Friendship drives away the cold,
comforts the tired heart in the world.
Author: Insight Leylah
What is a real friend?
sanmao says:
The best among friends is like good tea, light but not astringent, fragrant but not puffy, slowly drifting, like water flowing.
Qian Zhongshu also said: "Real friendship seems to be light and has its own friendship that transcends life and death."
Good friendship has nothing to do with interests and needs, but only with spiritual harmony and soul communication.
does not need to be intimate, nor does it need to be hot and intense.
is light but not greasy, and never get tired of it for a long time. It is the best state of friendship.
1
Like interests and aligned with each other
cartoonist Feng Zikai When he was young, he taught at Chunhui Middle School in Zhejiang Province because of his art.
Zhu Guangqian celebrated his birthday. All his friends were invited to come with gifts, but Feng Zikai was empty-handed.
A colleague couldn't stand it and pulled Feng Zikai aside and reminded him: "Today's Teacher Zhu celebrates his birthday, why are you embarrassed to eat for free?"
Feng Zikai smiled brightly: "I am a teacher. I can't afford any valuable gifts, so paintings are OK."
After dinner, Feng Zikai found paper and pen and painted a picture for Zhu Guangqian in public.
colleagues laughed at him: "A painting cannot be eaten or drunk, but you can give it to you." Zhu Guangqian, who was next to
, carefully put the painting away like a treasure, and said while smiling:
"This is good, this is good, I like it."
I heard a passage saying:
The most comfortable relationship between people is that there is no need to please.
Getting along easily, dating is sincere, and contact is natural.
Two people are together, appreciate each other, getting closer and closer; the three views are in harmony, and the deeper they are.
A true friend begins with the attraction of ambition and the cherishment of the soul.
does not require any effort to manage. I am lucky to meet and just happen to be a co-star, which is already the most comfortable state.
As Liao Yimei said in : In this life, people don’t care about power or money, what is rare is about meeting understanding. The best relationship between
is that I understand you.
2
is not around, but in my heart
Do you have such friends around you:
Everyone is busy with their own things on weekdays, but for a long time no see, everything is like going back to the past.
As Amos Oz said:
Silent and stable friendship does not require constant emotional proof, nor does it rely on how long we will meet.
Netizen @chongtianxiao told the story of his father.
When my father was young, he served in the army in Qinba Mountain. After the demobilization of
, comrades returned to their hometowns one after another. This separation has been 40 years.
In the era of inconvenience of communication, although everyone rarely communicates with letters, they always think about each other.
years later, old comrades met to reunite with Yan'an.
That day, his father was dressed up early like a young boy and waited for his old friends at the train station.
The exit was filled with crowds. They recognized each other at a glance. Before they could say it, their thoughts had turned into tears.
Even though time has wasted the youth of the past into old people, when we meet again, our friendship will remain the same as before.
Someone on Zhihu said:
"The so-called friends are a long time to meet, but every time we meet, we will not feel that time makes us lose common language, nor do we need to spend time explaining the causes and consequences of what happens when we are not there. It is like, I just drank tea and chatted together yesterday."
The true friendship will never fade because of time, nor will it be alienated because of distance.
We are busy in our lives, but we miss each other;
Although we cannot keep in touch with each other, we still care about each other.
is not around, but in my heart, it is the warmest and lasting look of a relationship.
3
has nothing to do with luck, no matter the noble and low
Sanmao once said: "The most beautiful relationship of friends lies in the icing on the cake; the most valuable is the timely help."
Falling leaves tell you how to fall, but it is difficult to get friends.
Those who praise Haikou on weekdays may not be true friends; those who can still regard you as before when they fall, must be true friendship.
1969, after the death of the "Great Rightist" Zhang Bojun, no relative or friend dared to pay condolences.
Zhang Boju went.
At that time, Zhang Boju read about Zhang Bojun's death from the newspaper, and inquired about it. He searched for a day with a crutch before finding the new residence of Zhang Bojun's wife and daughter.
When Zhang Boju and his wife saw him, Zhang Bojun's wife burst into tears: "Bojun has met all over the world, and you are the first person to comfort me after his death."
Later, Zhang Bojun's daughter wrote in the book:
In my parents' relationship, the Zhang couple just looked at paintings and chatted.
How can he compare with his father's close relatives who are in line with blood?
How could he compare with his father's comrades who share hardships?
How can he compare with those who were promoted and helped by his father?
But people's hearts despise the world's feelings become more and more obedient.
People with similar and thick relationships are like floating clouds floating away.
A person who is not a relative or a relative has knocked on the door of the house.
There are many friends in the banquet, but few friends know how to be in trouble.
True friends, when you are in awesome, they may not necessarily stand shoulder to shoulder with you.
When you are in trouble, they will stand up and share the burden with you as soon as possible.
Those friends who never leave you when you are in a downturn can be called true friendship.
4
snuggled with each other, warm and long
1953, Hepburn just finished filming " Roman Holiday ", Givenchy is still an unknown designer.
A shooting event made them become acquainted and made a 40-year friendship from then on.
Given once said that Hepburn was his eternal muse.
He designed clothes for Hepburn throughout his life, including her wedding dress.
When Hepburn was old, he was plagued by illness.
Givenchy often accompanied her around and walked with her heart and heart-to-heart talks to relieve her knots.
In 1993, Hepburn passed away. In addition to her husband and son, Givenchy was her coffin carryer.
Givenchy said: "Hepburn is a gift from God, and we always keep a freshness between us."
Hepburn also said to Givenchy: "Your clothes give me the beauty and life that the characters in the movie should have. When I put on the clothes you designed, I can enter the life of the characters."
treat friendship, Hepburn once said:
Friendship is voluntary giving, bringing smiles when you cry, soothe your heart when you fear, bringing wonders and fun to your life.
The highest realm of friendship is to protect each other's loneliness and soothe each other's tired hearts.
is that if you give me a tear, I can see the ocean in your heart.
is that your consideration makes me warm, and my company makes you feel at ease.
The longest friendship can last for the most.
▽
Mr. Lu Xun said: "It is enough to have a close friend in life, and this world should look at it together. "
People will meet thousands of people in this life.
can truly become friends, but there are two or three.
But if you have these two or three confidants, you can comfort the tired heart in the world.
On the road of life, let the years pass, I hope that friendship will last forever.
Click likes , I hope you can get three or two confidants, enjoy the afterglow of the sunset with you, and watch the ups and downs of the tide.
