Since ancient times, whenever a newlywed gets married in many places, corresponding customs will arise. In weddings, in order to express blessings to the newlyweds, letting the children go to the young couple's bed to "roll" has become an indispensable part of the marriage customs process.
Children's bed, also known as "rolling new bed", in the past, not every child could go to the newlyweds' wedding bed to "roll", but it had to meet several requirements.
First of all, influenced by the idea of favoring boys over girls, the elderly in many places only ask boys to "get out of bed" for the newlyweds, hoping that the young couple can give birth to a son after marriage. As girls, they cannot get involved in the newlyweds' wedding bed.
Secondly, children who "roll on the bed" need to be smart, cute and have good looks.
Finally, the zodiac sign of the child "rolling the bed" cannot be in conflict with the bride and groom, and it is best to have a horoscope in line with the horoscope.
Among these marriage customs regulations, "boys roll on the bed" is the most controversial point, especially when children roll on the bed, some elderly people will also recite auspicious words next to them: roll on the bed, two mandarin ducks, the gentleman's son, and the younger girl.
With the development of the times and the improvement of women's social status, this phenomenon of "only letting boys grow long" will undoubtedly be questioned as favoring boys over girls.
once sent a video online that a family held a wedding for a young couple. In order to add joy, they invited a 10-month-old boy to "roll the new bed" for the newlyweds according to the custom. After the
video was posted online, I thought I would receive everyone's blessing, but unexpectedly, netizens focused on "only letting boys go out of bed". Many people left messages saying that this family favors boys over girls too seriously, why can't girls go out of bed?
"We usually invite a boy and a girl to go out of the bed, otherwise it will be considered as boys preferring boys over girls."
" I remember that only in the old era had the custom of boys going out of the bed. Now, as long as children are children, they can go up, mainly for the atmosphere."
" It looks like a family that prefers boys over girls."
As some netizens said, if according to the old custom, "as long as boys go out of the bed", many families will be questioned " prefers boys over girls ". Therefore, in modern society, many people no longer have restrictions on children's beds.
Not long ago, a blogger in Shandong posted a video of a child rolling into a new bed. In the video of
, a pair of twin brothers were invited to "roll the bed" for the newcomers. One of the children was lyrics while rolling on the bed, and all the auspicious words were spoken in their mouths. The child's performance made the atmosphere very warm.
It is worth noting that in the "rolling bed" session of , not only boys can participate in . A little girl in a pink dress also happily rolled on the new bed, and the three children had a very happy time.
In the past, only boys and girls were allowed to roll on the bed, but now both boys and girls can do it. Some netizens lamented that modern marriage customs no longer value boys and girls, and some people said that both boys and girls can roll on the bed have a better meaning. The newlyweds may give birth to a pair of twins after marriage.
" My husband and I like my daughter. When we got married, the girl we found was out of bed, and then we gave birth to a girl as we wished."
" We usually let boys and girls roll the bed together for newcomers, but we have to say 'Sir, son, and daughter,' to put it bluntly, it is still boys over girls."
"In the past, many places were not allowed to roll a new bed, but now times have changed. Boys and girls roll a new bed together means having twins. "
Is the child's "rolling a new bed" related to the gender of the future baby?
Let the boy roll into a new bed, which means that the couple will have a son in the future. This is the reason why many older generations who prefer boys over girls do not want girls to roll into a new bed. In fact, children's "roll into a new bed" is just a wedding custom. To put it bluntly, it is just to make fun of it and add some joy to the wedding, which has nothing to do with the baby's gender in the future.
It is gratifying that such marriage customs and ideas are also being downplayed by more and more young people. For contemporary young people, people are more willing to decide customs according to their own wishes. When "favoring boys over girls" is no longer the mainstream concept of reproduction for young people, marriage customs will become purer.
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In your hometown, does a newlyweds have the custom of letting their children "get out of bed" when they get married? Do you think that only letting boys "get out of bed" is a reflection of the idea of favoring boys over girls? Welcome to leave a message in the comment area!
