This is the 805th real person we tell
My name is Li Jiawei
(this is me, from Taiwan Province)
October 1978, I was born in Taipei. My ancestral home is Changde, Hunan. My grandfather was a policeman. He came to Taiwan with the National Government of .
Both parents are businessmen. I have one sister and three sisters. I am the second child at home. Because my parents were very busy with work and had no time to take care of us, I was fostered at my godmother's house as soon as I was born.
Godmother and my mother are very good friends, very kind, and have taken care of me as their biological daughter for two years. Later, my three sisters and I were sent to my grandma's house together, and we were brought up by my grandma. So, in my heart, only grandma and grandpa are my relatives.
Grandpa is an older generation mainlander, and his educational ideas are very traditional. He did not neglect the discipline of me just because he was a girl. Among the sisters, my grandfather and grandma love me the most.
I remember when I was very young, apples were very expensive fruits in Taiwan. Every time I get sick and can’t eat, my grandfather would spend a lot of money to buy two apples back. While peeling the apple, I coaxed me and said, "My little girl, after eating the apple, I will get cured!"
(grandma and my daughter)
grandma has two cousins at home, and she always likes to bully me. They often say to me, "You are not our family, why should you live here?" After hearing this, they will teach them a lesson.
Once, my cousin bullied me again and said that I was not from this family and asked me to get back. In a fit of anger, I took a bag to put my clothes on, cried and ran to my grandma and said, "I'm going to run away from home."
Grandma held me in her arms, comforted me, and called my uncle and aunt home, scolded them hard, and told them that if I bully me again, they would not be allowed to step into the house again.
As a result, my aunt was unwilling to do so and scolded her grandmother, saying that she would not love her grandson and other people's children. I looked at my grandma crying in grievance, and felt very distressed. Fortunately, my uncle stood up and scolded my cousin and asked him to apologize to me. From then on, the family was peaceful.
In normal times, my grandfather missed the motherland very much and often told me about my hometown, so I have different feelings for the mainland since I was a child.
(father and me)
Grandpa also often says that there are brothers and sisters waiting for him in his hometown. But the policy of visiting relatives was not open at that time. My grandfather told me that one day, he would take me back to my motherland and tell his brothers and sisters that I am his precious granddaughter.
When I was in school, my parents wanted to pick me up Taichung . At that time, I was very unfamiliar with them and was very scared. I hid behind my grandma and didn't want to call her father or mother.
Although I cried for a long time, I was still taken back to Taichung by my biological parents. When I first returned to my parents, I was very brave and didn’t speak, and I always hid in the corner alone.
My father loves me very much and has always taken care of me carefully. But my mother doesn't like children very much, and she is very career-oriented, is very cold to me, and has almost no affectionate interaction with me.
I remember when I was in elementary school, my classmates had colored brushes, but I didn’t have them. I hesitated for a long time, and went home and said to my mother timidly, "I want a box of color pens, too." But my mother said to me coldly, "I don't need to buy it myself. If you want to use it, just borrow it from my classmates."
(My two daughters and me)
Since then, I never dared to ask my parents for things again. My classmates have it, but I don’t have it, which makes me feel particularly inferior.
Although living with their parents, they rarely see them. I got up in the morning, but my parents had not come back from work; I got off get out of class in the evening, and they were about to go out as soon as they got up. They just put the money on the table and let me buy food myself. After I usually finish my homework, I just stand at the window, watching the children outside playing, and dare not go out.
Whenever I think of my childhood, other children say they are colorful and happy, but my childhood has no sign of happiness.
About two years later, my parents left us sisters in Taiwan and went to Japan to do business.They send us living expenses every month, and we three sisters depend on each other for our lives. And it took me more than three years to go there, and they didn’t return to Taiwan until I was in junior high school.
Perhaps it is because of the family environment that I have been very independent since I was a child.
(Patriotic)
As I grew up slowly, I entered a rebellious period of youth and often had disputes with my mother. As soon as there was a dispute, I ran away from home and went back to Yilan, Taiwan to find my grandma. But in less than a day, my mother was caught back and severely scolded.
At that time, I hated my mother very much and often told myself: "A day sooner or later, I must escape from my mother!"
In my heart, only grandma is the closest person. As long as the school holiday is on, I am very happy and packed up my things a few days in advance. After the holiday, I didn't look back and took the 5-hour car to go back to find my grandma. But at the beginning of school, I often cry for a few days. This pain of separation has made me feel insecure since I was a child.
At that time, I was in a state of pain and struggle, and only one belief supported me: I would grow up quickly, leave home when I grow up, and stay with my grandma until I die.
(Mr. and Me)
At that time, almost no one paid attention to my study. In elementary school, my grades are average, not good or bad. When I arrived in junior high school, I was very rebellious. I ate, drank and had fun with a few classmates all day, and my grades were very average. But I like history and Chinese studies. The grades in these two subjects are particularly good and they are excellent every time.
When I was in high school, I was in business management, and I worked in my mother's company while going to school. The entire company is the lowest education level and I often get cold words from my colleagues. They said I was an airborne force and had no ability and could only enter the company based on my mother's relationship.
I couldn't accept these words, so I told my mother that I didn't want to stay in the company. As a result, it was my mother's slap and said I was ungrateful.
I held back the pain and tears and remained silent. Because I know that my mother has never cared about me since she was a child, so she naturally doesn’t agree with my ideas. Although I felt wronged, I could only resist silently. After that, my thoughts on leaving home became even stronger.
(I am in Hangzhou)
My mother only wants me to find a good family to marry, and she thinks it doesn’t matter if she studies less. When I was 17 years old, I had not completed my studies in high school and then I took a break. Immediately, I began to switch to the workplace and told myself: If I want to not rely on my parents, I must be strong.
I simply prepared a resume and went to the job fair to find a job. With my major in business operations in high school, I successfully applied for an amusement park and worked as an accountant. My salary was NT$4 . At that time, this was considered a high income.
's work content is very simple, it is to make daily revenue into reports. But day after day, repeating the same content, and the salary remains unchanged, which makes me feel very boring. I'm getting less and less excited about this kind of life.
Later, I quit and changed several jobs intermittently. Because I am too young and playful, I can't do every job for a long time.
18, I met my husband at a friend's party. He is from Changhua, Taiwan and is 7 years older than me. He was only 25 years old at that time, and he was very good at making money. He was a very famous person in society.
(My colleague and I)
When I met him, I suddenly felt attracted in my heart. Although I only talked for a few words, he left a good impression on me. This may be love at first sight.
Telecommunications was underdeveloped at that time, and we did not leave any contact information, so we could only contact us occasionally through mutual friends. But I was also afraid of dating boys, so I acted very shy.
My friend told me that the gentleman is a good boy, he is very kind and has a successful career, so I will further date him.
At that time, I was still an accountant in the amusement park. He often took me off work and took me home. After spending some time together, I found that he was very careful. Once, I felt uncomfortable and had a fever of almost 40 degrees in the middle of the night. After he learned about it, he drove to home for 20 minutes, carried me and went straight to the hospital.
After the injection in the hospital, he returned home. He heard my stomach growling and he didn't even have to drink water. He drove to buy me food, and then took care of me for eating, drinking water, and sleeping. I thought: I can’t miss this man!
(my eldest daughter)
But my mother opposed our relationship, and she valued the best match. Because of the special identity of the teacher and a gang background, our family has always been a very simple businessman. Therefore, the mother tried her best to stop it.
My mother hopes that I will marry an ordinary family and live a peaceful life. But I think that as long as a man really loves me and loves me, no matter what his family is, even if he picks up rags, I will make up for it.
My husband is kind and filial. Such a person will definitely not be bad. Although his life circle is a bit complicated, he values friendship and is chivalrous towards his brothers and friends, which makes me admire him very much.
So, despite my mother's objection, I decided to be with him without hesitation. At that time, my mother said harshly: If I insist on being with my husband, she will cut off the relationship between mother and daughter with me. The gentleman didn't want to make me embarrassed, so he knelt in front of his mother and swore that he would be nice to me all his life.
But my mother was so heartless that she didn't agree. After a stalemate for a while, my husband said to my mother, "If you are not satisfied with your child and don't want to see her, then I will take her away!"
(I am in my heart for the motherland)
Mother said to my husband without any hesitation, "Take it away if you want to take it away! Never come back!" So, I followed my husband to Changhua, Taiwan with empty hands. From then on, I started my new life.
I finally left, the home I have always wanted to escape!
My first 10 years with my husband, and my life was not easy. At the beginning, we made a living by collecting accounts and other livelihoods and lived a worried life. At first I was very scared and didn't dare to sleep at night, but over time, I gradually got used to it.
My husband has always been very good to me. No matter how difficult life is, he never lets me suffer any grievances.
My husband works hard and strives for the world with his own hands. Later, we met many noble people to help.
Among them, a big old man appreciated my husband very much. With his help, we opened a hall and the husband became the hall master. Our days are getting better.
(I am souveniring in the mangroves)
In 2003, I gave birth to my first daughter for my husband. At that time, my husband had a high reputation and status in society, but he still took care of meticulously and always left the best to me and my children.
Even though there are many temptations outside, he still sticks to his original promise to me and never leaves me. In the next few years, we had two more adorable daughters. A family of five lives happily.
After becoming a mother, I gradually realized that maternal love is a family affection that can never be given up in the world. My mother also saw the happy life of me and my husband, and gradually understood us.
After I gave birth to my child, my mother sincerely apologized to us, saying that she was wrong and regretted the obstruction of us. Now that she sees that I am living a good life, she feels relieved and sincerely wishes us. My relationship with my mother finally reconciled.
We often go back to visit our parents. The gentleman took the initiative to help and handle all the big and small things at home very well. Later, my father had and had an advanced stage of cancer and needed someone to shit and pee. My husband was afraid that I would work too hard, so he took care of my father himself.
(My second daughter and me)
Although I have been a couple for many years, I am still very moved. I once asked myself, if one day the husband's father was lying on the hospital bed, I might not be able to do this like him.
In 2014, my mother was diagnosed with stage 3 lung cancer. My husband took her mother to seek medical treatment everywhere, but the results were all disappointing. The gentleman chose again to take care of my mother with me and take the initiative to help manage her company.
But this incident caused dissatisfaction among my mother and sisters, who wanted to drive my husband away, for fear that he would take away the company.My husband did not complain, swallowed all his grievances and did not care about it.
At this time, my husband was imprisoned for some things and could no longer help my mother take care of the company. After that, even my sisters couldn't afford to take care of the matter, so they discussed closing the company.
A year later, the husband came back, and my mother was about to be critically ill at this time. Before my mother died, she repeatedly asked her husband to take good care of us sisters. The gentleman agreed with tears in his eyes and said that he would take good care of my sisters.
(My husband looks young)
The eldest sister's car broke down. Without saying a word, he bought a new car for her. The third sister got divorced, so the husband took the initiative to take the third sister home. As long as the sisters have difficulties in their lives, the husband will support them unconditionally.
People often say that God is fair. It will open another window for you while closing one door.
I am very grateful to God for his favor. Although I have lost the love of my parents since I was a child, I have gained my husband. Along the way, my husband and I have gone through many ups and downs together, which made me realize that I did not choose the wrong person at the beginning.
In the early years, my husband took me to read a lot of Marx's works. I also learned from the news and the Internet that the development of the mainland is getting better and better. Although we have always lived in Taiwan, we care about the mainland, our hearts for the motherland, and hope for reunification.
Live in the depths of Taiwan. We personally feel the current turbulent environment in Taiwan, and the inaction of the authorities. Our desire for the motherland to be reunited as soon as possible is getting stronger and stronger.
(Mr. and Me)
In order to achieve cross-strait reunification as soon as possible and let the people live a good life, we actively participate in cross-strait exchange activities. Before the epidemic, my colleagues and I went to the mainland to communicate with the business community, hoping to use the influence of businessmen to promote unification.
In 2005, I set foot on the land of my motherland for the first time, and that sense of intimacy made me cry. I came to Beijing for the first time and stood on , Tiananmen Square, , looking at the bright five-star red flag, like a child returning home, very excited. I finally helped my grandfather fulfill his last wish and found his roots.
I like the mainland very much and have traveled all over the country. Among them, I have the most profound impression of Xi'an. There is a long history and a strong cultural atmosphere, which is the root of our national culture. I am deeply impressed and sincerely proud.
(participate in the commemorative event of celebrating the return of Hong Kong)
I know that if you want to promote the reunification of the motherland, it is far from enough to rely on your own strength alone. So, I often organize activities, give speeches, and promote good policies. At the same time, I also learned that countless compatriots are silently supporting Taiwan’s return in their own ways and are looking forward to the exciting moment.
Every year on National Day, my colleagues and I will spontaneously walk on the streets to celebrate the birthday of our motherland and denounce those maliciously separatist Taiwan independence elements.
Nowadays, the rapid development of the motherland has given us enough courage. Our space station has reached the forefront of the world, our army is full of momentum, and our planes and cannons are enough to defend our national integrity and unity.
(I love China)
Chinese children should be like this, and the mountains and rivers will surely reflect the green red. We are both of the Yanhuang bloodline, we want to go home! I believe more firmly: the day when the motherland is reunified is not far away!
[Oral: Li Jiawei]
[Editor: Ning Xiaoya]
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