019 , a mother in her 30s in Guangdong made her mark on a video website. Although the video does not have particularly funny and compassionate content, it is quite interesting. In less than 4 years, she has more than 2 million fans and has received more than 30 million likes!
This is not the most shocking thing. From 2006 to 2019, she actually gave birth to 7 children, , and even was fined millions of social support fees for it. She even said that if she is in good condition, she can have another one. Why did she insist on having so many children? How did you take care of it?
Seven children
This seven-child mother is an internet celebrity Zhang Rongrong . Zhang Rongrong is a veritable post-80s generation. She was born in Jieyang City, Guangdong Province in 1986. She is 36 years old this year, but she is still well maintained, has outstanding temperament and is very beautiful. It was impossible to tell that she was a mother who gave up the most beautiful youth of a woman and gave birth to seven children.
In other words, since she was in her early 20s, she has been getting pregnant, giving birth, taking care of her children, getting pregnant, giving birth... After many births, her figure is still convex and slim, with her skin still whispering and shiny, and her face is rosy and shiny. All of this makes netizens curious about her family background.
Some people say, "She must have married a billionaire, otherwise where can she have money to do maintenance and raise children!"
Some people also say, "She is self-disciplined and self-reliant. She can only have such a good figure if she doesn't miss her postpartum care and fitness."
Some people even say, "She has a natural physique, a rare and easy-to-conceive constitution. This kind of blessing cannot be envied by others."
What is the truth? In fact, Zhang Rongrong got married very early. He just became an adult. The 18-year-old Zhang Rongrong met his current husband. My husband's family is in business and is considered a veritable rich second generation . They met through someone's introduction. During the process of getting along, her husband fell in love with this beautiful girl at first sight, and she also fell in love with her talented husband. The two of them, who were talented and beautiful, quickly entered the marriage hall together.
When they got married, Zhang Rongrong was less than 20 years old. Zhang Rongrong and her husband are both from Guangdong. Guangdong, especially Chaoshan, believe in the traditional concept of having more children and more blessings, and wish they could have many children. Zhang Rongrong felt the pressure from her mother-in-law as soon as she entered the door. Her mother-in-law hoped that she could give birth to a child for her husband as soon as possible. Looking at the daughter-in-law's thin body, the mother-in-law also started to play Xiaogu in her heart. Is such a thin body easy to give birth?
did not worry her mother-in-law for too long, and Zhang Rongrong became pregnant quickly after getting married. After one year of marriage, she gave birth to an eldest daughter; the second year, she gave birth to her first son; the third year, she gave birth to two twin sons, namely the third and fourth year.
I gave birth to four children in three years. The speed of giving birth was faster than riding a rocket. My mother-in-law had already laughed at him. Of course, some people are skeptical about this: are they really born to her? If you give birth so quickly, you can get pregnant with the next one before you recover. Could it be surrogacy ?
These guesses are completely suspicious, and the birth certificate and the hospital information cannot be fake. At that time, my country implemented the strict family planning policy . Public officials and public institutions could only have one child at home, and only children were everywhere. If you live like Zhang Rongrong, you will definitely face a high fine. Unexpectedly, the husband slapped his chest and said, "Birth! We can afford to raise it and we can also pay a fine!"
So these four children made Zhang Rongrong and her husband pay a total of millions of for social support. Seeing this, everyone will definitely be curious about what Zhang Rongrong’s husband does? He is definitely not an ordinary person who can easily afford the parenting expenses and education costs of four children.
In fact, her husband is a top student from a prestigious university, and even has an IQ of up to 140 or above. Zhang Rong once told netizens on the Internet that the reason why he has so many children is that he does not want his husband’s high IQ of 140+, and hopes that he can continue his excellent genes. Moreover, my husband's family has been in business for generations and his family is very rich, so it is more than enough to raise a few children.
77 children were taken care of by nanny since childhood, so she naturally didn’t have to worry about the chores at home. This is also an important reason why she dared to have so many children. 's strong material foundation gave Zhang Rongrong a strong backing.
However, such a life will give those unmarried and unborn girls a illusion of happiness , and will make them feel that the value of a woman is only fertility, and she is not afraid of not being able to raise her when she is born. Therefore, before becoming a mother, she does not think too much rationally, get married and have early, and eventually ends up in a tragic end.
This is also a problem that Zhang Rongrong is worried about. She was afraid that fans would follow her and give birth to too many children regardless of the consequences, which would eventually lead to family life difficulties. So she has publicly expressed in the video many times that if it were not for the strong material foundation, she would never dare to have so many children!
Although the country now has a third child, real problems still plague many couples. The cost of education and living for children is already too high, and housing prices and prices in first-tier cities also make them breathless. If you have to grit your teeth and have a second and third child in this case, it will inevitably compress the quality of life of parents and children. A child who has no cream cakes, remote-controlled aircraft, or Barbie dolls in his childhood, and has not been able to get a good childhood with abundant material resources, has been spending his life in a hurry, which is also very heartbreaking.
Zhang Rongrong, after having four children, wanted to live a life of taking care of his husband and children at home, and to train these four children into talents. He has a lifetime of both children, which is also very happy. But who knew that these children had not grown up yet, and the surprise suddenly came again.
In 2016, Zhang Rongrong found out that he was suddenly pregnant unexpectedly again. This time she also gave up. She already has four children at home. Will she distract herself from having children? What about making the four children feel neglected? At this time, the second son, who was only nine years old, gave his mother a shot of a heart attack. He said sensibly:
"Mom, I want to have another younger brother and sister. If you give birth to your younger brother and sister, we will take him to play and learn from him. Don't worry, you and dad!"
So in 2016, Zhang Rongrong gave birth to the fifth son again, the sixth son in 2018, and the seventh son in 2019. In this way, the seven children came to Zhang Rongrong's world.
netizens questioned , can you help me with this? What if parents’ energy is dispersed by newborns, what if children are ignored in their lives? With so many children, do you still have the energy to cultivate each child into an outstanding talent with physical and mental health? Zhang Rongrong delivered another satisfactory answer.
Educational Concept
In education, she has a unique and advanced educational concept. She believes that the most important thing for a child is to cultivate his independence , and he should do his own things from an early age.
At home, the seven children have become a well-trained small group. The eldest sister is responsible for sharing the responsibilities of her mother and will educate and guide her younger brothers and sisters. The third and fourth brothers will act as helping roles to take care of younger brothers and sisters. Because Lao Qi is too young, he can only play behind his brother and sister's butts.
Old children take care of children, with clear division of labor and orderly. children in the family are very obedient and responsible. For example, when a family goes to a bookstore, the eldest child is usually in charge of the sixth child, the second child is in charge of the fifth child, the third child and the fourth child are in charge of the youngest child, while the mother is only responsible for leading the way and checking out the bill, so there is no need to worry about it.
Similarly, gratitude education for children is also a very important part. Let children know the efforts of their parents and be grateful for their mothers’ hard work. This is what Zhang Rongrong learns the most in daily life. Every time I go home from get off work, there are always a row of children standing in front of Zhang Rongrong, picking her bags, slippers, and finally giving her a kiss. She herself sighed: "I can enjoy the treatment of the Empress Dowager for five minutes every day, and I am willing to be a nanny for the remaining 12 hours!"
There is another point, which makes the child feel that he is loved and valued. The seven children in the family celebrate their birthdays seven times a year, but they are never vague every time. Especially the third and fourth brothers are twins, and they will not only buy one cake on their birthdays, but each cake is one cake each, and there will also be different birthday gifts.
In families with more than one child, the most feared thing is that their parents prefer it. Zhang Rongrong did a very good job in this regard. The palms and backs of hands are flesh, and they cannot be favored or ignored. The love for children must be divided equally, and they must be treated equally with a bowl of water. Whenever the child’s birthday is on, the family will gather together to sing a happy birthday song for the babies who have been born on that day. With such a family atmosphere, every child can feel sufficiently loved and respected, and his body and mind will be nourished.
Finally, communication with children is also the most important part of family education . When the youngest son was in kindergarten, Zhang Rongrong found that the child was always used to staying in bed, and then deliberately delayed, not taking the school bus, and was not in a hurry to go to school. A few times later, she discovered something abnormal about her youngest son. One night, she quietly came to her son's room and asked the child gently: "Why do you want to be late on purpose? Tell me, mom won't blame you."
The youngest son then told her embarrassedly that it was because he felt dizzy when he took the school bus and , , so he didn't want to take the bus or go to school. After hearing this, Zhang Rongrong did not accuse his youngest son, but said to him gently:
"I will drive you to kindergarten every day in the future, okay? If there are similar things in the future, you must tell your mother early that mom is your good friend."
Zhang Rongrong puts himself and his children on an equal position, rather than a high-ranking parent. Only by squatting down and listening to the child’s inner thoughts can you gain more unexpected surprises.
Career and family
Having so many children, is Zhang Rongrong a full-time housewife ? Not. She always firmly believes that the best education is to teach her children by example. So even though she has seven children, the trivial matters at home have made her busy every day, she still insists on her career and manages her business, and never thinks of giving up. After the
video account became popular, she opened her own live broadcast room online and would sell some infant supplies , but the sales of the live broadcast room were deserted. At this time, countless manufacturers smelled the opportunity and started chatting with her privately, hoping to cooperate with her in business to sell goods. But unlike other internet celebrities, Zhang Rongrong refused them one by one.
Some manufacturers kept harassing Zhang Rongrong. She was so annoyed that she directly charged the appearance fee to 100,000 yuan per minute, hoping to use this price to block the manufacturers' mouths. But who would have thought that dozens of manufacturers would continue to contact her, agree to such a price, and especially hope to cooperate with her. She still refused to do this business that could make 10 million .
The eldest daughter was 16 years old at this time. She asked her mother in confusion: "Mom, you are so hard to make money, why don't you accept these advertisements? You can earn 100,000 yuan by shooting a video. Isn't it easy?"
Zhang Rongrong told her daughter righteously: "People cannot make quick money. If you are used to making money in this way, you will not work hard or make more efforts in the future, and you will become lazy."
exchange your own labor for corresponding rewards and make money with the knowledge you have learned. This is the life philosophy that Zhang Rongrong wants to tell his children. Under the influence of her mother, the eldest daughter also studied hard and had excellent academic performance.Her dream is to become a doctor who saves life and helps the wounded, and to make the best medical schools in the country the goal of her college entrance examination.
The role of sister’s role model also inspires her younger brother and sister. It is difficult for the family to not be outstanding in such a benign environment. Many netizens are particularly envious of Zhang Rongrong's life and will tell their troubles in her message area about family, marriage and parenting, and Zhang Rongrong will also answer them one by one. She once comforted a fan who failed a marriage: "I have experienced all the things you said. You have to persevere. When you overcome these hurdles, you will become who I am now."
In modern society, the proportion of women receiving education has far exceeded that of decades ago, and they have also become an existence in this society that can stand half of the sky. Becoming a housewife is a choice, becoming a full-time mother is a choice, but becoming a strong woman and a professional expert is also a choice for women.
Some people will envy Zhang Rongrong for his group of children, wealthy family, and a husband's love for his superior life. Some netizens also think that such a life is putting shackles on themselves. But no matter what, only happiness that can be achieved through independence, confidence, strength, courage, and hard work through one's own hands is true happiness.
Women don’t need to rely on anyone to live happily. They can shine and shine on their own. At any time, don't abandon your career for love and family. Always remember that women can be full of energy on any track, no matter whether they choose marriage or family!
