At the morning of August 16, the seats outside the "Learning Difficulty Clinic" of Nanjing Children's Hospital were filled with parents and children. This outpatient clinic is only open on Tuesdays and Saturdays, and will be held on time at 1:00 p.m. a week in advance. Parents need to wait for some time, otherwise they will be "not in seconds".
Some parents never got the account, so they simply posted a "Child Health Clinic" next to them. Some parents heard about this novel name for the first time on the hot searches on the Internet. They muttered, "Is learning difficulties a disease? Didn't we all be naughty when we were young?" While we were we talking to our children, he said, "I don't want so much, just treat it as a comprehensive physical examination for the child before school starts."
According to incomplete statistics, in the past two years, hospitals including Shanghai, Nanjing, Wuhan, Changsha, Nanchang , Tianjin and other places have opened "learning difficulties clinics", and almost every outpatient clinic is "number one". Behind the short "learning difficulties clinic", there are serious medical problems, such as the neglect of related diseases and misreading, such as the lack of professionals in children's psychiatrists; on the other hand, it also points to education. Children come from the family and society and will return to the family and society. Medical means can only improve symptoms, and the intervention of schools and social forces is also an important part.
"Learning Difficulty Clinic" is named after the main complaint "Learning Difficulty" that parents are most likely to perceive. It is like a thread on the water surface, and a gentle pulling leads to stories that families cannot be told by others, as well as huge educational anxiety that cannot be ignored.
On August 16, 2022, a boy who came to the hospital was looking indoors at the "learning difficulties clinic". Photo by Li Zhao, Beijing News reporter
Indoor and outside the clinic
"Really interrupt others' conversations or force others to accept his language and games?"
"Yes."
"Really turn to do another thing before one thing is done, can't do things exactly as required?"
"Yes."
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On the morning of August 16, in the learning difficulties clinic of Nanjing Children's Hospital, Zhang Yu was consulting with his 10-year-old son Taotao. Doctor Huang Yijian asked questions one by one in the comparison scale, and Zhang Yu gave a positive answer to almost every question. She touched the back of her son's head and half-jokingly said, "You see the doctor and aunt understand you."
About twenty minutes later, Zhang Yu got a preliminary diagnosis and examination report - suspected to be ADHD (attention defects and hyperactivity disorder, commonly known as ADHD) and Asperger's syndrome . She was not surprised by the results of ADHD, but what is Asperger's syndrome? She didn't understand. Next, Taotao will have to draw blood, do EEG , and conduct a series of assessments including intelligence test and social life ability scale assessment before the final diagnosis will be confirmed.
Zhang Yu vaguely felt something was wrong with the child very early on. In the first semester of the first grade, Taotao did not perform well in school, but he was still worry-free. After the outbreak of the epidemic in 2020, Taotao took online classes at home. Zhang Yu was unable to separate her second child. Taotao was led by her grandparents. "It was at this time that all the good habits she had developed before disappeared."
Taotao's grades plummeted. Zhang Yu said that his son could read books by himself before, but he never read books again. Taotao is addicted to short videos on mobile phones and playing games. What's even more terrible is that Zhang Yu found that Taotao's attention was calculated almost by minutes. Even if he played the game he liked, Taotao's patience would be difficult for more than five minutes.
After Zhang Yu checked the information online, he suspected that his son had ADHD. She took Taotao to a hospital in Liyang, Jiangsu Province for treatment. After a simple and quick assessment, the doctor told her that Taotao was just at the age of being playful and active, and was not enough to be diagnosed with ADHD.
Zhang Yu felt it was not that simple. She wanted to take her son to a more professional hospital in Nanjing to see a doctor, but the couple had different opinions. The husband insisted that his son had no problem. The so-called ADHD was a "scam" and "IQ tax", but Zhang Yu did not listen to him. After she got the account a week in advance, the couple took a day off and drove from , Liyang to Nanjing.
At first, Zhang Yu did not tell his son the real purpose of coming to Nanjing. Taotao always thought it was because of the problem of rhinitis and . When he arrived at the outpatient clinic, he understood what was going on. I asked Taotao, "Do you have any ideas about visiting the outpatient clinic with learning difficulties?" Taotao lowered his head and did not answer.
On August 16, 2022, after Taotao's preliminary consultation, the doctor gave him a check-up form. Several of these tests will not be performed until half a month later. Photo by Li Zhao, reporter of Beijing News
Outside the outpatient room, the children's attitudes towards "learning difficulties clinics" are very different. Some children don’t care about it, but in more families, this topic is sensitive. When I was chatting with a father, he saw his son coming and immediately lowered his voice, "I won’t say it anymore, I won’t say it anymore. We usually don’t say this in front of the children."
Zou Yan is the only parent outside the outpatient clinic who has no children. She carried her backpack, carried her son's craniocerebral CT scan and medical record, and knocked on the clinic several times to hope that the doctor could add a number for her.
Zou Yan said that she had been waiting for several weeks but couldn't get the account. This time she was prompted to go directly to the hospital to try her luck because just two days ago, her 11-year-old son took a math test and his grades suddenly dropped to the rear of the car. Zou Yan was so panicked, "He really didn't understand it. I just wanted to come over and see if he had an IQ problem."
But Zou Yan didn't dare to mention medical treatment to her son. A few months ago, she wanted to trick her son into going to a traditional Chinese medicine hospital for acupuncture to treat attention deficits. As soon as her son saw the word "brain department", she understood. The mother and son had a fierce quarrel. Finally, Zou Yan persuaded her son to do ordinary acupuncture, and this matter was over.
"He (son) won't come with me." Zou Yan couldn't hide his loss. It’s time for her son to go to the sixth grade when school starts, which is the key sprint stage. This summer, in addition to studying cultural courses, she also enrolled her son in extracurricular classes for programming and table tennis, and every day was full.
Zou Yan is a native of Nanjing. "Nanjing parents' goals are the 'Six Major' (Six Prestigious High Schools in Nanjing). What if they fail to get into the 'Six Major'? What if they can't even get into the high school?" Zou Yan couldn't sleep when she thought of this problem. "In this situation, we don't expect to get into 985, but we still hope that he can get into 211."
Zou Yan's only entanglement is why the outpatient clinic is named after "learning difficulties", which makes it almost impossible for her to convince her already sensitive son to come for treatment.
"Finally confirmed"
"'Learning Difficulty' is certainly not a disease, but a main complaint." Huang Yijian of the Learning Difficulty Outpatient Clinic of Nanjing Children's Hospital explained. At Nanjing Children's Hospital, the predecessor of the "learning difficulties clinic" was the "psychological behavior clinic". The most common complaints from parents are "learning difficulties" and "inattention". Just like the "insomnia clinic" and "pain clinic", outpatient clinics named after the complaint are becoming more and more common.
Huang Yijian said that the reason why it was determined to be named after "learning difficulties" is precisely because of the hope that parents can popularize the pathological reasons behind "learning difficulties". Children with problems can intervene as soon as possible so as not to miss the best treatment period.
Nanjing Children's Hospital's "Learning Difficulty Clinic" was opened in February 2021. As of now, more than 4,000 children have been treated. Huang Yijian introduced that ADHD is the most common in the "learning difficulties clinic", accounting for about 80%. In addition, learning skills development disorder (such as reading disorder), Asperger's syndrome, emotional problems, etc. are also the main reasons for the diagnosis. There are also some children with marginal intelligence and mental retardation. Mental diseases are often accompanied by comorbid , and many children may have two or several diseases.
These names are a bit unfamiliar to parents, and they realize that "learning difficulties" and intellectual retardation are not directly equated. For example, ADHD, commonly known as ADHD, actually includes three types: attention deficit type, hyperactivity impulse type and mixed type. Attention deficit is relatively common, and a child who looks quiet may also have ADHD. Learning skills development includes dyslexia, dyspray, dyscalculus, etc., which is a slight dysregulation of brain function caused by innate genes.Asperger's syndrome is a syndrome in general developmental disorder (PDD), with certain characteristics similar to autism, such as interpersonal disorders, stereotyped, repetitive interests and behavioral patterns, etc.
On the online social platform, children diagnosed with ADHD have a unified name - "Baby A". Parents share their children's visits, medications and interventions. Like depression , anxiety disorder, etc., ADHD is a spectrum disorder that may have mild or moderate symptoms, but it is not enough to make a diagnosis. Only when the symptoms reach a certain level and cause relatively serious functional impairment can the diagnosis be confirmed. Therefore, many families who are suspicious of ADHD have experienced more than once.
Zeng Ying's daughter Niu Niu was diagnosed with ADHD in February this year. "I was 10 years old, in the fourth grade, and finally confirmed." She emphasized again, "Yes, finally."
Unlike many "A kids" who were found to be "complaints" to parents, Niu Niu's kindergarten teacher gave her a good review. Only one foreign teacher reminded Zeng Ying that Niu Niu had some unusual actions, such as walking around as if no one was in the classroom. Zeng Ying also noticed something strange. When Niu Niu was in middle class, she had an unknown pica . After she was older, Niu Niu's attention was difficult to concentrate, and the mirror image of the word recognition was reversed, such as "b" and "d", so she couldn't distinguish between "hun" and "d", and wrote "hun" as "wen".
Zeng Ying took her daughter to the expert account in Shanghai, but the doctor believed that Niu Niu was only a normal child with poor attention. Zeng Ying suspected that her daughter had dyslexia and was also denied by experts, "You see, she could read independently before elementary school, so why did she still have dyslexia?"
But Zeng Ying always felt that her daughter was different from other children. Before going to elementary school, Niu Niu mastered 1,000-1,500 Chinese characters and addition and subtraction within 100. Zeng Ying said that the energy spent in this process is several times that of other peers. After going to elementary school, although I had these foundations of previewing in advance, Niu Niu's grades could only be average. In addition, Niu Niu is impulsive and irritable, and she is not focused. A few years ago, Niu Niu was not diagnosed, and the whole family still treated Niu Niu as a "baby" to raise her.
Zeng Ying opened a company in Shanghai. She doesn’t have to work and has plenty of time to accompany and tutor Niu Niu at home. Although she has realized that her daughter may have ADHD and should be more patient and tolerant to her, she still has an emotional outburst when she is tutoring her homework occasionally. "Father A, mother," Zeng Ying said, "Family A, mothers cannot be depressed, and family relationships and parent-child relationships cannot break down, nor dare to break down."
After her daughter was promoted to the fourth grade, Zeng Ying felt more and more difficult, "She and I are too tired." Confirmation means a relief for her. After a few years of hard work, Zeng Ying claimed to be half of "ADHD". "Whose students in my daughter's class may be "A baby" can be seen in a row, but other parents are not aware of this problem at all."
In May 2021, China's first epidemiological investigation report on the prevalence of mental illness in children and adolescents was released. The survey results show that among the school students aged 6 to 16, the total prevalence of mental disorders among children and adolescents in China is 17.5%, of which, the most prevalent mental disorder is Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, , accounting for 6.4%, and tic disorders account for 2.5%. One widely cited public data is that there are about 23 million children and adolescents with ADHD in China.
"It is difficult to say clearly what the diagnosis rate is." Beijing Huilongguan Hospital Director of the Department of Clinical Psychology and Member of the Professional Committee of Children and Adolescent Psychiatry of the Chinese Medical Association said, "Many rural counties or third- and fourth-tier cities do not have professional diagnostic institutions, and parents' awareness rates are not high. They do not think this is a disease and cannot be seen by professional institutions. Secondly, there are still very shortage of professional psychiatrists in children." In 2019, data published by the Lancet showed that the number of children's psychiatrists in my country does not exceed 500, while the data in the United States is 8,000.
Huang Yijian was a little helpless when facing parents who kept pushing the door and asking for a plus.There are only two doctors including Huang Yijian. They also have to attend the "psychological behavior clinic" on Thursday and Friday. "We also hope that registration is not that difficult, but professional psychiatric psychologists are limited, and it is difficult to open a daily clinic in the short term."
Liu Huaqing pointed out more than once, "It is really necessary to conduct early screening intervention for ADHD." He explained that children with ADHD can be found at the age of two or three. If early screening can be popularized, the pressure will not be completely transferred to parents, and the children can also achieve better development.
and the factors that are constrained by reality are also obvious. "First is the issue of everyone's attention, and secondly, no policies have been implemented." said An Jing, deputy chief psychotherapist of the Department of Psychiatrics at Huilongguan Hospital.
This spring, Huang Yijian was in the "learning difficulties clinic" to communicate with a parent about his child's situation. Photo provided by the interviewee
. Or not to take medicine
. In the clinic, a parent tried to negotiate with Huang Yijian, "She (daughter) is too young, can she not take medicine?" Huang Yijian explained that the doctor will adjust the dosage according to the actual situation of the child and try to reduce side effects.
This is a problem that Huang Yijian often faces. Many parents think that they need medication unless their children have a cold or fever and have physical symptoms. They are very vigilant about medication for mental illnesses. They believe that they can be improved by "working hard to overcome". Huang Yijian said, "Just like wearing glasses to correct myopia, you can't see clearly, it's not that you don't work hard enough, but because the structure of the eye has changed."
When a child is diagnosed with ADHD, he/she will face: if he/she is under 6 years old, he/she is recommended for intervention training, and if he/she is over 6 years old, doctors usually prescribe medication. Currently, there are usually two types of drugs available in China - Focus and Zesida.
medicine has stirred up the most sensitive nerves of parents. In the outpatient clinic with learning difficulties, you will find that parents are very active in taking their children to see a doctor, but they are generally hesitant when facing medication.
Whether it is concentration or Zesida, they have certain side effects, mainly manifested in gastrointestinal problems and sleep disorder , and some people also manifest as depression. In addition, taking the medicine should last for at least one year, and whether it will become addictive and dependent is also a concern for parents.
Some parents also come to the clinic for medicine. As a strictly controlled red prescription drug, parents can only prescribe medicines as directed by doctors. They look forward to this "smart drug" that can bring about qualitative changes and improve the parent-child relationship in the tutoring and education process. When the doctor told a father about the condition of his child, the father interrupted bluntly and said, "Prepare the medicine, I have to live first."
There are also some families. Doctors suggest that children can do non-pharmaceutical intervention and perform sensory training , but they are difficult to deal with whether it is money or energy. Many people come from other places and do not have a decent sensory training center in their hometown. Both husband and wife have work and can’t spend too much time with their children. Taking medicine has become the most worry-free and convenient way.
After Niu Niu was diagnosed, Zeng Ying chose to let her daughter take the medicine almost without hesitation. Whether it is studying, exercising, singing and dancing, the daughter must be one step slower. Even if she only reaches the average level, Niu Niu will spend three times more time than others. But Niu Niu likes to set high goals. Zeng Ying knows her daughter too well. No matter how much she pays, she wants to achieve these goals for Niu Niu.
Zeng Ying carefully protected Niu Niu's self-esteem. In her opinion, the situation of many children A is getting worse and worse because they are difficult to achieve their goals. They are learned helpless after long-term frustration. If they have always lacked positive results, children A may indulge themselves in "showing things up", and she is afraid that their daughter will give up on herself first.
This year, the school host quota was vacant. Niu Niu, who looks well-behaved and lively, was recommended by the teacher. Niu Niu responded happily, but Zeng Ying was completely unhappy, "I think she was crazy and went to do this, but can I hit her? In order to maintain her sense of accomplishment, I could only stare at her over and over again. Only she and I know how much time and energy it took."
"Mom, why do I still work harder than others? "The daughter always asked her this, and Zeng Ying's heart was stinging hard, "How should I answer? Forget it, take medicine. "
Fortunately, Niu Niu's symptoms were mild, and she took the lowest dose. There were no obvious adverse reactions in half a year, and her study time was shortened by 30% to 40%. But what made Zeng Ying sad was that her daughter seemed to be psychologically dependent on drugs. She told Zeng Ying that this medicine was her "crystal shoes" and she didn't want to return to her original state.
"In fact, the child herself also hopes to be a good child, just like an adult who wants to become a successful person, the feeling of being recognized and affirmed is very good. "An Jing said that children of this age receive mainly external feedback and evaluations from their studies and interpersonal relationships. If treatment intervention is not carried out, they will continue to suffer from setbacks in these two aspects and their mental stress will be greater. In the long run, they will develop aversion to learning, interpersonal relationship disorders, and even induce depression, obsessive-compulsive disorder , bipolar disorder and other problems.
On August 13, 2022, in the Children's Health Center of Lianyungang First People's Hospital, doctors are consulting, examining and evaluating children's "learning difficulties". Photo/IC photo
The changed family
"A baby" is affecting the whole family. After Shen Yi's daughter Coco was diagnosed with ADHD, she stopped taking the medicine for only two months.
Shen Yi described that before taking the medicine, Coco was like a happy bird every day, with many self-entertainment activities, laughing when she was in high mood, and her family would also be infected by her happy emotions. After taking the medicine, Coco was quiet all day and could not be interested in things. Shen Yi decided to use non-pharmaceutical means to improve it, "even if it is slower." "
In November last year, Shen Yi signed up for a sensory training class for Coco. It was twice a week, and the course price was not cheap, 3,200 yuan a month. Shen Yi and her husband both had to go to work, and their parents, who were far away from Anhui, came to Beijing to take care of their children. The training class lasted for four months. Since the epidemic broke out in Beijing in March this year, Coco has never participated in training again.
Revolving around the situation of the children, the family is also making adjustments and changes. Before this, Shen Yi worked in an Internet company in Beijing, and overtime was the norm, while her husband was a civil servant in the system, and her work was relatively relaxed. Coco's studies were mainly tutored by her husband. "Every night (husband) blood pressure soared, and she yelled at the end of her head every three days, and the child cried. "Shen Yi couldn't stand it. In June this year, she quit her job and took care of Coco in person.
The first thing Shen Yi had to do was to control her temper. She got along with her daughter 24 hours a day, because of various small problems. Every day she had to keep an eye on her child to take online classes, tutor homework, and urge her daughter to jump rope - the doctor suggested that her daughter exercise more.
Shen Yi no longer thought about long-term plans. She planned to hold a family meeting to popularize the actual situation of Coco with her family and discuss educational methods. She understood that this would inevitably be a protracted battle.
Liu Huaqing said that as long as the treatment is continuous and systematic, the effect is still very good. This ideal state means that the child can go to school and socialize normally, and there is no difference from other children. "Some children are still very smart. "Liu Huaqing said.
On August 16, 2022, the number-calling electronic screen in the hall on the ninth floor of Nanjing Children's Hospital showed "learning difficulties clinic". Photo by Li Zhao, reporter of Beijing News,
"It does not necessarily have to emphasize the so-called 'cures'. "Ying Jing also believes that you should not always put labels to strengthen it, but pay more attention to whether your child can perform social functions normally," just like , hypertension, , does not mean that you can't run. "
21-year-old Yin Xiaoyue has been with ADHD for more than ten years. Over the years, ADHD is like an ant . It is very small, but it cannot completely ignore its existence and harm. ”
On social platforms, in addition to communicating the experience of treatment and raising, parents of A’s baby are more concerned about how a child who deviates from the standards will grow up? What kind of future does it have? Yin Xiaoyue’s story may add to another perspective.
Yin Xiaoyue in elementary school is not a good student in the traditional sense. She has a bottom grade and is difficult to concentrate. She often starts to get distracted when she writes homework and has a wild mind. Those strange fantasies make her mother feel that she is "abnormal". In school, she always talks back and is often asked by her teachers to invite her parents.
In the fourth year of the year, she was diagnosed with ADHD in a hospital in Shenyang. After the diagnosis, Yin Xiaoyue spent a very dark day. When she was in the hospital that year, she also took the intelligence test , with a score of 121. The intelligence test for ordinary people was between 105 and 115. Yin Xiaoyue was considered a smart child, so despite being diagnosed with ADHD, her symptoms were only seen by her parents as not working hard and "deserving beating".
"At that time, my parents suspected that I was a doctor who took me to see a doctor who had an IQ problem." Yin Xiaoyue said that when the intelligence test exceeded her parents' expectations, her mother's expectations for her became higher and she became much more severe. If she was found to be distracted, Yin Xiaoyue would inevitably be beaten and scolded. Until she entered junior high school, her symptoms became more serious, and her mother would prescribe medicine for her.
But she would retching and have no appetite when taking the medicine, so for more than ten years, she only took medicine before the exam. "Medicals can only make me concentrate during the exam, but it is useless to not learn how to concentrate just the exam."
In junior high school, Yin Xiaoyue got rid of the label of "small learning". Yin Xiaoyue's review of the reason why her grades are OK is that she has good intelligence and has been "forced" from her parents and school. But this process was painful, and she often fell into the quagmire of depression. During her high school years, Yin Xiaoyue attended a key high school. Her academic competition was under great pressure. Her grades were very unstable and she was always "fighting" around her attention.
The greater pain is that she was once overwhelmed by the shame of illness for a long time and had to hide secretly before taking medicine. "In the past, only naughty and annoying boys have ADHD, and I am a girl." Yin Xiaoyue said, "This is a very delicate psychology."
Yin Xiaoyue took the college entrance examination twice, and her first college entrance examination score was 30% lower than the usual mock exam. Her parents forced her to repeat the exam, but her second grade rose by 10% but was still not ideal, and she was still tens lower than the first-tier line. The mother made the decision to choose an accounting major for her, but she was not interested. "It was painful to learn."
came from the family society and returned to the family society to the
"Learning Difficulty Clinic" clinic. Each child's visit time was at least 20 minutes. Huang Yijian wanted to give not only diagnosis, but also suggestions for sensory training and family education. At the end of the clinic that day, Huang Yixian recommended a book "How to Raise a Child with ADHD" to a parent.
"This is a medical problem, not just a medical problem." Huang Yijian said, "Children come from family society and will return to family society later." She hopes that outpatient education can allow more people to break the myths about diseases, not only families, but also schools and society. Stephen P. Hinshaw, an international expert in ADHD and mental health, and a professor of psychology at the University of California, once pointed out in his book that school policies and pressure from academic performance have contributed to the rapidly growing ADHD diagnosis rate today. He expressed concern, "Medical treatment is often seen as a chemical band-aid that attempts to cover up family conflicts, poor school performance, and even more common social problems."
Online jokes that "learning difficulties clinics" should be opened next to "parent education clinics". In fact, Nanjing Children's Hospital has already made an attempt. According to Huang Yijian, the hospital offered popular science courses for parents, and later the courses were changed to online due to the epidemic, with a total of six classes. From Monday to Friday, the hospital also has emotional social group training for children with ADHD, psychomotor rehabilitation training, biofeedback therapy, and executive function training.
Nanjing Children's Hospital Guangzhou Road Campus Gate. Photo by Li Zhao, reporter of Beijing News,
, but these seem to be far from enough in the general environment. Shen Yi took her daughter to several major hospitals in Beijing. Her original intention was to seek non-drug educational advice, but the consultation time was relatively short and she felt that she had no gains. On the other hand, Shen Yi found that the teachers at her daughter's school did not have any understanding of ADHD.It was a pretty good public primary school in Beijing. Young teachers should discipline the naughty child who was troublesome to learn from senior teachers. The latter's reply was that it would be great if the child was older.
Liu Huaqing said that early screening is also a key link. "We can rely more on and respect teachers' opinions." Liu Huaqing said that there are a few naughty and disobedient situations among dozens of children, and teachers and parents should pay attention to it. "Teachers should also have a correct understanding of ADHD."
Over the years, Huang Yiyan has felt that the public's awareness of ADHD and other diseases has been improving. In the early years, only children and parents came and went in the outpatient clinics. Now teachers and parents are beginning to come together, although this situation is still rare.
What impressed Huang Yiyan the most was a female teacher in her thirties. The female teacher was initially confused and helpless. She found that a child in the class had many behavioral problems in school. After checking the information, she was vaguely convinced that it might be ADHD, so she found her parents and came to the outpatient clinic together. During the diagnosis process, the female teacher provided a lot of performance of the child at school. Huang Yijian also gave her a lot of advice, from how to arrange seats for this child, from changing the education method, "For example, you cannot punish multiple copying of homework, and the child may not be able to do so many questions."
Raising a child A made parents forced to lower their expectations for their children, but few people can truly make up their minds to completely break away from the current examination-oriented education system. Zeng Ying considered whether to let her children go abroad to receive quality education , but this idea was quickly denied by her. She believed that no matter any education system at home and abroad, learning itself requires concentration and cannot be truly avoided.
She was planning to plan a suitable path for her daughter in the current education system: she and her husband both studied art, and Niu Niu's artistic talent was also good. She lowered her requirements for Niu Niu's math scores and instead enrolled her children in painting courses and English - she hoped that Niu Niu could go abroad to study art, so her English cannot be lost, and she must start with the baby.
Over the years, Yin Xiaoyue, as a child, tried to reconcile with herself. After going to college, she learned about ADHD in depth and realized that "it's not my fault, it's just that my brain is not well developed somewhere." She felt relieved. "My friends around me now know my situation." Yin Xiaoyue is preparing to study for a postgraduate in marketing after graduation. "I will focus a lot on things I am interested in."
parents are looking forward to gaining some experience from those who have experienced it. A 25-year-old woman shared her childhood diagnosis experience and how she grew up on a social platform. A parent asked her tentatively below, "If you go back to childhood, how do you want to be treated by adults?"
Yin Xiaoyue told me that she hopes that people around her, especially their parents, can realize that this is a disease and cannot be solved by beating and scolding. She hopes to be treated more tolerant and scientifically.
But no matter what, there is no solution from the "learning difficulties clinic" to the educational anxiety that spreads on the Internet. In the outpatient clinic that day, Zou Yan was not added to the account. She frowned and her face was full of worries. I comforted her not to care too much about the results once or twice. She left a sentence to me, "As long as the competition still exists, there will be a rush to run, and it will not be possible if she doesn't run."
Anxiety even affected Yin Xiaoyue, who was only 21 years old. Although she is still in college, she is already "very worried" that her children will have ADHD in the future, and she will occasionally browse posts about raising a baby.
However, there is one thing Yin Xiaoyue is very confident that even if she really has a baby A in the future, "I will definitely do much better than my parents."
(except Huang Yijian, Liu Huaqing and An Jing, the rest of this article are all pseudonyms)
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