Children are all the pearls in their parents' hands. They are afraid of falling when holding them in their hands, and they are afraid of melting when holding them in their mouths. Parents all hold beautiful hopes for their children's future, hoping that their children will become dragons and their daughters will become phoenixes.
However, how can education enable children to grow up healthily and healthily and become useful talents in society?
Less spoiled, more heartless.
. The sooner you educate your children, the better. The child will thank you in the future.
Everything for the child, everything for the child.
Every parent who spoils his child has to pay the price
Now most parents do not do it properly and take on everything for their children.
Help the child wash his face, squeeze toothpaste for the child, serve rice for the child, carry his schoolbag, and even help the child do his homework.
In this way, the child becomes ornamental fish in the fish tank and becomes flowers in the greenhouse.
It is obvious that when a child grows up, he cannot pick up his shoulders and holds his hands, and he will collapse when he encounters a little difficulty. Children raised in this way have no responsibility and no future after all.
The saddest thing for parents is that they have to withstand everything for their children, but they lack the ability to deal with society.
Spoiled son is like killing a child. You can't bear to let your child suffer. In the future, he will suffer, and the people around him will also suffer.
Parents love their children, and they will make a lot of plans for them
There are no parents who don’t love their children in the day, but love should pay attention to specific methods.
Parents accompany their children to grow up, but they find it difficult to accompany their children to aging.
Parents should not only see in front of their eyes, but also plan for their children's long-term future.
Don’t spoil your child, as it will make the child lose the ability and courage to soar.
On the road of life, everyone must learn to be free and let go of their hands, and children must learn to support themselves.
2. If you love your child, you need to be tempered by labor
Yang Jiang 's father said: Educating children to be independent is better than being the first.
Educate children to start with small things and daily housework.
Some parents are reluctant to let their children do any housework, afraid of being tired, and say, "As long as you study hard, you don't want you to do anything, I will give you whatever you want, and I will pick all the stars in the sky for you."
In this way, children will lose their ability to control themselves and only know how to rely on their parents. They even think that it is natural for parents to do anything for them and have no gratitude.
The more you are reluctant to bear the hardships of your children, the less likely the child will be.
Let children do housework by themselves and train more is the biggest responsibility for their children.
3, educate children to withstand the test of failure and setbacks.
People will inevitably have ups and downs in their lives. As the saying goes, "If there is an up ridge, there is a down ridge." It is impossible for a person to be smooth sailing. When everything goes smoothly, there is no need to be arrogant, pride and complacent. When it is painful and down, there is no need to be self-satisfied.
Ups and downs are the norm in life, setbacks are only temporary,
Wait until the dark willows and bright flowers are bright again, and the rising sun is the rising sun.
Frustration is a test for children. Children can’t even bear the frustration. How can they successfully complete their life?
There are some wind and rain, and the children must bear it, and there are some difficulties and difficulties, and the children must experience it personally.
But parents should know that it is not that the children will bear the burden when they encounter strong winds and rains, but that they can be tempered through trivialities of life, and only when the storm comes can they be determined.
4. If you love your child, you need to make him stand the pain of "ten years of hard work"
Remember that for ordinary people, studying is still the most effective way to change your life.
Reading can change a person's value, change a person's status, change a person's vision, and change a person's connections...
In this world, there is no road in life that is shortcut, but reading is the path that is really easier.
Therefore, when children encounter difficulties in studying and want to give up, parents must make up their minds and educate their children not to give up halfway.
Only when you endure the hardships can you become the best.
One day children will understand that the hardships they suffer from today’s study will be paved into a broader golden avenue in the future, making their future lives better!
5, educate children, so that they can accept criticism and doubts
Everyone will make mistakes, and so will children.
Children always make trouble and make mistakes before the values of right and wrong have fully emerged.
Children make mistakes and must criticize them in a timely manner. The key is to let the child know what to do in the future, rather than seeing that the child is still young, ignoring the child's mistakes again and again, and even allowing the child to let the child go, he is not willing to blame him, nor does he let the teacher criticize the child. This will only allow the child to repetitively repeat the previous incorrectness without restraint, and feel resentful.
In fact, in the process of children's growth, there must be both a sun of praise and a sun of questioning cold dew .
accusation can help children wake up their brains, maintain appropriate steps, step by step, and move forward with confidence.
Educating children requires them to bear the pain of questioning, don’t worry about accusations, learn to face reality, so that they can go more steadily and long-term on the road of growth.
6. If you love your child, you need to make him stand the hardship of upbringing
In today's society is developing, no parent does not want his child to be outstanding.
However, some parents forget that education is essentially teaching and educating people.
A person’s upbringing is better than anything else. Upbringing is the most basic yardstick to measure whether a child is successful.
A seedling that does not have a good foundation for cultivation will never grow into a towering tree no matter what.
Therefore, in the process of educating children, we must remember to let the children be a well-educated person at all times.
It is necessary to educate children about what can be done and what cannot be done.
Educate children to learn to respect, be grateful, and learn to be civilized and polite.
has management, teaching and punishment, which is to give children simple happiness
Hu Ke said: There are as many parents as there are in the world, there are no duplications.
And every home is different. Parents should think from the perspective of their children, rather than being selfish parents. Because I often overlove it is selfish love. This kind of love is more terrible than hate.
There is no greenhouse outside the school. It will encounter heavy rainstorms at any time. You can spoil your children, but the social reality will not indulge your children.
Not only that waiting for the child to be beaten by society in the future, it is not as good as educating children when they are young.
The parents who are far-sighted are all a little ruthless!
The more ruthless the parents are, the better the children are!
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