A female fan who was about to be 34 years old left me a message saying that she was very anxious and could she write something for girls of this age.
satisfy her.
About last year, 40-year-old Jolin Tsai became a hot search.
Everyone says that they are not confused forty years. Jolin Tsai, who has lived for 40 years, does not agree with this. Jolin Tsai, who has been fighting to the forties, has always wanted to protect her dignity as a singer.
said at the Ugly Beauty Kaohsiung concert: 40 is a great age. If you are not 40 years old yet, I will tell you that 40 years old really feels damn good!
It's really like she sang in "Dance Girl", the hourglass of time was trampled by me.
How afraid are women to grow old?
A girl told me that when she first found a fine line in the corner of her eyes, she felt "five thunderstorm" and immediately ran to Taobao to place an order of thousands of anti-aging skin care products, and used three times the amount of eye cream in a day.
There is also a girl who insisted that she was only 27 years old until the day before her 28th birthday, and never mentioned celebrating her birthday after she was 28th. "I would rather have no gifts and blessings than be reminded of her age by others."
"Age Anxiety" is like a shaking sword, shining with a cold light, hanging above every woman's head.
Skin Care Products Advertisement tells us that after 25 years old, your collagen will be eaten a little by little at the age of age, the skin will sag, the dry lines at the corners of your eyes will increase, and the dark circles that stay up late can't be repaired even after sleeping for a few nights. The proud hairline is retreating step by step.
If you want to keep your girlish feel, you have to buy expensive facial masks, anti-aging eye creams, beauty device , medical beauty , give the face an injection, and the age is in the best skin state.
30 years old is like a hurdle. You can still let go of young people who dream, and then put away those unrealistic dreams, honestly compromise with life, and immediately arrange them when getting married and having children, otherwise the whip of society will hit you so hard that you don’t even know yourself.
People in the world always praise tolerance and let go of past grudges, but they always ignore it. Some malicious intentions are actually hard to forget. If you only see a small needle hole, your body will automatically pop up with memories of "pain".
And we ordinary girls suffer from ubiquitous age anxiety, stress and invisible malice when there are too many things.
htmlAt the age of 120, you can be free and easy, but when the alarm bell of 30 years old sounds, the capital to "let yourself fly" is instantly taken back.
In the midst of a mess, in addition to secretly collapse and a sigh, do you still have the courage to clean up your embarrassing self, break through yourself, and ride the wind and waves?
In the era of "girls", from celebrities to civilians, every woman has fallen into deep anxiety, dare not grow old, dare not lose, and dare not be fat.
On Zhihu , someone once asked: "What are middle-aged women thinking?"
In an answer, a female user summarized her middle age in this way: "Body pain, inner anxiety, body involuntary, and increasingly desperate."
1983, actress Pan Hong played Lu Wenting in the movie " person to middle-aged " and was a great success.30 years later, she once looked back at this role: "If I retreat and play a Lu Wenting-like character, it would not be possible to cause the sensational effect like "People to Middle Age" back then - now people are becoming more and more self-oriented, and their aesthetic concepts are becoming more and more personalized...
I think any middle-aged woman must regard herself as the most confident woman, so that is it. To live well every day and be the best self, we have no reason to give up ourselves. If we give up ourselves, then we are in a sense in line with the traditional aesthetic, but we have definitely destroyed the pursuit of modern people."
"I found
A number that is endless to death
The number full of death"
This poem is called "Female Age", published in "Poetry Magazine " No. 12, 1987, and its author is the female poet Yilei . Since then, Yi Lei also used "Female Age" as the title of her poetry collection, reflecting on the age anxiety brought about by male scrutiny in her era.
Now more than thirty years have passed, and the "no return" represented by age has not disappeared.
Actor Yongmei talked about his wrinkles at the Golden Rooster Awards forum last year and made some touching and inspiring remarks:
"I looked at my shining face, and I discussed with them (staff) whether my picture can be fixed as much as possible. If I have to repair it, can I not smooth my wrinkles, it was something I finally grew out.
I I would like to give this example that when the little girl was worried about getting older, I had already reconciled with my wrinkles. Now I will not only not feel nervous or sorry for my wrinkles, but I feel a little proud.
Age is not my enemy, my story is written on my face, and this face is a tribute to time and reality. "
The British drama " London Life " also gives us a new perspective on aging.
" Menopause " in a large number of women's eyes means aging, loss of vitality and passion, and even the disappearance of female characteristics, which means "I am no longer a woman."
But in "Life in London", menopause is described as follows: "Menophobia is the luckiest thing in the world. Although the pelvis will collapse, although it will often heat up, and even though it is dressed very delicately, no one will tease you, but you are free, no longer a slave, no longer a fertility machine. (Menophobia) is terrible, but it is also beautiful and worth looking forward to."
1 Years ask for appearance and youth, but you have gained something. True nature, courage and fearlessness, persistence and firmness... There is always something that time tells you.
There are always some things that can only be harvested at this age.
Just as the narrator of the variety show "Sisters Riding the Wind and Waves" said: "After the age of thirty, there are fewer and fewer witnesses in life, but you can still witness yourself; after the age of thirty, all possibilities continue to fade, but you can still pass through time and yourself."
The poet Ye Zhi wrote in "When You Are Old":
How many people love you the time of youth and joy, love your beauty, false or sincere. There is only one person who loves your pilgrim's soul, and the wrinkles on your aging face.
May every woman be proud of herself in the mirror and shake hands with age and time; may everyone be able to applaud women of different ages, and appreciate the beauty that is unmodified but powerfully thrust through the paper through their eyes.
I wish you, no matter you are 20 years old, 30 years old, 40 years old, 50 years old... you can say "feel damn good" from the bottom of your heart~
