanced".
She is "not advanced" in: she lives with her parents-in-law after marriage. In order to actively prepare for pregnancy, he suspended work for three years. Compared with the image of a big woman who is "not married, infertile, and devoted to making money" , which young girls generally yearn for now, she is indeed more traditional.
However, the so-called "get up at four o'clock to cook for your in-laws" and "eat raw frogs for your child" spread so widely that it is probably hidden in the public's harsh criticism of a "not so advanced" woman.
The truth is that when discussing independent women, many people have expelled married and children from the ranks.
, if you want to be an independent woman, why can’t you desire marriage and family?
Once when we wrote about the three little queens in Taiwan, many Hong Kong and Taiwan artists were in the arts to pay off their debts to their families. The same is true for Ariel Lin.
html When she was 15 years old, her parents divorced, and her 16-year-old mother had a cerebellar stroke. Ariel Lin took the initiative to take on the responsibility of supporting her family and paying off millions of debts.
Left: Childhood Ariel Lin Right: Ariel Lin’s younger brother
Children’s childhood experience makes Ariel Lin yearn for family very much.
As early as 2009, Ariel Lin said in an interview that she is a person who loves her family very much. When is not working, I like to stay at home .
Because she loves her family and wants children, she thinks she is love brain , or the humble one in the family, which is too superficial.
on " Kangxi is here ", Cai Kangyong described her as having the label of the heroine of an idol drama at that time:
bitterdan.
I have been a "parent" at a young age. I have seen the warmth and warmth of human nature and lived an extremely clear life.
April Lin worked the busiest time. She was filming in class during the day and night. Before acting, she also used 3 different types of pens to comment on the script in detail, and her sleep time was less than 2 hours a day.
Only with the efforts of "model student" can we pay off our family's debts and become a beautiful career from an idol drama heroine to a mature woman, both a rating queen and a Golden Bell Award winner.
Although she has no film and television works in the past three years.
But if so, do you think she is not financially independent?
You should know that Ariel Lin is already a leader in the industry.
No matter how bad female celebrities are, they will not fall to the point where they need to get home to maintain their lives after marriage.
If it is a bit nonsense to say that Ariel Lin is not qualified by the fact that he is independent of his thoughts.
, who has worked with Ariel Lin for two works, Hu Ge , once publicly thanked Ariel Lin at the award ceremony.
She was not a professional performer, but she was able to graduate from the Shanghai Theatre Academy. Hu Ge, who was also a popular young actor at the time, felt respect. Her awe of her career is obvious to all.
Ariel Lin also chose to study abroad twice during the peak of her career.
Once, several idol dramas became popular one after another. When film appointments continue. Another time, it was the second time I won the Golden Bell Award for the Best Actress, and after successfully transforming with " I May Not Love You ".
She is a person who can keep his mind under the temptation of fame and fortune.
In 2009, People Weekly described her early experience as: her heart and mind are bitter, her muscles and bones are exhausted, her body is hungry, and her body is empty. Can a person like
, do you think she can be called independent?
"People Weekly"
If you have to use career and marriage as the standard for independent women.
Then this standard is worthy of our vigilance.
"independent"
"independent women"
Encourage women to break the rules, which is essentially a rebellious mentality of requiring women to become good wives and mothers in traditional values.
But since then, it has become a hard standard recognized as an independent woman.
To figure out this contradiction, you may have to return to the public opinion storm in Zhao Liying, Wang Ziwen and Zhang Yuqi.
Not long ago, the public was not friendly to them.
Zhao Liying chose to marry Feng Shaofeng because the career is strong and the men are weak, and the men are strong and the women are weak with the original family background. In addition, the rapid announcement of marriage and having children during the rise period was once considered a love brain.
Some people think she is plotting against the man's family background, while others think that she is pregnant before marriage and gets married for her son.
Before Wang Ziwen had a single child publicly and met a handsome amateur and handsome guy in a high-profile relationship through a blind date, there were rumors that he became a resource celebrity with a man.
Zhang Yuqi, it is well known that men have poor vision.
The first husband Wang Quan'an was arrested for soliciting prostitution during marriage, and the second husband Yuan Bayuan had a physical conflict before breaking up, and the man also attacked her personally for custody.
But they were not independent at that time?
Zhao Liying, as a small town girl without any family background, has a low education and is not as beautiful as a person in the entertainment industry.
Has a good mentality and works hard enough to start from a small supporting role and become a first-line flower. This is an inspirational story.
And although Wang Ziwen was late, the popularity of " Ode to Joy " back then should not be repeated.
I have worked diligently over the years. Although popular is metaphysics, it is a bit unrestrained to say that she does not work hard to do her career.
"Ode to Joy"
Zhang Yuqi asked Yi Lijing : "Which work I said is not famous?"
"Definition"
indeed. The people who chased her in " Mermaid " ranked Li Ruolan in France, the ghostly Chunqin in " Demon Cat Legend ", and the full Tian Xiao'e in " Bailuyuan ", she holds many representative works in her hand.
But at that time, few people praised them as independent women, but instead were keen on interpreting women from a male perspective.
Now, we praise Zhao Liying for being single, Wang Ziwen is bold and unruly when she gives birth to a child, and Zhang Yuqi will choose men. What praises us is that we finally see their independence?
is their choice, and by chance, hitting people's pleasure?
tucks women into a template for independent women.
is to rescue women from the old female virtue framework and put them into a new female virtue framework that is more difficult to achieve.
When women choose choices that are popular among the public, they are praised.
Otherwise, it is the negative textbook.
Ordinary women do not have careers and social resources like female celebrities.
How many are there, are you qualified to break the rules and make those advanced choices that can be praised?
2's Kim Ji-young
Don't think that such standards will not spread to real life.
Once upon a time, " Strange Talk " issued such a debate topic.
"Whether independent women should receive bride gifts?"'
When I first saw this debate topic, I thought it was a trap of the program team's construction.
It was not until I searched for discussions around independent women on the Internet that I found that this was not the original work of the program team, but the widespread doubts about independent women in society.
# Should the child of an independent woman take her father's surname? #
# Independent women, should they buy a house by themselves? #
# Should an independent woman receive a bride gift? #
Obviously, in modern times, these questions have an advanced, politically correct answer.
Only when you draw the bottom without hesitation can you be recognized as an independent woman.
But when you agree with this set of standards and return to real life, you will inevitably feel suspicious.
When an independent woman becomes an identity that needs to be judged by the outside world.
This independence has lost the right to choose freely. So, what is the meaning of independent women?
Only by defining independent women can women be liberated
from encouraging women to go out of the family and gain experience autonomy.
to kidnap women to make money and careers, and to fight marriage and childbirth.
Today's independent women seem to have lost the meaning of broadening women's right to choose.
Two days ago was May Fourth Youth Day.
919, women were overwhelmed by feudal ethics and a few women were given the right to be educated, but female students were still picked up and dropped off by their parents and were "capitulated" in the school.
At that time, the society believed that girls should not show up, and the purpose of women's education was to raise a good wife and mother.
National Beijing Women's Higher Education College
Even at the highest institution of women at that time, Beijing Women's Higher Normal School , female students were also required to live in the school and were picked up by parents to go to school, just like a prison.
After the May Fourth Movement broke out, under the old custom of men being superior to women and women not being allowed to show up, nearly a thousand female students still tried their best to take to the streets, shouting that patriotism is not distinguished between men and women.
" Awakening Era "
They kicked off the Women's Liberation Movement .
Follow-up was that they fought for the right of Chinese women to receive education, the right to women's economic independence, and the right to women to participate in politics.
What women in the May Fourth Movement do more in line with the spirit of striving for equality and pursuit of independence.
Encourage women to be independent and is a necessary way to progress.
But encouragement is not a kidnapping.
talk about independence, we should not yell slogans and put theory above life, while ignoring the oppression and dilemma encountered by every woman in real life.
In 2020, the employment rate of women in my country fell to 59%.
In many workplaces, there are quite a few female employees at the grassroots level, but the number of women in the leadership class has dropped sharply.
"The Strange Talk"
In real life, due to the low schooling rate of girls, uneven distribution of inheritance, and obstruction of workplace promotion, many women have to rely on marriage and enter the family to get the guarantee of their lives.
At this time, I ask them why they don’t choose not to marry or be more independent and autonomous, and meaningless.
The 2021 Global Gender Disparity Report shows that it will take 135.6 years for the world to achieve gender equality, and my country ranks 107th among 156 countries.
"2021 Global Gender Disparity Report"
At present, we accuse individuals of being unadvanced and not independent, and are ignoring the real dilemma of gender inequality.
Don’t grab a female individual and rate her independence coefficient.
The standard for women is independent and does not need to bear the basis of breaking the traditional narrative of society.
Only when women have more diverse choices can women gain true independence.
