"Is there pure friendship between men and women?"
is not just a question, it is more like a debate topic.
- people who think exist, the reason is: there is a state called "Above A, the lover is not full";
- people who think it does not exist are: how many "pure friendship" there are, the reason is that they eventually become "pure relationship between men and women".
When it comes to this topic, will you immediately think of a "friend"?
When you know that he has an object, are you feeling a little disappointed?
Or, can you accept that your lover has close "friends of the opposite sex"?
Pure friendship, with or without, everyone has their own standards and answers in their hearts. Look at the stories of netizens, maybe it can inspire you.
@Yuan Er classmate male
Pure friendship,
In the eyes of girls, it can exist;
But in the eyes of boys, it does not exist!
At my college classmate’s wedding, I met her as a bridesmaid. Cute, beautiful, and cold all make me unconsciously want to get close.
After the wedding ceremony, the newlyweds' friends gathered together, and in order to get her WeChat, I added a whole table of people.
After the wedding, I searched through her circle of friends and studied the copywriting and pictures inside. I would have been thinking about it for a long time because of her post "I have to be with someone worth it, year after year".
I know I'm moved.
I can’t control myself finding topics to chat with her, follow her Tik Tok , and like every update of her;
I will be happy all day when I see her like me.
As the interaction is frequent, there are more greetings between us. From daily trivial matters to important decisions, they will be shared with each other.
Knowing that she wanted to learn guitar recently, I asked a friend to customize a guitar as her birthday gift. On Valentine's Day, Girls' Day, , I will ask my friends about the gifts that girls like, and buy them and give them to her.
Seeing her happy look, I felt everything was worth it.
After several months of contact, I felt it was time to confess my love. I made a table of dishes she liked, bought flowers she liked, and practiced many times in advance to confess my love.
When I confessed to her sincerely, she was stunned and said to me: "I have always regarded you as a good friend. You are very good, but I don't have the urge to love you."
Just like that, I was sent a "good person card".
So, the person who believes that "there is pure friendship between men and women" must be the one who is loved.
@biscuits female
"confidant", red and red, green
between men and women? Pure friendship? It’s okay for ordinary friends, just let it go, it’s like anyone hasn’t.
Due to work reasons, my ex-boyfriend has many models around him, so I have had a lot of trouble with him many times, but there is no way. After all, he is a photographer, and this is his job.
Since it is a work relationship, I will treat everyone equally. I won’t say much, but there is a girl who is particularly close to him, young and elegant, and he said she is “friends with common topics.”
She was heartbroken, he comforted her; she worked overtime, he ordered food; she was sick, he took care of her... Is this the so-called "common topic"?
Before I was with my ex, I also had a male best friend, and I knew that kind of closeness could easily spark. So I don't believe in the "good friends" and "confidant" he calls him at all.
What sadd me the most was that on my birthday, I waited for him to work overtime to come home to celebrate together. He just got home and answered her phone call and was about to go out, saying something urgent. I really couldn't stand it anymore, so I asked him angrily: Who is your girlfriend or me? !
He was frightened by my fierce look. I knew he didn't like me like this, but I just wanted to understand.
He said while wearing a coat: She went to shoot, her phone was lost, and now she has no money or cell phone, and she can't even go back to her home, so I'll pick her up. What if you let her be alone?
I don’t know what to do if she is alone, but I just can’t accept that my boyfriend puts her needs ahead of me!
@Xiaoqi female
mutual dislike maintains our pure friendship
There is no reason to hate someone, and it is also like someone.
This is how my male best friend and I are: I am inexplicably kind, but I don’t want to be close.
We are high school classmates. When we were assigned seats, he was silly and exchanged with others, and insisted on coming to me. I thought he liked me, but the fact is: when I was sleepy in class, he pulled my braids; when I didn't wear school uniform, he shouted to report to the teacher; when I got the wrong question, he said I was stupid.
And the sentence I said the most to him was: "You are dark and ugly, and you will definitely not be able to find a wife in the future."
Although he exposes each other's shortcomings, he is the person I rely on the most.
When I was in high school, I was in a tight study. I couldn’t sleep enough if I wanted to get up early. He helped me buy food every morning;
I was sleepy and got lost in class, and he helped me tutor after class;
I didn’t bring my school uniform, so he secretly gave him Me;
I don’t know how to do it, he remembers it better than me;
On the way to school, he will send me back first and then go around home...
He is particularly happy with his high school time. After graduating from , we went to different cities to study in college.
I was in love soon. I wanted to tell him immediately, but hesitated: We are both good friends, but what if he is interested in me? I was so afraid of hurting him...
I thought about it for a long time and told him carefully, but I didn't expect that he was also confused about how to tell me about his love. So, we all received each other's best blessings.
We are the kind of pure "best friends" of the opposite sex who cannot be pure: they are best for each other, but they will not have any chemical reactions.
@Shanshan- Female
Accidentally, she got married into a couple
My husband and I met at a friend's party. When I learned that he was an alumnus, I added WeChat, but I was just kind. The contacts after
were not frequent, until he organized an alumni party and called me to go together. Since then, we have known each other and started to make an appointment to exercise and watch exhibitions together.
has common hobbies and common topics, and we all feel that we have a good friend to each other. On the days after
, we both made a date every weekend. After working for a week, playing basketball with him became the most relaxed and happiest moment for me. After playing the ball, we would go shopping together, have a meal, and then go home.
Slowly, every time he appears in my circle of friends, my friends and family around me start asking me: "Is this your boyfriend?"
Although I reply, "No", I feel a little happy when I see those comments.
also thought about bringing each other closer together, but I know that I have a carefree personality and have had many opposite sexes around , but I have all become friends.Do I want another good friend?
Moreover, I have a good impression of him, but I don’t know how he feels about me. . If I confess my love, if someone doesn’t like me, my buddy can’t do it… , let’s forget it if I think about it like this.
Later, I played basketball and my shoes slipped and twisted to my ankle. It hurt a little but it could still move, but he was more anxious than me and insisted on carrying me on his back. A few hundred meters to the parking lot, I was nervous and moved.
After getting on the bus, he taught me not to be stubborn and to learn to be taken care of by others. He hoped to take care of me in the future - It turned out that he liked me for a long time, otherwise he would not have to see me every week, and playing basketball is just an excuse.
Just like that, we held hands successfully, and the child is now 2 years old.
For this topic, the marriage and love view report released by Lily Jiayuan Group in 2020, "Things of "Confidants of the Opposite Sex"" clearly shows that 55% of single men have the idea of developing into lovers with "confidants of the Opposite Sex", which is far higher than 32% of women.
How should friends of the opposite sex maintain friendship in their daily interactions? What should I do if I want to advance into a romantic relationship? Let’s take a look at the professional advice of Lily Gold Emotional Instructor Dong Mengchen.
How to maintain pure friendship?
First of all, the two cannot get too close. . Occasionally having dinner together is not a big problem, but the frequency of gatherings cannot be too high. Some things that couples often do, such as watching movies, are best avoided between ordinary friends. The warming of feelings accumulates through repeated meetings.
Secondly, when two people meet, you must also grasp a certain degree. For example, keep a certain distance when walking together; try to avoid intimacy when playing games. Especially for many boys, their attitude is to not refuse or take the initiative. Even if this temptation is just for fun, it may cause your friendship to deteriorate from now on.
The last point is that when your friend of the opposite sex has a partner, please automatically keep a distance from him. gives up some daily concern and return to the position of a friend, and don’t interfere in the daily life between other people’s couples; if the other party quarrels with your partner, it’s best not to interfere.
How to promote romantic relationships?
. First, determine whether the other party also has a good impression of you. You can confirm it through some "more intimate" words or actions than usual.
. Ask each other to do something that you don’t usually do, for example, you two have never watched a movie alone, so try to see if you will have different feelings.
. After confirming that the other party is not disgusted with his further test, he will express his willingness to fall in love, and also give the other party enough space to consider and choose, so as to avoid even his friends in the end.
