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During this period, I took a break from my busy schedule and chased a Korean drama called " Sky City ".
This drama started airing at the end of November 2018, with a viewership rate soaring from 1.7% to 11.3%. The foreign network actually scored a high score of 9.4 , and its Douban score was as high as 8.9. I have reached Episode 16, and I can take a picture of my chest and say that every episode is very good and the plot is very powerful.
What does this drama tell about?
Sky City is a high-end community in Seoul, with house prices of billions of won. The people living here are all elites from all over the world. The man is basically the prosecutor general, professor or senior doctor, while the woman has a consortium daughter, a daughter of a member of parliament, etc.
What they have in common is that they all attach great importance to children's education. The core goal of the family is to allow children to be admitted to the best universities in South Korea, successfully inherit the profession of their parents, and continue the glory of their family.
For this, they tried every way.
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In order to give children the best educational companionship, the mothers in the play, whether they are the daughters of members of Congress or holding a doctorate, have become full-time mothers without exception, to protect their children's education.
Han Shuzhen in the play, her eldest daughter studied in the best high school in Korea with the first place in the school. In order to ensure that her daughter can be admitted to Seoul Medical University, she did her best to help her daughter create the best educational environment.
For this reason, she knelt down with her mother-in-law who always looked down on her, begging for billions of wons to hire a college entrance examination coordinator for her children.
This coordination specialist comprehensively evaluates the child's learning, life and psychological state, and creates a detailed learning plan for the child.
is detailed:
arranges a study room that completely simulates the examination room, and controls the temperature of the study room to 20~23 degrees.
Study subjects for different subjects and use desk lamps of different brightness.
The hanging paintings at home should be replaced with Mundrian , because his paintings can help children improve their attention.
…
Of course, these are all small meanings.
This coordinator can invite teachers from various subjects to the college entrance examination for children to provide special tutoring for children based on their learning situation.
Before the formal exam, these teachers will also ask these teachers to give special questions and bets for the children to do.
ensures that the child makes zero mistakes in the exam.
Because the coordination specialist can ensure that the child is admitted to the ideal university, even if the coordination specialist has many doubts and even carries a murder, Han Shuzhen did not hesitate to ask her to protect her child.
and tried his best to get Professor Che's family, who was unable to invite the coordinator. His father is the former attorney general and his mother is the doctor. They chose to teach their children themselves.
In order to allow children to calm down and study, Professor Che specially created a soundproofing room as a study room.
Every time the child is asked to do the test, the child is required to complete it accurately in seconds. If it fails, it will be severely punished.
In order to strengthen the child's expression ability, Professor Che also launched an activity of the Sky City Book Club to regularly exchange reading thoughts. The books they read for their children are "The Spirit of the Law", "The Selfish Genetic Factor", "Saying Zarathust"...
children from the elite class who study in a famous high school in Korea and receive the best quality education.
But except for class, they spend all their spare time in cram school. Even weekends and holidays are no exception. From 9 a.m. to 10 p.m., except for half an hour of meal time, we keep doing questions for the rest of the time.
In addition to doing questions, in order to make their resumes full and beautiful, they also need to actively participate in social internships and charity activities.Hospitals, nursing homes, and nursing homes should actively participate in activities, and we should also strive to run for president in schools, win the favor of students and teachers, and add points to our leadership talents.
has achieved the ultimate in all aspects, but their parents are still tightly swaying, fearing that they have not thought carefully about it and have not maximized their children's learning achievements.
In the past, we always felt that forcing children to study hard was something ordinary people did. The child born with a golden spoon in his mouth has already stood directly at the finish line and does not have to suffer from education at all.
is not.
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This drama tells us that the more elite the class, the higher the society, the more we like children's grades and pay more attention to children's education.
Because only when the child is admitted to the best university, study the best major, and receive the best education, can the child himself and the family behind the child maintain the existing class and continue to work hard to squeeze into a higher level.
If there is a problem with the child's education, it will be the overturn of the entire family.
However, the best universities and the best majors are only open to a very small number of students, so in order to get tickets, they can only fight openly and secretly.
I recommended this drama to a few good friends.
Friends who don’t have children say, “It’s too exaggerated, as for it?”
Those who have children, especially those like me who have already been in elementary school or junior high school, say, “This drama is too realistic.”
Is the educational competition here exaggerated? Cruel? Is it bloody?
No, this is reality, a living reality, a bloody reality.
The only thing that is not realistic about this drama is that it has a coordinator. If our country also has such a coordinator, it can ensure that the child can be admitted to Tsinghua University and Peking University or top 10% of the time. To be honest, even if I sell the pot and eat the bad food, I have to raise money to invite him.
When I watch this drama, I can especially understand the anxiety of mothers in the TV drama, and also understand the choices they make for their children's learning, because their lives are no different from our lives.
isn't it?
We also force our children to do their homework every day to force our heart attacks. We also save money every day to send our children to high-priced cram schools. What we discuss every day is how to improve children's grades. I heard that whose child has good academic performance, we hurried up and hoped to make friends with her.
Don’t laugh at the mothers in the play, because we also think of all the ways we can think of and all the ways we can take for the sake of our children’s education.
When I write Maotanchang , I often hear this question:
"This is not a school, it is clearly a prison. What are the parents who send their children to these schools thinking? Isn't it good to make their children happy?"
Indeed, many people think that the teaching model of Hengshui Middle School or Maotanchang is too harsh, and even inhumane enough. But for parents who have middle school students and college entrance examination candidates at home, these are life-saving straws.
can not only save adult life, but more importantly, it can also save children's lives.
Who can make the current children have the only way out to "study hard". Moreover, this way out is particularly narrow and particularly crowded. If you don’t try your best, there is no way out.
There is an episode in the TV series where Han Shuzhen's second daughter is under a lot of pressure to study and relies on stealing things in a convenience store to relieve stress. Han Shuzhen knew about this and went to the convenience store in advance to pay so that she could steal it at will.
Later, after the incident was exposed, the child said, "Mom, why did you force me to learn?" Han Shuzhen hugged her and said word by word: "Because the future is more important than the present."
Kids don't understand, but adults understand.
Tiger Mom Cai Meier said something to her daughters,
"My goal is to be a mother who considers your future, not to please you."
Yes, as a parent, you are not afraid of your children hating yourself, but you are afraid that your children will suffer in the future.
A good friend of mine, her son takes the middle school entrance exam next year, because the goal is Renmin University High School, and both the children and mothers are under tremendous pressure.
The child is a sensible child who needs to learn by himself and goes to Huangzhuang, Haidian every day to attend cram school. You may not know that cram school is also divided into grades, ordinary classes, intensive classes, and master classes. Go in and take the exam first, and then according to the performance and exams in class, It will continue to adjust.
The child is in the intensive class, and the mother also follows the class every time. When the two of them return home, they will continue to do the questions to check for omissions and fill in the gaps.
Because in the cram school group, the rise and fall of the children will be clearly announced. You will see that even if you are trying your best to chase them, you are still left behind by many people far behind. You will realize that the gap between people is so big.
Both of them are under great pressure. A friend said, "Once after class, I went home, the child asked, mom, when will this day come to an end? We cried on Line 10, and we cried for a while and encouraged each other. I often wonder, God, my child is so sensible, can he not torture him, and can I let me suffer for the child. "
This is reality.
While we force our children to move forward, we are also crying.
Because we know that will only have a sweet future if it is bitter now. If you can't endure the bitter now, you will not even have the future.
Reality is so cruel. Whether in China, South Korea, Japan, the United States, or Europe, the upward channel has become narrower and narrower, while the downward channel is open Big door.
Even the rich people living in a mansion of thousands of square meters, they are always alert and force their children to climb up, fearing that they will fall into the abyss if they are not careful.
The little prince George of England is only 5 years old. In addition to studying science, history, geography, mathematics, English, sports, and French, they also have to study religion, computers, ballet and drama.
Gambling King Stanley Ho's son, born with a golden spoon in his mouth, has billions of assets. He has been a top student since he was a child. He won two championships in the Hong Kong math competition.
18, because of his outstanding grades, he was admitted to MIT and Oxford at the same time.
Let’s experience the daily life of the super luxury version of the rich second generation: posting the transcript.
people who are richer than you work harder than you.
let alone ordinary people, we don’t work harder than you.
let alone ordinary people, we don’t work harder than you. , then there is no chance to breathe.
When there is only one road leading to Rome, we can only run forward desperately, not hesitate, not wander, and not look back.
Education is so cruel. You can only work very hard and effortless in the future.
This article is authorized to be published, author Mi Lima, a returnee from the United States and a former top 500 executive, focusing on scientific parenting, parent-child reading, and shopping recommendations. 3-10-year-old mothers, please follow Mi Lima Channel (ID: MilimaPinDao), mothers aged 0-3, please follow Milima Love Sharing (ID: milima666). welcomes friends circle, no reprints without permission, INSIGHT Vision sincerely recommends
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