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Some people cramp their lives to peek and monitor each other, guess and damage each other, and some people release their lives to the earth, the sky, the distant mountains and the vast sea.
01
In the past month, we have been shrouded in the epidemic.
Some people can’t go out, while others are trapped in the temporary hospital.
I privately think that the atmosphere in the hospital will be very depressing.
White bed sheets, cold instruments;
patient's desperate eyes, doctor and nurse's anxious eyes.
But after I read the news, I appreciate their status.
I don’t know who was the first to take the lead, so I started a small-scale dance activity beside the bed.
This jump is important, and more and more patients join.
, put on a mask and shake your hips, hips and elbows, and don’t worry about illness anymore!
Even male patients can't hold it in. With "A Fire in Winter", they turned into the center of the "dance floor".
The suppressed ward suddenly became active.
Fangcai Hospital treats patients with mild pneumonia, and an optimistic attitude helps recuperate.
Seeing that everyone loves dancing so much, the medical staff led everyone to dance together during the rest time.
Xinjiang medical staff led the patients to dance Xinjiang dance, and I kept jumping;
Southern medical staff led everyone to the square dance and danced "Fire Red Sarilang".
Under the leadership of medical staff in various provinces, the patients also played Tai Chi, sign language exercises, Ba Duan Jin, Wu Animal Play...
What is more popular than dancing is that the patients also performed sketches with medical staff.
He plays the train seller, pushing a small cart, and asks one by one:
"Cigarettes, drinks, mineral water, melon seeds, are there anything you need?"
made the medical staff and the patients giggle.
The entire square cabin is filled with inspiring songs and laughter.
When we were watching the news, to be honest, we envy the optimistic state of medical staff and patients. They interpreted in the spotlight:
There is only one true heroism in the world, that is, after realizing the truth of life, we still love life.
In adversity, we finally saw the tenacious optimistic attitude of the Chinese people.
Pictures｜They compared the virus to the "enemy" and performed "Virus tunnel warfare".
On the contrary, we are healthy and stay at home safely, but we are very depressed and fragile.
, an optimistic attitude in adversity, cannot be practiced overnight.
Seeing the appearance of sentient beings after the outbreak of the epidemic, many people also began to reflect.
When life is stable, we always envy other people's lives and try our best to catch up with others;
We try our best to catch up with our material things, thinking we are very strong;
But when the epidemic comes, you realize that the people and lives you once envied may be more fragile and helpless than you and vulnerable.
The glorious life you once envied may be just a mess of others.
Pictures | A birthday party of 48 patients in February, all medical staff sang the sign language song "Listen to me, thank you".
02
There is a short film "My Shoes", with more than 300 million clicks on foreign websites.
Poor children wear torn shoes and are ridiculed and humiliated by their classmates.
Looking at the rich kid wearing trendy shoes beside him, the poor kids felt that life was really unfair.
Poor child runs on the grass while complaining about the partial God.
Rich children heard it, said nothing, just watched the poor children running quietly.
God seemed to hear the blame of the poor child and changed the identities of the two.
Poor children naturally wear trendy shoes for rich children. But after being happy for less than three seconds, my mother pushed the wheelchair over.
Only poor children understand that although I wear trendy shoes, I have no feet.
At this time, he could only sit in a wheelchair and watch the child wearing torn shoes running on the grass.
When you cry because your shoes are broken, you forget that someone is sad because they can't walk.
In real life,
I will envy others for studying better than me and working better than me;
Wife will envy other people's husbands, envy other people's houses and cars;
Children will envy other people's parents, envy other people's family background.
As a experienced person, the writer Mo Yan said: Never envy other people’s lives.
A stable civil servant will envy the interesting life of Beijing drifting, and complain about the unchanging and rigid work;
A stable civil servant will also envy the stability of civil servants and complain about the high housing prices and high consumption in Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou.
The poems you envy and the distance may just be the dregs of other people's lives.
pictures｜Asi-photo
03
Yesterday, I read Zhu Deyong's comic - "When I Jumped from the Eleventh Floor".
A beautiful girl feels that she is in a very unfortunate life.
Finally one day, she jumped off the 11th floor.
When her body fell, she saw all kinds of sentient beings:
I saw that the couple who were known for their affection on the 10th floor were fighting each other;
I saw that Peter, who was usually strong on the 9th floor, was crying secretly;
I saw that A-mei, on the 8th floor, found her fiancé and her best friend in bed;
I saw that Happy Dandan was taking her anti-depressant medicine on the 7th floor;
I saw that A-xi, who was unemployed on the 6th floor, still bought 7 jobs every day;
I saw that A-xi, who was unemployed on the 6th floor, still bought 7 jobs every day;
I saw that A-hye, who was unemployed on the 6th floor, still bought 7 jobs every day;
I saw that A-hye, who was unemployed on the 6th floor, still bought 7 jobs every day;
I saw that I saw that A-hye, who was unemployed on the 6th floor, still bought 7 jobs every day;
I saw that I saw that A-hye, who was unemployed on the 6th floor, still bought 7 jobs every day;
I saw. On the 5th floor, Teacher Luo, who is respected on the 5th floor, is stealing his wife's underwear;
I saw that Rose, who is happy on the 4th floor, broke up with her boyfriend again;
I saw that Uncle on the 3rd floor, is looking forward to someone visiting him every day;
I saw that Lily on the 2nd floor, was still looking at her husband's photo who disappeared after half a year of marriage;
...
Before I jumped, I thought I was the most unlucky person in the world;
Now I know that everyone has unknown dilemma.
Happy people are similar, but unfortunate people have their own misfortunes.
You envy other people's happiness, and this happiness may bring him misfortune.
And your envy is dragging you into the abyss of anxiety.
So, envying others' lives brings two misfortunes, even more.
Pictures｜Alexander Popov-photo
04
Sometimes, our envy is just an illusion.
When you envy others for sitting in a luxury car and losing yourself in a bicycle, maybe the person sitting in a wheelchair is envious of you being able to walk freely;
When you envy others' houses and lose yourself in a rental house, maybe others envy you for having filial children;
When you envy others' freedom, others envy you for being sweetly bound.
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I remembered Mo Yan's words:
"We are all hyperopia , always living in looking up to others; we are all myopia, often ignoring the happiness around us."
When we envy others, we are hyperopia , able to see the goodness of others clearly, but we don't know that it is not easy for others to live behind them.
When we look at our lives, we are myopia, ignore the happiness that is close to us, and feel that we are not as good as others.
Life is a heavy book. Once you start to envy, some books have no protagonists because we ignore ourselves; some books have no clues because we lose ourselves; some books have no content because we bury ourselves...
05
I like a drama: "Tumei".
white-collar worker Zheng Ruwei and her fiancé plan to go to Shanghai to work hard.
Unfortunately, the fiancé's father happened to fall and was hospitalized.
fiancé chooses to stay in his hometown to take care of his father and not go to Shanghai.
At this time, Zheng Ruwei had two choices in front of her:
Solution A: Choose your career, go to Shanghai alone, and be a strong woman.
Solution B: Choose love, stay in your hometown, and be a good wife.
Director is very considerate and has filmed both lives and let you choose it yourself.
Zheng Ruwei, who chose her career, did make a great career in Shanghai.
But she lost to a long-distance relationship, her fiancé cheated, her second boyfriend was not loyal, and her love was not smooth.
Zheng Ruwei, who chose a family, has the pain of her husband and does not have the pressure in the workplace.
But she lost to the trivial family, was bullied by her mother-in-law, and felt wronged and sad.
pictures｜Melody & Jun-photo
Life has always been very attractive. The strong woman Zheng Ruwei envys the housewife Zheng Ruwei. She lives a stable life and has children and husbands who love her, and feels that she has nothing;
Similarly, the housewife Zheng Ruwei envies the strong woman Zheng Ruwei's independent and rich, and does not have to suffer the grievances of food, rice, oil and salt, and feels that she is useless.
"Hello, Old Times" has a saying: "The happiest life is the life of others."
Look, No matter which path you choose, life will not make you happy, and there will be gains and losses.
As Wang Wei said, There is only regret in life.
Some people say that life is just six words: nothing can do.
There will always be regrets and regrets in life, don’t seize the imperfections of life.
Learning to enjoy a mess is the top level of cultivation for adults.
06
There is a story in "The Country of Ideal" that I remember very clearly.
One day, the disciple asked Plato: What is marriage?
Plato took his disciple to the flower room and said:
"You go in and pick the most beautiful flower. If you pick it once, you can't change it."
After the disciple entered, he saw the flower he liked at a glance and picked it down.
When he continued to move forward, he saw better flowers, but he could not change them any more.
He regretted all the way, and the flowers in his hands looked beautiful no longer.
When he came out of the flower room, Plato said to him:
"What you just experienced is marriage."
What you can't get is always in agitation, and those who are favored are fearless.
The disciple asked again, then what is love?
Plato took his disciple to a forest and said to him:
"You go in now to pick the most exquisite leaf. Remember that you can only move forward, not backward."
Disciple remembered the previous lessons, carefully selected, and gave up many favorite choices, thinking that there would be better in front.
However, Ye Zi is becoming less and less suitable for his wishes.
When the disciple walked out of the woods and returned empty-handed, Plato said, "What you just experienced is love."
Love is the same as life, there is only the most suitable one, and there is no better one.
Why do we envy?
simply thinks that others are "better".
Then, we began to ignore and even complain about the most suitable life, and in the end we were dragged to death by life, which was not worth the loss.
What we have been looking for is what we originally had; we always look around, but we only miss what we want, which is why it is difficult for us to get what we want so far.
only has the most suitable ones, no better ones, this is the norm in life.
Pictures | Annie Spratt-photo
07
In "Long Live Life", there is a blind couple singing on the street, and they love to sing the songs of Teresa Teng the most.
After closing the stall, the two of them pushed the cart home.
Grandpa was exploring the way in front with a cane, while grandma followed him behind.
Walk to the side of the road, grandpa will specifically remind grandma to pay attention to the vehicle; when it rains, he will take out an umbrella in the car and support grandma. On the Mid-Autumn Festival, they specially bought beer and meat to celebrate the festival, which was a unique sense of ritual.Before eating meat, grandpa suggested to have a glass of glass. Grandma happily agreed, but she lost several times before she met. She was so happy when she met.
Grandma ate meat and acted coquettishly with her grandfather: You touched my face and thought I was a beautiful girl? They have been together for more than 20 years and have never seen what each other looks like. Even if they can't pretend to be in their eyes, they have each other in their hearts, which is enough.
It is very hard to see it, neither of them can see it, and life is even harder. But, in my grandfather's opinion, in the world of , there are cows and horses, and only life is the noblest. We are fortunate to come to this world to enjoy happiness.
They love life with all their strength.
They love singing and can be happy for several days after earning a brand new 5 yuan.
In addition to daily life expenses, grandparents also saved money to buy an electronic piano.
They said that with the piano, passers-by can hear good music and sing more happily themselves.
God closed a door for them, but they opened a window for themselves, a window for love for life.
If they keep asking: There are so many people in the world, why is it me?
The more they envy others for having eyes, the less they can see the happiness that is close to them.
Fortunately, grandparents were just asking: There are so many people in the world, why can’t they be me?
Never envy others. The ability to love life is the real ability.
Even if you can find happiness in the chicken, that is your ability.
Life is like sending you, don’t let tea, soup, and good weather down.
08
The Washington Post once selected the top ten luxury goods in the world, not luxury cars and mansions, nor jewelry bags, but:
The awakening and understanding of life.
A heart of freedom, joy and love.
The courage to travel all over the world.
returns to nature.
Sleep peacefully.
Enjoy your own time and space.
The soul mate who loves each other deeply.
There is anyone who truly understands you at any time.
Be healthy and rich inside.
can infect and ignite the hope of others.
A real luxury must have nothing to do with material money, but with mentality and spirit.
looked at it and the blind couple in "Long Live Life" happened to have these ten luxury goods. No wonder their lives are so moving.
To be honest, I am not greedy. I only own one of these ten luxury goods. It is worth it. I am content and happiness.
pictures｜Alisa Anton-photo
Li Dan A sentence is circulated on the Internet: "The world is not worth it."
Everyone thinks that life is not as worth it as others, and the world is not worth it.
But, in fact, what Li Dan wants to say is that because the world is not worth it, we should be happier.
There are many bad things in the world, and it doesn’t happen only to you. It’s not worth your hardship, so we can’t be upset by these things and live in comparison.
As Maupassant said:
"Life will never be as good as we imagined, but it will not be as bad as we imagined."
instead of living in other people's world to find a sense of existence, it is better to practice in your own world.
"Never compare people. Everyone is different. The important thing is to find the difference that suits you the most."
We don't have to be rich, but we can be rich in our hearts;
We don't have to be successful people, but we can have three family members, three meals a day, one meat and one vegetable.
We don’t have to be poets, but we can live a poetic life.
"Some people cramp their lives to peek and monitor each other, guess and damage each other, and some people release their lives to the earth, the sky, the vast mountains and the sea."
I hope we can all do the latter.
pictures｜Aachal Lal-photo
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