When the child was 2 years old, his sense of autonomy was the strongest. Everyone at home arranged the work clearly. Grandma cooked, mother fed me, grandpa took me to play, and began to fall in love with "Peppa Pig" crazy. Every time she watched TV, she would enter a state of obsession.
At the beginning, we all told her that we must be far away. After watching an episode, we have to play with toys. At the beginning, the child agreed well, but when he really wanted to abide by the rules, a big drama must be staged at home.
She cried heartbrokenly, and my head hurted when I heard it. The child’s father said beside me, don’t be angry, don’t be angry, she definitely didn’t do it on purpose, she just felt that she hadn’t watched enough, how could she stop watching “Peppa Pig”?
After reading British hot mom An Xiao's "Aspect the Nature of Children", I was filled with joy. The book is the guide to raising young children that I have been looking for. few authors can write the details of raising children to readers like An Xiao, analyze the essence from the phenomenon, and allows mothers to raise our children more accurately from a scientific perspective.
The child cries constantly? Maybe she wanted to control herself
One night, Ms. Xiao Chen took a shower and took a picture book time together. At around 9 o'clock, Xiao Ai played her favorite "Good Night, Little Chicken Ball". Usually, she would slowly fall asleep when she listened to this audio, but this time, she just refused to sleep, and she was obviously sleepy.
If you don’t sleep, don’t sleep. I turned on the night light and let her play in the room. Suddenly, she started crying loudly, and she and I must go outside to find the little chicken ball and the moon.
I hugged her to the balcony to watch the moon. I thought she would be fine after crying, but who knew, but she cried louder and louder, as if she was suffering a huge grievance. She even threw the bottle at her. I could only hold her and pace back and forth in the room, corridor, and balcony.
Slowly, she closed her eyes. As soon as I sat down, she started howling again. I asked Ms. Xiao Chen, , can we sleep? Ms. Xiao Chen looked at me and shook her head and nodded, then said, Mom, I'm sleepy.
Is she too sleepy and unable to insomnia, or is she so persistent because she wants to be with me? I don’t want to know anymore. But I always remember that I moved her back until 5 a.m., and then the two of them were hugging each other and fell on the sofa. My husband said that the two people hugged each other in looked really good.
In the book "According to the Nature of Children", the author also encountered a sudden outrage in his daughter. The little girl who was about to fall asleep suddenly got up and told her mother, "I don't want to be a girl." The mother looked at her daughter crying and making a fuss, and then fell asleep with a biscuit." After combing, the daughter cried loudly because her hair swept to her face, which made her itchy and unable to sleep. After she found that she cried loudly, she tried her best to control her emotions.
Our children are so young that they want to control their temper, but how many people can recognize this? If we give our children a little more patience, will our children not be so noisy?
Respect the child's personality traits
Ms. Xiao Chen is a lively little girl. When she took her out to play when she was a child, she would greet her neighbors around her. She even had her own friends in a few months, but there were many other children around her that were very quiet. Other mothers would enviously say that your child is so good.
But are introverted children really that bad? An Xiao uses his youngest daughter as the model and tells readers what we need to do when we really meet introverted children?
First, accept the fact that children are introverted, after all, this is very likely to be the influence of your genes.
Many adults cannot accept that their children's introverted personality comes from their genes, because they always feel that they are optimistic and cheerful. How can they be introverted? But when they calm down, they will definitely find that their children's personalities must be very similar to their childhood. Parents are now becoming so talkative, but because in order to adapt to society, we have become less like us.
Second, don’t label your child easily
There is a friend’s child who is very brave and is afraid when he sees people. His friend always angers him and does not confront him and misfortune his misfortune: You said you are so introverted, and you are afraid to say hello to others. Every time you go out to play, you hide behind your parents. Can’t you walk out openly?
He thought that if you say a few more words, your child would become more generous, but this kind of tag will make the child fall into his own world and unable to extricate himself.
Raising children is a very long road. I hope we can calm down and enjoy the fun of raising children. It is not easy for us to be a family.
