When people reach middle age, they start to subtract their lives, and real friends also consciously filter them out. Which ones are worth paying, which ones are simple to deal with, and which ones can be alienated, it is necessary to make a list for yourself. Half of your life, there is no more time to those who can't be exchanged for with their true hearts.
The more friends the better, the more sincere the better,
Recently, Fan Xiaoxuan's girlishness and sincerity in "Our Real Friends" by small S, big S, Aya and Fan Xiaoxuan's teenage feeling and sincerity are talked about by people. In the first episode, because I promised the vendor aunt that "I will come back", I took a walk around the market. When I got on the bus, I ran back to the market alone and said to the aunt that "I promise you."
I particularly understand this sincerity. Whether it is to friends or strangers, I must treat each other with sincerity. Sometimes I may not say it well, but I may not be able to do it, so don’t say it. If I say it, I must do it.
Tell me about small things between girls.
YO once had a friend who said one day that he had gained weight and could not wear any clothes. Because she had given birth to a child less than a year, Sister YO hadn’t seen her for a long time, so she comforted her and said that if she was fat, she would be fatter, and it would be normal to have a child. Sister YO also lost that the skirt she bought on Taobao a while ago became smaller and wanted to change to a larger size, but found that it was already the largest size. She responded and said that she had no desire to buy, and she was at home every day and didn't go out. Sister YO didn't take it seriously at the time, just thought she was complaining about the helplessness of life.
result!
We met a few days later. Not only was she so thin, but she was also brand new from hairpins to clothes to pants to shoes! Later we met several times, and she almost never wore a duplicate.
If you are obsessed with being fat and thin is an indescribable obsession with girls, then it should be nothing to buy a few beautiful new clothes. What's worth telling the truth?
Maybe it's because Sister YO is too harsh, but she has to talk nonsense about such trivial matters, which shows that she usually has a symptom of inertia and insincere, and she doesn't even notice it. Looking back on the days we spent together in those years, many of her "smart" actually saw her, but she was too lazy to expose her. Therefore, Sister YO will "stay away from this kind of friend who is not sincere enough" in the future.
Make friends based on sincerity, the key is loyalty
If sincerity is the basic principle of being a human being, then loyalty is the "password" between real friends.
YO sister had a small gathering with a few friends a few days ago. When they talked loudly, they could not help but joked with each other. Among them, a male friend and YO sister have always had a good relationship, and it is common for everyone to argue with each other. Originally, a man could only give up the disadvantage when chatting with a group of women. Just be a supporting actor honestly. There is no need to gain the upper hand when chatting with some gossip, but he was a person who refused to admit defeat. Seeing that his momentum became weaker and weaker during the chat, the enthusiasm of several of us women became more and more high. Suddenly, he threw out a topic that made Sister YO quite embarrassed.
The topic of YO's fatal point a while ago, and my friends were careful not to mention it easily. He even knew that this topic was lethal to YO's. In order to gain attention during an ordinary chat, he did not hesitate to use this stimulating method, which made me completely lose all my favor towards him at that moment.
When I was young, some unhappiness occurred between friends. Sister YO would swallow her anger, or ask another friend to complain and vent, and it would be fine. She might continue to date in the future. But that day, Sister YO sent a WeChat message to question him about this behavior, and after he apologized for a rather perfunctory way, he blocked him.
at that moment, I felt so relaxed.
Although this male friend has many ideas in his daily life that are inconsistent with Sister YO, I am willing to see his advantages, such as being quite honest and able to endure my temper. Therefore, when you are in daily life, try to avoid topics with different values. In addition, he has become friends with his wife. It is common for him to play together in life and help each other. Sister YO thought, he is not my lover anyway, so there is no need to be so coordinated in his views.
But this incident made me realize that as a friend, he knew that he would be embarrassed to mention this matter, but he had to say it in front of everyone, at least it was not polite enough; in addition, everyone was considered good friends, this approach was even more unrighteous. As a man, he is not willing to show weakness in an ordinary chat, and he is not generous. Anyway, it is impossible to forgive. In the future, it is just someone you know. As for good friends, there should be nothing to do.
Those who accompany you when you are down and out must be friends you deserve to date for a lifetime; those who use your down and out as topics and sprinkle salt on your wounds are no longer worth paying attention to.
In addition to understanding each other, friends also need to respect each other
YO sister has a friend H. One day she cried and told YO sister that she wanted a child. Sister YO was puzzled, "You don't even have a man, where do you want a child?" She said, "I can go to the sperm bank, or I will adopt one." Sister
YO touched her forehead and felt her body temperature was normal, "Are you crazy? You have been waiting for the love you want for so many years, why did you go straight to the child at this moment?" Sister
YO knew that she was in a bad mood recently, her relationship was not going well, and she encountered setbacks in her work, but it was still wrong to think so suddenly.
H Finally told the truth. It turned out that it was her so-called friend who had given birth to a second child and said to her, "You can't get married or you can't have a man, but you have to have a child, otherwise you won't have any concerns when you are old, and no one will come to see you when you are old, and friends can't accompany you for the rest of your life."
After hearing all this, Sister YO was really dark. It's been 9102. No matter what the friend's concept is, does she not understand what kind of person you are as a friend? I can only say that this "friend" may be really out of "care", but she is really not your real friend.
YO sister told H, if you really feel that you want to raise children, enjoy family happiness, and have enough psychological and material preparation, of course you can consider having a child, which is the power of women. But it's not just for someone to see you when you get old.
If you want to find a good partner, you should wait for love steadily and get married and have children naturally; but if love doesn’t come, enjoy your life alone beautifully.
If you just want a concern, keep a dog!
Step back and say, you are old, why can't your friends come to see you? Why can’t you continue to be together and accompany each other when you are old? Just because she has a husband and a child, do you not have one?
Friends who accompanied each other when they were young, don’t they interact with each other when they are old?
This was not something worth calculating. This "friend" may really think it is for your own good, but many "for your own good" in this world are essentially selfish and self-righteous, rather than understanding and respect for friends.
YO Sister knew that H was just an idea that aroused her mind. She had never been struggling with giving birth to a child. Her life was always very comfortable. Sure enough, she soon enjoyed her single life happily. But Sister YO still hopes that she understands that friends with inconsistent views will be destined to become more and more alienated and gradually drift away.
YO Sister always thought that friends were her very important connection with the world. Family members are inward and friends are outward. Family members make a person realize that life has its origin, and taking care of each other can gain a sense of belonging; friends make a person feel the extension of life, and supporting each other can gain the courage to live.
Each of us has advantages and disadvantages. As friends who are not related by blood, mutual tolerance is mostly based on the sense of trust of honesty. We are willing to show our fragility, anger and discomfort in front of each other, and we cannot even show our weakness, anger and discomfort in front of our parents and lovers...
May there be a few true friends in your life that are worth dating for the rest of your life.
