"Life is like a book. Everyone has turned to the last page. Some people have ended, and some people have an ellipsis... Life is nothing big before death."

"Life is like a book. Everyone has turned to the last page. Some people have finished it, and some people have drawn an ellipsis ...

Life is nothing big except death "

It seems that this father's monologue has set the tone of the whole film, but strangely, in the next few dozen minutes of the film - Until the death of the old man, the focus of the camera has deviated from the funeral industry itself.

Because The real "big event in life" is not just about life and death.

01 Transformation

Mo Sanmei, who is obviously in her thirties but has no connection with the word "le" and has a full style of behavior.

But if he only uses one word to summarize his life, it is probably a waste of money, or is frustrated. The first scene of the video, the third sister used skillful and gentle technology to help the deceased to be upright and dress. She finally finished her work but was called by the hostess before she even went out. was labeled as "stealing dead people" in public;

Back in the store, her father always transferred the property as a housekeeper. The chips are constantly testing his love for this work, and always secretly compares himself with his dead second brother;

But the straw that crushed the third sister is still Love .

A few years ago, I fought with someone for my girlfriend and ended up throwing myself into prison.

A few years later, he thought he was still a free and easy man, but When he looked at his "girlfriend" throwing into someone else's arms, letting the man who cuckold him throw a stack of money on his face...

Are you frustrated?

is so frustrating.

Wang Xiaobo once said that "Life is a slow process of being hammered" , and at this moment Mo Sanmei seems to be almost "hammered" by life.

After a long time of hard life, you will slowly fall into a state of paralysis and weakness. After a long time of paralysis, you will not be able to withstand the toss and instinctively want to stay away from those tossses.

, people who are deeply trapped in a depressed life always fail to get what they want.

A girl named Xiaowen came to him without warning, disrupting his confused but peaceful life.

From Xiaowen, the third sister saw the innocence and kindness that she had not seen for a long time in life, and also saw the thought and love of for family.

His heart, like ice, began to show signs of melting - he had another person he really cared about.

So when the third sister holds the repaired red tassel gun and listens to the little girl’s serious self-blame, she can’t help but murmur — “It’s the third brother who is not capable” .

This is a kind of person who has worked hard and failed, and his judgment and reflection on the self-chaotic life.

And when a person who is stuck in the bottom learns to think, it often means that he is going to climb upward.

so the third sister transformed - He began to think about how he should live to be more like a decent person, more like a filial son, more like a qualified "father".

After walking through the funerals with Xiaowen, he found the answers to these questions with his actions.

"transformation" itself has no warmth. It is the original intention that drives you to "transformation" and gives it the meaning of love.

It is worth mentioning that this "transformation" in Mo Sanmei is also reflected in his interpreter - Zhu Yilong .

In previous works, Zhu Yilong's characters were always calm and transparent, at least they shouldn't be so ungrateful.

so If you want to play Mo Sanmei well, he has to subvert himself first.

So he really "lived" in the "Shangtian" store at the shooting location for several months. Until he was familiar with it, the uncles and aunts around him would greet him naturally, and Mo Sanmei really "made".

Therefore, I think it is better to say that is Mo Sanmei attached to Zhu Yilong's body , so Zhu Yilong's performance is always smooth and fulfilled in one go.

is not intentional, but it is truly textured.

02 Bond

The phone note from the third sister to Xiaowen is "Little Nezha" .

Indeed, from a bun to a red tassel gun, to a look of never being stage-frightened, and even biting when you are anxious, this kind of "rebellious spirit" is really similar to Nezha.

But when we talk about Nezha, in addition to "My life is not by heaven" , the tragic farewell when was also an inevitable topic.

When Mo Sanmei watched her father smashing the shop while scolding him, he finally burst out the "truth" that might have been held in her heart for a long time -

"You beat me to death, I'll go down and replace my second brother"

At this moment, he seemed to be no different from Nezha.

Therefore, the bond between Mo Sanmei and Xiaowen was almost imprinted at the moment of meeting. It is a kind of mutual sympathy that can empathize with each other.

Of course, in addition to this, The "father-son bond" between the third sister and her father is also one of the core of the entire film.

video uses "The capable ones look down on them, and those who are incompetent cannot do them." 's funeral industry is the outer cloak, and also briefly discussed the dilemma of "patriarchal suppression" with unique characteristics of the Chinese era.

The root of the conflict between the three sisters and their father in the video is the lack of real communication and understanding.

The son thinks he will always live under the "Second Brother's shadow", The father doesn't care about his feelings, he just wants to catch up with his brother's shadow.

But in my father's heart, it is not the case -

The son's wish to inherit his father's business is naturally important, but what he hopes more is the third sister, this most worrying "not to bother", can really live like a personal life.

Therefore, even though he followed his son to the body that was fuzzy and bloody in the car accident, he did not do it himself as he had agreed, but put one hand on the shoulder of Sanyatou - "You come this time, you can do it."

The old man knew in his heart that only by helping the third sister overcome this hurdle can he truly become a qualified funeralist and truly resonate with this family industry.

Director still gently chose to fulfill his wishes in the film.

So the fainting in the funeral home did not take away the old man's life, just for He wanted him to see the love of the third sister for Xiaowen and see that his son really learned how to live with dignity and dignity.

Only in this way can a father go open and feel at ease.

The father-son relationship with cracks often needs to be repaired by "losing" or "geting".

" Sunshine " chose the former , relying on the brother's leap, in exchange for Awen (father)'s real attention to Ahe (brother);

"Big Events in Life" favors the latter , relying on Xiaowen's "caught trouble" and "make up" to build a bridge of communication for the father and son who have estranged.

And after his father passed away, the third sister took over the "father's flag" in the market, under the "attention" of the old man.

Two car chases, one identity replacement, what remains unchanged is the sincerity and determination of the car chaser.

Love can never be hidden, and so is the bond of family affection-

Because that is the only existence that allows us to achieve "resoluteness" in our lives.

03 Disadvantage

008, Japanese movie " Devourer " was born . While winning the Oscar for the best foreign language film, it also brought the " Death Education " that is easily forgotten by society to the screen.

And we waited for nearly 15 years before finally waiting for , a movie "Big Events in Life" focusing on domestic funeral themes.

Take courage and more time - Use it to take root downwards to restore true truth and respect.

Director Liu Jiangjiang wrote a story based on real life memories. fills the gap in Chinese-style "death education" and heals all those who once (or are) staring at the stars.

But... Just like the titles of the above two paragraphs, they basically contain two meanings, "defection" is no exception.

From the perspective of the video, we can roughly divide "The Great Events in Life" into three parts.

The protagonist of the first part is "Little Nezha" Xiaowen - the little girl used a red tassel gun to accompany the sentence "Give me back my grandmother". almost promoted the development of the plot with her own strength (derived the branch line, refreshing the crisis, and promoting the main line) , with a bright and fascinating rhythm.

After gradually becoming harmonious with Xiaowen, the dominance of the film returns to the protagonist Mo Sanmei. uses the contradiction between father and son to explore the meaning of death while pushing the film to a soft place deep in the hearts.

But the last part of the video is really a bit sorry for the preparation and efforts of the previous article.

Xiaowen's biological mother suddenly appeared, breaking the original script logic, and gradually leading the video to a "collapse" with extremely deliberate plots.

Send Xiaowen away from the nominal adopter's idea, to the replica version of the car chase on the rainy night, and then to the Father's death, fireworks funeral, Xiaowen goes home (You and I know that Xiaowen must go to heaven, but you still have to look at the protagonist group all over the world to search for it) and The ending of reunion...

inadvertently destroyed the realistic sense of urban life created in the first 90 minutes, and the arc light that gradually matured on the third sister.

Although the fireworks are still impressive, and although Xiaowen's crying monologue is still touching, it is still a little deliberate after all, and makes the video look like it ends with a forced ending attitude.

But in the final analysis, in the cinema that has been in the "cold winter period", it is already a thing worthy of happiness and excitement to be able to gain such a warm story in the theater that has been in the "cold winter period".

And the idea of ​​"big events in life" also gives us a little comfort in life in the epidemic environment full of sadness and helplessness.